Is it reasonable to ask a newlywed couple to go out for drinks in the evening after their wedding?

[Anonymous]

No you imbecile

[Anonymous]

She can ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s rude don’t do that.

I'm not (I'm OP.)

I know the bride.

[Anonymous]

What the heck??! Let the couple celebrate getting married and going to the next level of intimacy. The sister is crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ha, this is what we did after our wedding! It was fun and we still had plenty of energy for sex later.

I can think of a couple of other wedding people who did the same this is also up in Massachusetts so maybe a cultural difference.

She can ask but don't throw a fit if they decline.

Personally I would be irritated if somebody even asked. I know some people think it’s okay to ask for anything and it is on the one being asked to say no and not be bothered about it, but a lot of people don’t like being put in the position of having to say no to something.

Hinting, however, is a different story.

Dh and I aren't easily irritated people who look to be offended so it's probably why it wasn't a big deal for us.

[Anonymous]

Why not the next day?

[Anonymous]

If only there was technology that would allow them to keep in touch and get to know each other better prior to and after the wedding day.

[Anonymous]

brunch the next morning would be better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had an after party after our wedding for the younger crew. Dh and I weren’t virgins though and were interested in seeing our friends. We still had an amazing wedding night. We also met everyone for a large brunch the next morning.

I think an after party is different than one-on-one "get to know you" drinks after the reception. No one wants to hang out with ILs they barely know after their wedding reception.

[Anonymous]

God, no, they’ll be dead on their feet.

[Anonymous]

My SIL and BIL did drinks and happy hour after their wedding. I was surprised to see them there, because after my wedding I was tired and just wanted to sleep.
If I remember correctly, friends and siblings set up happy hour time and location and told the newly weds “hey we are all getting drinks at X time and location”. I think the bride and groom and just we will see how we are feeling after. They back to the hotel changed and met us all later.

When my DH and I got married we did dinner with family and friends the next evening. And that was so much fun, we got pizza and drinks and had the best time mingling with family and I know it sounds so silly but it was so fun to introduce my DH as my husband.

[Anonymous]

No one gets one on one time during the wedding weekend. It is asking too much of the couple and it is rude to all the other guests who aren’t getting that time. Sibling needs to make a trip before the wedding or do a Zoom date if she care so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s rude don’t do that.

I'm not (I'm OP.)

I know the bride.

How is the bride feeling about being asked to do this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one gets one on one time during the wedding weekend. It is asking too much of the couple and it is rude to all the other guests who aren’t getting that time. Sibling needs to make a trip before the wedding or do a Zoom date if she care so much.

Zoom dates are awkward. Sister should plan a weekend trip to visit them a few weeks or months after the wedding. That’s a better time.

[Anonymous]

Completely unacceptable even if sex was not an issue. Does the sister generally lack common sense?