Nanny wants three days off for 2nd vaccine

[Anonymous]

If you are totally desperate, you can ask her to consider coming in on day 3 if she's feeling better, but the other days are completely reasonable. I felt like total garbage the day after I got my second shot (moderna) and would not have been able to take care of a toddler well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a terrible person. She has the time coming, as you said. This is America's post-slavery era. