What did you learn from your first post-divorce relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sex drive wasn’t dead!!!!!

You don't need to get divorced to learn this. You have to stoke those fires when you're in a LTR. Because in 5-10 years you'll just be in the same place with your new partner if you plan on settling down again.

This is not true at all. Sometimes it is so bad you think it is you. The problem was the relationship when I was married---like all of it. In a good LTR, you won't be sexless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

The person who files isn't always the person who ended the marriage. Many people will delay filing just to be difficult. My ex was the one who wanted out of the marriage and then proceeded to do nothing about it until I filed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

Why is this the case?

[Anonymous]

I learned that there is no roadmap for middle-age-dating so I might as well try as many things as possible.

[Anonymous]

I learned that I could be with a much younger woman than my ex, and that I was good enough to attract young, smart, thin women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Truth. Of course here this statement will be destroyed by all the awful women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

The person who files isn't always the person who ended the marriage. Many people will delay filing just to be difficult. My ex was the one who wanted out of the marriage and then proceeded to do nothing about it until I filed.

Same here. He cheated, said he didn't want to be married anymore then did nothing. I filed and moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[b]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

Why is this the case?

Because their lawyer tells them if they file first they will get more money.

My wife was incredibly outraged that I beat her to the courthouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[b]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

Why is this the case?

Because their lawyer tells them if they file first they will get more money.

My wife was incredibly outraged that I beat her to the courthouse.

That is just not true.

[Anonymous]

I'll play for real:

1. that I should follow my heart/ lust and not my brain.

2. That I deserve more than shame and abuse.

3. That I am not broken, and am good enough.

4. That I do not need female viagra, I just had 0 interest in intimacy with someone that raped me.

5. To lean in, say yes, be spontaneous and live life.

I married the first man I dated after 16 years with an abusive husband. I am still learning everyday. Life is short and I thank god and every lucky star for meeting my other half. Still in court fighting for custody, so its not all in the rear view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[b]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am learning from this thread that many divorced women are truly awful, and men are well advised to be wary of such damaged goods.

Yes.

Guy: applies to both sexes. As it’s mostly women who initiate the divorce process it’s reasonable to assume many will be blindsided

Why is this the case?

Because men in a platonic room mate marriage just transition to sex on the side without the hassle of a divorce.