How much to offer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: should I instead look for an au pair for this job?

Au pairs are not allowed to cook or shop for the family.

Honestly I’ve hired nannies/housekeepers/au pairs going on a decade now and I’ve never heard of one that did shopping and errands for the whole family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: should I instead look for an au pair for this job?

No. You aren’t allowed to work an au pair like that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: should I instead look for an au pair for this job?

Au pairs are not allowed to cook or shop for the family.

Honestly I’ve hired nannies/housekeepers/au pairs going on a decade now and I’ve never heard of one that did shopping and errands for the whole family.

PP here. Our nanny does. She moved into that role once our youngest started preschool. Just no cooking for us (does lunches for kids) or parents laundry. And no cleaning.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: should I instead look for an au pair for this job?

No. You aren’t allowed to work an au pair like that!

Like what? I thought an Au Pair can work 20 hours a week? We are talking about 15.

[Anonymous]

OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! that is a lot. Is there a local NC group to ask? We paid $30/hr. here for pt dependable after-school care and did not include any of the following--

Would like for this person to make dinner for the week and also do kid laundry, grocery shop when needed, and occasional errands.

OP. I guess I am in for a rude awakening bc this doesn’t seem like a lot to me. It just seems like a job. It’s what SAHMs without help do.

But babysitters don't drive kids places. And nannies don't make dinner for the family or grocery shop.

Since when? These are normal expectations (maybe not the dinners but driving and grocery shopping seem fine).

Nope. Nannies do not cook dinner for the family or grocery shop. They will cook dinner for the KIDS. Not the parents.

We are talking about a single 11 year old kid. So not really a nanny either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

Don’t think it’s too much to ask, but you’ll need to pay more than it sounds like you’re expecting to if you want someone reliable who won’t quit after a couple of months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Starting a new job in the Research Triangle area and will need an after school helper to pick kid up from school, make sure kid does homework before dinner, and take to after school activities. Would like for this person to make dinner for the week and also do kid laundry, grocery shop when needed, and occasional errands. Will have a separate house cleaner. How much to offer and by the hour or by the week?

BC you are asking for someone to work only 3-6 for 22/hr at 3 hours per day for 5 days. Without taxes thats 330/week or 1320/mo so maybe 1k after taxes?. That isnt enough to live off of in the triangle especially since housing costs have increased by 25%.

They cant work a normal 9-5 and they cant work a second shift which is normally 3-11. You would be looking for someone who works a 7-7 and theyd be driving your kids after less than 6 hours a week.

A college student may be worthwhile but college classes arent predictable with scheduling and theyd make more money bartending or waiting tables, which is more amenable to their lifestyle. Also the type of individual who would be responsible enough for these projects/scope of work isnt normally a college kid and likely needs more than 1k/mo.

THINK.

[Anonymous]

less than 6 hours of sleep*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

If you want a SAHM, you should get married.

[Anonymous]

is the nanny supposed to drive the child with her when running errands? That would be unheard of. Also, a "normal" nanny would not take a job with so few hours. You may be able to find a retiree who wants extra cash but with covid now that age category does not want to work with school age kids.

[Anonymous]

What were you paying for this service before you moved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What were you paying for this service before you moved?

Zero. I was doing it myself.

[Anonymous]

$30-$35 an hour

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

You should probably just do it yourself then. You are asking too much.