What is your 13 year old daughter getting for Christmas?

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Anonymous wrote:hoooooly crap some of your kids have expensive taste!!

+1 I love my sensible, non-materialistic teen girl so much. I’ve never even heard of most of these things.

Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

It's a huge part of it.

I grew up loving labels and we never had social media. We had magazines, commercials, and just looking at others in school and what was trendy. So pls stop on the social media

there will always be a reason some girls want trendy things and it is ok to normalize it. Guys are no different. 90% of them want Jordans

This is unhealthy materialism. Stop normalizing it.

Give me a break. It's been going on for 50+ years.

Why does that matter?

Why are you even on this thread? You’re a killjoy.

Awww, you only see joy in gifting $50 butt toning (but great smelling!) cream to your 13 year old, and you only bond giggling with them while trying out expensive nonsenses your mutual favorite influencer has been pushing. Sorry I was so cruel.

NP. How does this effect you? How does this person giving their daughter butt cream change what you do in your home?

I'd rather my kid's peer group not be materialistic and vapid. Kids influence each other. Your kid likely goes to school with my kid. I'd like our kids to bond with their moms over better things than IG influencers and $50 butt toning cream. I'd rather you offer me better ideas than $50 butt toning cream on this thread. Plenty of reasons why this affects me!

You can't control your kid's peer group. Or how their family spends their money. Or how other people spend time together.

My "materialistic and vapid" kid is also a straight A student, tutors her peers in math, took up a challenging sport although it terrified her, is the youngest in a music group consisting mostly of juniors/seniors, helps out with our foster dogs, is a fantastic cook and baker, and a good friend, who truly watches out for her friends. Your kid could do a lot worse than have her as a peer.

OK Captain Grandstanding platitudes.

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Anonymous wrote:hoooooly crap some of your kids have expensive taste!!

+1 I love my sensible, non-materialistic teen girl so much. I’ve never even heard of most of these things.

Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

It's a huge part of it.

I grew up loving labels and we never had social media. We had magazines, commercials, and just looking at others in school and what was trendy. So pls stop on the social media

there will always be a reason some girls want trendy things and it is ok to normalize it. Guys are no different. 90% of them want Jordans

This is unhealthy materialism. Stop normalizing it.

Give me a break. It's been going on for 50+ years.

Why does that matter?

Why are you even on this thread? You’re a killjoy.

Awww, you only see joy in gifting $50 butt toning (but great smelling!) cream to your 13 year old, and you only bond giggling with them while trying out expensive nonsenses your mutual favorite influencer has been pushing. Sorry I was so cruel.

NP. How does this effect you? How does this person giving their daughter butt cream change what you do in your home?

I'd rather my kid's peer group not be materialistic and vapid. Kids influence each other. Your kid likely goes to school with my kid. I'd like our kids to bond with their moms over better things than IG influencers and $50 butt toning cream. I'd rather you offer me better ideas than $50 butt toning cream on this thread. Plenty of reasons why this affects me!

DP. It was one person who mentioned butt cream, and you’re grabbing on to that and not letting go. PP’s have shared many other ideas, which MANY young teens will be thrilled with…leggings, hoodies, Nike, Uggs, jewelry, so many Sephora make up products… none of these are absurd. The only thing strange is your reaction.

DP. Bum Bum cream was mentioned by three different posters on page one alone. Many are latching onto it because of it’s the epitome of absurdity for a 13 year old.

I don't think it's many. It seems to be one person, who is triggered by some body cream. I don't see how it is any more absurd than $300 pair of sneakers, $130 Lulu jacket, or $180 pair of Uggs.

Where are you going? I thought your point was to convince us that toning butt cream may be ridiculous, but everything else on the thread is a great idea, and now you're shifting to wondering why we focus on $50 bum bum butt toning cream when everything else is overpriced and rather pointless too. Pick a communication strategy.

lol. You’re responding to different people geez. You’re clueless

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Anonymous wrote:Yup my 12 year who likes cosmetics and fashionable clothes is funny, hard working and kind. She is tart, brave and quirky. She does her own thing and has a fantastic group of friends, and has been known to invite new comers or lonely kids to join her lunch table. She loves to dance, design things and go the mall with friends. She’ll be getting lululemon dance pants.

This sounds like a script for an SNL commercial spoof.

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Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Bingo. There's a huge difference in the kids who have access to social media and those who don't. Not always, but often. One of DD's teachers mentioned this fall that they can often tell the difference between kids with social media access and those who don't.

I don't buy that. Time over, American children have been influenced by their peers. They are watching each other. I honestly don't even believe half of you who claim your children don't know these brands or want them. They have understood your judgment and will just not ask you for them. That's totally different.

This right here.

Kids know their parents pretty well by the time they are teenagers, so of course you’re not going to ask for Lulu pants if you know your mom will refuse.

No, that’s not it. There are plenty of teens who really, truly either aren’t familiar with “Lulu” pants, or know exactly what they are and wouldn’t be caught dead in them.

I don’t think it’s a badge of honor that your teen is completely unaware of teen pop culture. I have boys and they know all the popular stuff for the girls because they listen when other kids speak.

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My daughter's tiktok tells her to buy lululemon pants and my Seventeen magazine told me to buy Benneton shirts. I don't see the difference. And if your kid only wants art supplies, so what? I was one of those kids-my mom wasn't into material things (even though we could afford it--just wasn't a priority) so no Guess jeans or Esprit for us. So when I got to college and started making my own money, I basically bought out AF every chance I could get and dressed head to toe like an AF ad and strutted around in my Tiffany charm bracelet and my Clinique Black Honey lipstick. Wanting or liking popular things doesn't mean you can't also be smart and bookish and artistic. They're not mutually exclusive.

