How do you deal with a 20 something daughter moving in with boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why live with a s/o unless you have to? I know married couples who don’t live together.

Some people think it’s a new stage in life that they want to experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In communities with more unmarried or divorced parents, children face more hurdles and have more behavioral issues which often effect tgeur own future families and often starts a toxic cycle for generations.

It’s a classic correlation vs causation issue. In such communities not being married, being a single mom is better for taxes and benefits. And since these communities are less educated and more poor, their kids face more hurdles.

[Anonymous]

How would you know if you really love them enough to spend your life with them, its not something to be done blindly. Yes, people did arranged marriages and never got divorced but tolerating someone under the pressure of family, culture, religion or finances isn't the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Always reminds me of a guy around this age was screwing a HS girl and Dad gave him the “talk” and he refused to listen.

He got snatched off street with bag over head driven out to the woods handed a shovel to dig his grave. Asked to kneel then they put a gun to head and pulled trigger.

No bullet was in gun. They then said we know where you live we can snatch you again and next time gun will be loaded if you ever get in touch, talk to or get in touch with so and so.

He was tossed back in trunk with hood still on and tosses back in street where he got picked up.

He immediately calls my two friends who tell him let me get this straight you are banging a HS student as a 27 year old man and Dad Told you to stop. You refused. You go to cops with this wild story two man kidnapped you and returned you back to safe spot unharmed a few hours later. After they are done laughing you go home and the two guys just snatch you again and kill you.

He did not call cops and stop seeing girl. It is a shame things no longer are that easy

Two same- aged adults moving in together reminds you of…. This story?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Always reminds me of a guy around this age was screwing a HS girl and Dad gave him the “talk” and he refused to listen.

He got snatched off street with bag over head driven out to the woods handed a shovel to dig his grave. Asked to kneel then they put a gun to head and pulled trigger.

No bullet was in gun. They then said we know where you live we can snatch you again and next time gun will be loaded if you ever get in touch, talk to or get in touch with so and so.

He was tossed back in trunk with hood still on and tosses back in street where he got picked up.

He immediately calls my two friends who tell him let me get this straight you are banging a HS student as a 27 year old man and Dad Told you to stop. You refused. You go to cops with this wild story two man kidnapped you and returned you back to safe spot unharmed a few hours later. After they are done laughing you go home and the two guys just snatch you again and kill you.

He did not call cops and stop seeing girl. It is a shame things no longer are that easy

Two same- aged adults moving in together reminds you of…. This story?

OP is already freaking out for nothing and PP throws in this dark story. Have some mercy on poor OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't think its a big deal. I literally only got engaged and married bc of my parents' expectation that you don't move in unless you're engaged or married. If we dated longer, we would've figured out we didn't work in a romantic relationship long term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeesh. I lived with 3 different boyfriends before getting engaged to my now husband (who I moved in with after 6 months). Would not have done it any other way. You learn a lot about compatability by living with someone. Just have an exit plan and don’t commingle stuff so you can easily separate if needed.

Not commingling is actually always a great idea since 50% of marriages end in divorce

Miserable marriage isn't any better than amicable divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why live with a s/o unless you have to? I know married couples who don’t live together.

As weird as it may sound, some people actually live each other and enjoy living together.

[Anonymous]

*love each other

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's really rude and immature to dismiss the comments and opinions of people based on your assumption they are older or have the viewpoint or some beliefs of older people. It's ageism and it's tedious and ignorant. You may think the only valuable opinions are those of your age peers or those who agree with you but that only illustrates your close minded limitations. If you're lucky you'll get older someday and will look back at your arrogant younger self and be embarrassed.

Don’t care. Thanks for sharing, though!

Wow. Way to prove PP's point.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I didn’t live together. And it still took longer than I liked to get engaged and married (especially when it was clear we were headed that way). My mom’s frequent “why aren’t you engaged yet?” Really wasn’t helpful. Trust that she can speak up for herself! And maybe marriage isn’t her goal.

Also, I’m glad I married DH, but there are some ways in which we’re really incompatible in terms of managing / running a home. There are advantages to learning that sooner rather than later!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH and I didn’t live together. And it still took longer than I liked to get engaged and married (especially when it was clear we were headed that way). My mom’s frequent “why aren’t you engaged yet?” Really wasn’t helpful. Trust that she can speak up for herself! And maybe marriage isn’t her goal.

Also, I’m glad I married DH, but there are some ways in which we’re really incompatible in terms of managing / running a home. There are advantages to learning that sooner rather than later!

+1

[Anonymous]

Daughter, yes; boyfriend, no.

[Anonymous]

This tread is bizarre.

OP MYOB>

Your antiquated thought process is absurd.

Your DD is an adult it is her business not yours Full Stop.

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

I met my DH at 20, married at 24, here we are 22 years and a kid later…