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Anonymous wrote:OP: should I instead look for an au pair for this job?

No. You aren’t allowed to work an au pair like that!

Like what? I thought an Au Pair can work 20 hours a week? We are talking about 15.

Au airs can’t cook, show or clean for the family. Ask the au pair agency. Plus do you really want a foreign young woman unfamiliar with your car and routes driving around your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

Who else do you think is off work at and can pick up your kids at 3? Or do you think she can live on three hours of work a day?

Come back and let us know how this goes for you. You should go back to being a SAHM.

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Anonymous wrote:OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

You’re right, OP. Let us know how it works out for you.

[Anonymous]

Check out the Chapel Hill/Carrboro Mothers Club facebook page. Some there may have an idea. I think they used to have a listing of childcare centers and baby sitters a while back.

[Anonymous]

I think you can find someone to pick up your kid, take them to activities and make them dinner but the rest of the duties make it a very unattractive job for a part-timer.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you can find someone to pick up your kid, take them to activities and make them dinner but the rest of the duties make it a very unattractive job for a part-timer.

OP: So how would you structure and compensate if this is what needs to be done?

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Anonymous wrote:I think you can find someone to pick up your kid, take them to activities and make them dinner but the rest of the duties make it a very unattractive job for a part-timer.

OP: So how would you structure and compensate if this is what needs to be done?

You have to pay hourly. There is no other option in childcare. You have to guarantee those hours.

Will the caregiver be driving your vehicle or her own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP and I am just flabbergasted by these responses. When did normal SAHM responsibilities, all of which can be done between 3-6pm with the possible exception of grocery shopping, become tantamount to being a slave driver? I am literally talking about hiring someone else to do the after school routine of pickup, homework supervision and dinner prep, with ECs to drive to on some days and throwing in a load of laundry here and there. It's exactly what I'd be dong myself after work if work ended at 3pm. How is this considered working someone SO HARD that it's too much to ask?

I think it's perfectly reasonable to want this (I want this!) and doesn't make you a slave driver or a terrible person or anything, but as a matter of fact, it's very difficult or impossible to find someone who will actually do it. Nannies don't want to cook for the whole family or do whole-family laundry, and the people who will do those things, generally won't nanny.

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You can pick a nanny or a housekeeper, and either are attractive PT gigs unless you are paying a lot.

Also, when would this person have time to run errands, grocery shop, do laundry AND and meal prep in between picking kid up from school, supervising homework, and driving to kid activities? That is like two separate jobs completely and it does not compute for someone to accomplish all of that in 3 hours per day. You might think you were doing all of that in 15 hours per week as a SAHM but I doubt you were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can pick a nanny or a housekeeper, and either are attractive PT gigs unless you are paying a lot.

Also, when would this person have time to run errands, grocery shop, do laundry AND and meal prep in between picking kid up from school, supervising homework, and driving to kid activities? That is like two separate jobs completely and it does not compute for someone to accomplish all of that in 3 hours per day. You might think you were doing all of that in 15 hours per week as a SAHM but I doubt you were.

I meant *neither* are attractive PT gigs unless you are paying a lot.

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OP I think the cooking and grocery shopping are not desirable. The rest is doable. I wouldn't want to nanny and THEN be worried that the family I cooked for didn't like the food. Can you do the grocery shopping on the weekends or order instacart?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I think the cooking and grocery shopping are not desirable. The rest is doable. I wouldn't want to nanny and THEN be worried that the family I cooked for didn't like the food. Can you do the grocery shopping on the weekends or order instacart?

I actually love to cook and am good at it, but am so over the Sisyphean nature of grocery shopping and how long it takes to shop, load/unload and cook. I will still do some but as a working mom I want the basics covered as it adds at least an hour back into my day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think the cooking and grocery shopping are not desirable. The rest is doable. I wouldn't want to nanny and THEN be worried that the family I cooked for didn't like the food. Can you do the grocery shopping on the weekends or order instacart?

I actually love to cook and am good at it, but am so over the Sisyphean nature of grocery shopping and how long it takes to shop, load/unload and cook. I will still do some but as a working mom I want the basics covered as it adds at least an hour back into my day.

So this again begs the question of how someone could possibly do all that you are asking in 3 hours/day. If it takes an hour of your day to do this work, what makes you think someone else could do this and everything else you’re asking efficiently and effectively? Again, it doesn’t compute. You should adjust your expectations, make this a full-time job, or look to hire multiple people.

[Anonymous]

Every working parent wants a person to fill the job you described, OP. That’s why those people are so hard to find and even harder to keep.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I think the cooking and grocery shopping are not desirable. The rest is doable. I wouldn't want to nanny and THEN be worried that the family I cooked for didn't like the food. Can you do the grocery shopping on the weekends or order instacart?

I actually love to cook and am good at it, but am so over the Sisyphean nature of grocery shopping and how long it takes to shop, load/unload and cook. I will still do some but as a working mom I want the basics covered as it adds at least an hour back into my day.

So this again begs the question of how someone could possibly do all that you are asking in 3 hours/day. If it takes an hour of your day to do this work, what makes you think someone else could do this and everything else you’re asking efficiently and effectively? Again, it doesn’t compute. You should adjust your expectations, make this a full-time job, or look to hire multiple people.

OP: Again, this is not rocket science. Pick kid up from school, bring kid home, cook, supervise while cooking. On days while kid has ECs, pick kid up and take to ECs, grocery shop or run an errand during EC time. Throw in a load of laundry before or after the above. How is this hard? This is my current ice from 3-6 daily and this person does not even need to serve or clear dinner or do dishes. Kid loads & unloads the dishwasher as a chore.