How to alert preschool of new student in DS' class who is very aggressive/hits/bites

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The preschool director will figure it out without your input. I would leave it alone if the kid is not in your kid's class. MYOB.

He is in my son's class. His first day was yesterday.

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From your post:
This child is not in my son's class. I am torn, but my first instinct is to say something to the preschool director.

Sorry-no idea why "not" is there.
He IS in my son's class. My son has been in this school for 3 months. The child I had concerns about started yesterday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the biter, OP. He stopped by 3.5, but it was a rough year there for a while. He became the most gentle, chill, kind child you can imagine. He does have anxiety, which seems to have gone along with the biting.

Anyway, if you are concerned about YOUR KID you can say to the pre-school director that your kid and new kid have played together and that your son was hit/bitten/shaken whatever and is nervous about being with new kid. Ask if they can keep an eye out FOR YOUR SON'S emotions, and just make sure he is feeling safe. But really, you don't need to do anything. If the kid is still struggling with behavior they'll know very soon, and if he isn't...yay!

+1 OP sounds like a PITA who inserts herself into everyone's business on behalf of her precious snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes kids go through a phase. Kids can be different with parents vs. in daycare/preschool. Let the teachers/director handle it. They have the experience.

[Anonymous]

Is the kid in your kid’s class or not? You say he isn’t then you say he is.

[Anonymous]

Wait for the first chomp?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The preschool director will figure it out without your input. I would leave it alone if the kid is not in your kid's class. MYOB.

yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The preschool director will figure it out without your input. I would leave it alone if the kid is not in your kid's class. MYOB.

yep

+1 Either they'll observe the behavior or maybe the kid will be tamer under the supervision of teachers who are not his parents. Either way, it will shake out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the biter, OP. He stopped by 3.5, but it was a rough year there for a while. He became the most gentle, chill, kind child you can imagine. He does have anxiety, which seems to have gone along with the biting.

Anyway, if you are concerned about YOUR KID you can say to the pre-school director that your kid and new kid have played together and that your son was hit/bitten/shaken whatever and is nervous about being with new kid. Ask if they can keep an eye out FOR YOUR SON'S emotions, and just make sure he is feeling safe. But really, you don't need to do anything. If the kid is still struggling with behavior they'll know very soon, and if he isn't...yay!

Thanks- I think this way of framing it is helpful...keeping the focus of expressing concern over my son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid was the biter, OP. He stopped by 3.5, but it was a rough year there for a while. He became the most gentle, chill, kind child you can imagine. He does have anxiety, which seems to have gone along with the biting.

Anyway, if you are concerned about YOUR KID you can say to the pre-school director that your kid and new kid have played together and that your son was hit/bitten/shaken whatever and is nervous about being with new kid. Ask if they can keep an eye out FOR YOUR SON'S emotions, and just make sure he is feeling safe. But really, you don't need to do anything. If the kid is still struggling with behavior they'll know very soon, and if he isn't...yay!

+1 OP sounds like a PITA who inserts herself into everyone's business on behalf of her precious snowflake.

This is so unhelpful and unsupportive. My son is not a precious snowflake. When on the playground or park, I don't step in when he and other kids are having normal little toddler issues over toys whatever. I let hi figure it out- which sometimes means being disappointed or having something snatched from you.

I do step in when another child is pulling hair, grabbing his neck, or biting him. Which this child has done. To my son, and to many of the other regulars at our park. It was a daily occurrence.

I asked for feedback precisely because I am struggling on the pros and cons of saying something to the school.

But thanks so much for being a helpful supportive person for this mom in need of advice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the kid in your kid’s class or not? You say he isn’t then you say he is.

YES he is in our class. No clue why the word not popped up- typing on phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait for the first chomp?

I would. At that point you can have a discussion with the director. After the second bite, you can ask the director what their solution is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The preschool director will figure it out without your input. I would leave it alone if the kid is not in your kid's class. MYOB.

He is in my son's class. His first day was yesterday.

OP, you wrote in your original post that This child is not in my son's class. .

OP here- Lightbulb moment...I was intending to write "He is NOW in my son's class."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait for the first chomp?

I would. At that point you can have a discussion with the director. After the second bite, you can ask the director what their solution is

Op here- The thought of 2 bites makes me uncomfortable, but I think this is pretty decent advice. Hoping things have changed and there will be no issue.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes kids are terrors when they are with their parents who don’t do anything when their kid misbehaves, but those same kids have good behavior at school because there is more structure, consequences for misbehavior, and praise for good behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes kids are terrors when they are with their parents who don’t do anything when their kid misbehaves, but those same kids have good behavior at school because there is more structure, consequences for misbehavior, and praise for good behavior.

I really hope this is the case!