Has Harry Completely Lost his mind?

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Anonymous wrote:He sounds like someone who is married to a narcissist. Ask me how i Know.

He is an adult. Try not to always blame the women.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m team Harry. The royal family is insufferable. Good for Harry and Megan for taking a bad situation and finding some good. It’s about time the truth is being revealed.

I often come back to this fact:

Before marrying into the royal family, Megan was a successful actress who did tons of charity work in her spare time (like for years and years, it was not something she started doing to attract Harry, it's a genuine passion), she'd started a side business, she had lots of friends. Like if you look at her pre-Harry life, it looks pretty darn functional. Yes, she got married and divorced. But she didn't have kids and that divorce was pretty low drama. She had family strife (I can relate to that) but she seemed to be handling it in healthy ways -- she has a very good relationship with her mom and one of her half sisters, and she was dealing with it well enough to have an otherwise healthy and productive life.

But if you look at Harry's life pre-Megan, you see a TON of red flags and dysfunction. Obviously everything with his parents' marriage and divorce, plus his mom's death and everything that followed. Lots of signs of dysfunction in his relationship with Harry. No truly serious relationships but a couple on again off again things that didn't go anywhere. He doesn't have a healthy, functional relationship with any of his parent figures -- his mom is dead, his dad is extremely repressed and distant (and busy), his grandmother was the queen and not the most nurturing person in the world, his grandfather even less so. It doesn't appear he had or was allowed close relationships with the Spencers. He was not independent at all, and the one period of his life where he was somewhat independent (his military service) involved fighting in a war, which is a traumatic event that can really screw a person up. He has a lot of friends but it's unclear how many are close, true friends -- that world is the sort of predictable set of pre-ordained "friends" that you grow up with and are expected to socialize among and marry into. That's very different that developing a series of friendships with classmates and colleagues and roommates and neighbors over the course of a normal life, as Meghan has.

Megan has led a fairly normal and functional life until meeting Harry and I see most of her decisions since then as an effort to continue to do so despite obstacles posed by his position and family. Megan and their kids are the first normal/healthy relationships Harry has had in his entire life. He is flailing a bit but that's honestly not surprising.

The most questionable life choice Meghan has ever made was marrying Harry -- she could have stayed single, had kids on her own, or maybe found someone else to marry (though tricky due to her age and her job/lifestyle). The best life choice Harry has ever made is marrying Meghan and getting some distance from his messed up family.

Meghan was actively trolling the UK for a high profile love connection. She didn’t want normal she wanted more.

What other high profile men in the UK did she date? I don't buy this, sorry. I don't get why people want to turn Megan into some kind of scheming manipulator. I'm not like some huge MM fan but she seems to genuinely have just fallen for a guy who has a messed up family and not understood the extent to which s messed up family would impact her life before getting in deep. Likely her age played a role, as if you have a serious relationship in your late 30s, it's much harder to pull back and say "wait, this is not what I expected" before it's too late. Now they have kids together and she has to see it through. And she does seem to genuinely love him.

I bet some part of her wonders if maybe she should have been more cautious about getting involved with someone this high profile in such a weird position back when it all started. But it's too late now.

I just find it hard to believe that she was looking for this situation. It actually kind of sucks for her -- she quit her job and it would be hard to go back to her old career, changed her entire life, and then his family was INSANE and he was deeply unhappy. She seems to be doing the best she can with a bad situation, honestly.

She will never set foot on another cable TV set. She got a leg up for life, maybe not as much as they think they “need” but she will not be working in the sense of anything she did in her past again. She was asking friends to set up dates, for that matter didn’t she get set up on a blind date with Harry? Also I think she was messaging a famous football/soccer player to name one.

She asked at least three people to set her up on dates with high profile professional British athletes and also high profile British men that were single.