What did you learn from your first post-divorce relationship?
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Anonymous
| That I’d rather be single forever and ever amen. |
Anonymous
| My sex drive wasn’t dead!!!!! |
Anonymous
| First post-divorce relationship was strictly for sex. I wanted nothing else from it and would never bring him into my real world. I needed that to stepping stone my way into a much healthier place. |
Anonymous
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Guy 50s : first relationship? Quickly determined that I wanted to have fun for a while and get my bearings post marriage. |
Anonymous
Yes and yes! |
Anonymous
| That relationships could be fun and loving. Been together 3 years post-divorce and still fun and loving. I learned that I should’ve divorced much sooner and some people grow apart and are no longer compatible. |
Anonymous
| I learned that cool, good looking, available men found me to be sexy and desirable even though my H had not for years. I learned that I still loved sex and with the right guy was quite willing to have sex numerous times per week, sometimes daily, even in my 40s and beyond. I also learned post-divorce that I can be quite happy with or without a man in my life and that I love living a solitary life with nobody depending on me or having to consider their opinions before I do anything. |
Anonymous
| What I learned was that I should have gotten divorced five years earlier. |
Anonymous
| That I can have good and hot sex with other people. Other people think I’m beautiful. There’s lots of men out there. |
Anonymous
You don't need to get divorced to learn this. You have to stoke those fires when you're in a LTR. Because in 5-10 years you'll just be in the same place with your new partner if you plan on settling down again. |
Anonymous
+1 I find that divorced men are more eager to be in a serious relationship than divorced women. Just my experience. |
Anonymous
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That sex can be amazing, men that can make me feel beautiful, that I'm still attractive and desirable. Also learned that there are tons of men who want one-night stands and tons that want to get married ASAP, but not a whole lot that are cool enjoying the "now" and dating.
That I'm deeply damaged after being blindsided by my ex's affair.... that when I'm not with my partner, I don't call or initiate contact because I assume they are with someone else even if there is absolutely no reason to believe that. That I have a Berlin wall around my heart, and have panic attacks if they seem distant, because it triggers the memory if my ex withdrawing from me and gaslighting me about his affair. That I really enjoy dating and don't ever want to get married again. I want a partner I can have fun with and hang out with and travel with, but I don't want to live with him or do his damn laundry or carry all the invisible burden of planning holidays and social events for him. |
Anonymous
17:09 here. ITA that men in this demographic typically fall into either of those extremes. I was blindsided by an affair, too. Strength and power to you! |
Anonymous
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Really amazing sex. And that I don’t need to be in love to have great sex.
That I was not interested in anything serious. That I didn’t mind paying for dates or even a weekend away, but I was not paying anyone bills or loaning them money. |
Anonymous
| Younger men like fit and fun 52 year olds. |