My neighbor hosted her own daughter’s baby shower for her 2nd baby

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!

No, you were no raised well. Children are "reared" and vegetables and livestock are raise. So, unless you are a cabbage or a pig or any other kind of vegetable or livestock, you were not raised well.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

Those aren't the rules anymore grandma. You probably also think people can't wear white before Memorial Day.

NP and no. I’m 27 and know it’s considered rude for mothers to host daughters baby and wedding showers. And absolutely no shower after first baby (or wedding).

It makes sense if you think about it. If your mother can afford to host a shower for you then she can also afford to get you what you need. After the first baby you should have the essentials.

Showers are celebrations. They don't always have to have a practical get you what you need thing. Anyone who has ever received a baby bathrobe as a shower gift will know that.

Sorry no one cared enough about you to celebrate life changing events for you.

Thanks, dear, but I’m loved but not greedy. One shower for the first baby was enough. I can afford to clothe my second baby.

And, news flash! - you can celebrate and be celebrated without begging for gifts!!

There was no begging for gifts. ,

With your nasty personality I understand why no one celebrated your second child. Probably not your first either.

With your mouth, whoever impregnated you must have been desperately drunk.

Lol, further proving the point of why you have no friends to throw parties for you.

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OP is a troll. Please stop feeding her. I have reported to Jeff and hopefully he will lock this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!

No, you were no raised well. Children are "reared" and vegetables and livestock are raise. So, unless you are a cabbage or a pig or any other kind of vegetable or livestock, you were not raised well.

*slosh*

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!

No, you were no raised well. Children are "reared" and vegetables and livestock are raise. So, unless you are a cabbage or a pig or any other kind of vegetable or livestock, you were not raised well.

Not well educated, are you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!

You sound like a great guest! Come to one of my parties anytime!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

Well, I am used to bringing hostess gifts, wine and food to most any party I attend. I also give generous amounts of cash gifts on weddings. I have been raised well and without the soul sucking poverty that people like OP has experienced, so bringing gifts to other actually brings me joy. And buying baby gifts? OMG! They are the best. So cute, so tiny, so much fun!!

No, you were no raised well. Children are "reared" and vegetables and livestock are raise. So, unless you are a cabbage or a pig or any other kind of vegetable or livestock, you were not raised well.

More recent editions say that “raise” is common in American English for plants, livestock, and children, but that “rear” is also used of livestock and children. In British English, “rear” is used only for animals, modern Fowler says. - from https://www.cjr.org/language_corner/raising-rearing-kids.php

OP just happens to be the usual troll from outside of DMV - ill-educated, ill-mannered, ill-bred and bitter.

[Anonymous]

In the age of GoFundMe, nothing is shocking. I know people who have posted baby registries for their nth child on social media, and a woman who started a GoFundMe account for an overseas vacation. A second baby shower sounds charming in comparison.

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Send formula.

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

Her mother hosting for even a first baby is gauche but to have a shower for a 2nd baby is screaming "gift grab." No one can make you say "yes" to a shower. I don't care if it's it been 25 years between babies.

Can you stop posting now? You are embarrassing yourself.

Not anymore than you embarrass yourself, leech.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of the neighbor to host her DD's baby shower for 2nd baby! I love it when family hosts. Why should friends bear the cost and effort of hosting showers? That is such entitlement and imposition.

Her mother hosting for even a first baby is gauche but to have a shower for a 2nd baby is screaming "gift grab." No one can make you say "yes" to a shower. I don't care if it's it been 25 years between babies.

Can you stop posting now? You are embarrassing yourself.

I am in the right. So, no, I will not stop posting.

Right according to whom?

To people who aren’t moochers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see showers as parties and a way to hang out with family and friends. Also all that good food!!

Just with a gift as an entry fee.

+1. That made me laugh but it is true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see anything wrong with that at all.

OP here. Well my own mother and grandmother are both dead. But I was always taught (and previous threads on here have confirmed that:

A - and immediately family member of the bride cannot host and
B - no showers after the first baby

I guess I’m just a lowly middle class person, because most people that I know had a shower for each baby (it’s fun, why not?) and who cares if a relative hosts the party? I never heard any of those rules until reading DCUM.

These are not uncommon “rules” just because you never heard of them.

NP. Regardless of whether PP has heard of them, they are outdated. These rules are for people who need to fetch their smelling salts when someone wears white after Labor Day.

You don’t get to decide if it’s outdated. It is tacky, very tacky and a grab. Everyone with any sense knows that.

+1,000

Explain how a shower thrown by family is a tacky gift grab, and one thrown by a friend is not. TIA.

Any showers after the first baby are tacky gift grabs. You’re welcome.

Do you need help reading? I can help you if you need help.

Nope. I responded to the OP, which we are discussing and who mentioned *both* a non-first baby and a mother throwing a shower.

You are so desperate to score a childish “smackdown” on the internet and you’re failing miserably. Seek help for your low self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the issue.

I have attend a very large self hosted baby shower for someone’s surprise 3rd baby. The two children were much older so they didn’t have any baby stuff.

My mom and teen daughter hosted my 2nd baby shower for me at my house. I would have preferred not to have one, but they insisted on doing it. My 2nd was also an oops baby and I didn’t have anything.

Most people aren’t hosting baby showers to get gifts with the amount of planning and cost that goes into hosting.

Well if they aren’t hosting for gifts then they would so no gifts.
By the way, you said you had a second baby shower and didn’t have anything. You wanted gifts.

No. I didn’t want any gifts. We are upper middle class and have more than enough money. I actually hate getting gifts and prefer to buy my own stuff. I did not register anywhere. My teen daughter and mother insisted on having it. I wasn’t keen on the idea, but I caved for them. I believe many people who have 2nd baby showers are talked into it because close friends or family are really excited for them. My point in saying that I didn’t have any baby stuff is because it really was like starting from scratch given there was a 13 year span with my first child.

That is so sweet. I have a huge gap between DD and DS too. DD was so about becoming a big sister that she and DH hosted a surprise baby shower and invited our family. I ended up getting 3 more baby-showers thrown by friends, neighbors and co-workers. LOL. And we were comfortably UMC by baby 2, so I was actually already buying high-end designer stuff that I liked. But, it was so sweet to have my pregnancy and happiness celebrated. I was also in the same shoes as you, I had already given away my baby stuff to others, convinced that I had secondary infertility.

With my firstborn, we had recently bought a brand new SFH, so we were stretched. But, I was thrown a beautiful surprise babyshower by a very close friend and got gifts from Target that very truly precious to me.

You should never ever admit that you had 4 baby shower for 1 baby and to top it off, it was your second baby.
You have no integrity and are incredibly tacky.

[Anonymous]

A highly amusing read considering the topic is about rules of polite behavior