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Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Bingo. There's a huge difference in the kids who have access to social media and those who don't. Not always, but often. One of DD's teachers mentioned this fall that they can often tell the difference between kids with social media access and those who don't.

I don't buy that. Time over, American children have been influenced by their peers. They are watching each other. I honestly don't even believe half of you who claim your children don't know these brands or want them. They have understood your judgment and will just not ask you for them. That's totally different.

This right here.

Kids know their parents pretty well by the time they are teenagers, so of course you’re not going to ask for Lulu pants if you know your mom will refuse.

No, that’s not it. There are plenty of teens who really, truly either aren’t familiar with “Lulu” pants, or know exactly what they are and wouldn’t be caught dead in them.

I don’t think it’s a badge of honor that your teen is completely unaware of teen pop culture. I have boys and they know all the popular stuff for the girls because they listen when other kids speak.

LOL did you just call this woman's teenage son a self-centered loser because he doesn't eavesdrop on vapid girls and memorize yoga pants brand names?

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Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Bingo. There's a huge difference in the kids who have access to social media and those who don't. Not always, but often. One of DD's teachers mentioned this fall that they can often tell the difference between kids with social media access and those who don't.

I don't buy that. Time over, American children have been influenced by their peers. They are watching each other. I honestly don't even believe half of you who claim your children don't know these brands or want them. They have understood your judgment and will just not ask you for them. That's totally different.

This right here.

Kids know their parents pretty well by the time they are teenagers, so of course you’re not going to ask for Lulu pants if you know your mom will refuse.

No, that’s not it. There are plenty of teens who really, truly either aren’t familiar with “Lulu” pants, or know exactly what they are and wouldn’t be caught dead in them.

I don’t think it’s a badge of honor that your teen is completely unaware of basic suburban teen pop culture. I have boys and they know all the popular stuff for the girls because they listen when other kids speak.

Fixed it.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

+1 Our daughters would be friends. She’s in a magnet program for visual arts and her list is mostly art supplies. I don’t think anyone at her school wears Lululemon or even Uggs.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

We upgraded her art supplies a couple of years ago. And like the PP, mine wants fancy lip gloss and Uggs (or knock offs) this year.

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So weird how people are bragging on their daughters make up AND being nice. All the 13 year old girls I knew as a child and now as an adult that are obsessed with make up and looks, are really brats.

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

+1 Our daughters would be friends. She’s in a magnet program for visual arts and her list is mostly art supplies. I don’t think anyone at her school wears Lululemon or even Uggs.

My dd is also in a magnet program for visual arts. If you’re in DC, maybe they already know each other 😄

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Seriously. I’m so happy I have a nerdy bookworm who isn’t into name brands. She’s almost 13 and not on social media yet so maybe that’s part of it.

Bingo. There's a huge difference in the kids who have access to social media and those who don't. Not always, but often. One of DD's teachers mentioned this fall that they can often tell the difference between kids with social media access and those who don't.

I don't buy that. Time over, American children have been influenced by their peers. They are watching each other. I honestly don't even believe half of you who claim your children don't know these brands or want them. They have understood your judgment and will just not ask you for them. That's totally different.

This right here.

Kids know their parents pretty well by the time they are teenagers, so of course you’re not going to ask for Lulu pants if you know your mom will refuse.

No, that’s not it. There are plenty of teens who really, truly either aren’t familiar with “Lulu” pants, or know exactly what they are and wouldn’t be caught dead in them.

I don’t think it’s a badge of honor that your teen is completely unaware of teen pop culture. I have boys and they know all the popular stuff for the girls because they listen when other kids speak.

LOL did you just call this woman's teenage son a self-centered loser because he doesn't eavesdrop on vapid girls and memorize yoga pants brand names?

Comprehension and awareness goes a long way…

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Anonymous wrote:So weird how people are bragging on their daughters make up AND being nice. All the 13 year old girls I knew as a child and now as an adult that are obsessed with make up and looks, are really brats.

You must have had (and still have) a limited social circle. Why do we position women who care about fashion as less than or somehow lacking in other positive qualities, like intelligence and kindness?

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Anonymous wrote:to the adults criticizing kids loving things that are trendy or name brand- they are trendy for a reason lol. I have fun talking about trends and getting excited over things with my DD.

Ignore them. They are the same misery lovers who found the pandemic to be NBD because they hate movies, restaurants, concerts, parties, kids’ sports, Disney, and talking to other humans.

Not kids’ sports and Disney. The rest I quite enjoy.

Perfect, you like having fun yourself, but, don’t like things that are fun for kids. It’s understandable that you wouldn’t enjoy buying your kids gifts either.

You don’t sound very bright. It’s understandable that your kids are already getting taken in by cosmetic companies claiming their products make life more fun.

Read, wear, need, want

A book, a scarf, new socks, a pack of gum

Is that what your daughter is getting?

Don’t forget the ubiquitous “art supplies”….my daughter has been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but she’s 12 now and the girl wants a pair of Uggs and fancy lip gloss and PP’s on here act like it’s sacrilegious.

Pp here who’s dd is getting art supplies. she has also been getting art supplies since she was a toddler, but we’re trading the crayola in for prismacolors and Copic markers. She is serious about her art so we are taking it seriously.

+1 Our daughters would be friends. She’s in a magnet program for visual arts and her list is mostly art supplies. I don’t think anyone at her school wears Lululemon or even Uggs.

If your kid goes to HS in the DMV, the chances of that seem very low.