Is it wrong for me to deny my daughter love from her paternal grandparents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I also denied my in-laws the joy of having a relationship with my kids. They have nothing else to be proud of in the way of accomplishments. No good jobs, no wealth, no education, no connections. Mediocre people who feel most comfortable with other mediocre people. They are not abusive or dysfunctional, just average. Nothing to love for except for their kids or grandkids. So once MIL looked down on me for being snobby, I withdrew. My kids are adults and have minimal relationship and I’m not mad about it. We gave them so much more and my parents too.

This can’t be real. Are people really this self centered and...and...and...f@cked up?!?

[Anonymous]

You stop talking to people because of some email forward were they in death threats against you not email forwards other than that I don’t understand that logic. If that’s how this works then I guess I need to cut off contact with my mother my grandmother my uncle and I must have to divorce my husband because he likes to forward crap too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What on earth were in the forwards? Unless it was racist QANON stuff all of this seems just outrageously overblown. Imagine ending all contact with a branch of the family over being blocked on WhatsApp, something a functioning adult shouldn't even use.

FOR REAL!

[Anonymous]

I cut off contact with my own mother for 6 months because of the awful things she said and did, but even I wasn't mean enough to cut her off for ever, or deny her a relationship with her grandchildren, poor thing.

I suggest you renew contact as a family. You can always decide to cut them off again

[Anonymous]

My mother was extremely abusive to me as a child. Physically and emotionally. I actually did a stint in foster care because the abuse was so extreme. We were estranged for most of my adult life. But even I would not deny my DD access to her grandmother (always supervised). They are actually very close and my mother is doing everything for DD that she could not do for me. And my baby deserves that.

[Anonymous]

You and your DH made a that big of a deal of some forwards? E-mails? Texts?

[Anonymous]

Is this the op that married an Indian and forbade him from seeing his parents when they traveled to the U.S. from India?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I also denied my in-laws the joy of having a relationship with my kids. They have nothing else to be proud of in the way of accomplishments. No good jobs, no wealth, no education, no connections. Mediocre people who feel most comfortable with other mediocre people. They are not abusive or dysfunctional, just average. Nothing to love for except for their kids or grandkids. So once MIL looked down on me for being snobby, I withdrew. My kids are adults and have minimal relationship and I’m not mad about it. We gave them so much more and my parents too.

They have much more to be proud of than you do. They sounds like decent human beings. You sound like a monster. They are probably better off without contact with you. Your kids are probably much, much worse without having them in their lives, trapped with a monster parent.
You are not just snobby, you are straight jacket crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I also denied my in-laws the joy of having a relationship with my kids. They have nothing else to be proud of in the way of accomplishments. No good jobs, no wealth, no education, no connections. Mediocre people who feel most comfortable with other mediocre people. They are not abusive or dysfunctional, just average. Nothing to love for except for their kids or grandkids. So once MIL looked down on me for being snobby, I withdrew. My kids are adults and have minimal relationship and I’m not mad about it. We gave them so much more and my parents too.

This can’t be real. Are people really this self centered and...and...and...f@cked up?!?

Yes, and as in the case above, clearly have custody!!! of their kids. Poor, poor kids.

[Anonymous]

My mom blocked me from having a relationship from my paternal grandparents and any of her family. She has a victim complex and is always right, never wrong.

Now, when DH and I and make our plans about life/whatever without consulting her, she whines that we don't place an emphasis on extended family. Well, duh. Where would I get that from?

I'll never do that to my kids.

[Anonymous]

+1 to all of the above and --ankle fracture??? ANKLE FRACTURE?

[Anonymous]

You cut your mother in law out of your life because she was forwarding you too many memes?

[Anonymous]

Yes, Meghan, it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You cut your mother in law out of your life because she was forwarding you too many memes?

Well, to be fair there was the huge ankle fracture/Whatsapp brouhaha of 2018. Who wouldn't make an enormous fuss over such a monumental slight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh, I also denied my in-laws the joy of having a relationship with my kids. They have nothing else to be proud of in the way of accomplishments. No good jobs, no wealth, no education, no connections. Mediocre people who feel most comfortable with other mediocre people. They are not abusive or dysfunctional, just average. Nothing to love for except for their kids or grandkids. So once MIL looked down on me for being snobby, I withdrew. My kids are adults and have minimal relationship and I’m not mad about it. We gave them so much more and my parents too.

This is pathological so I assume you are trolling.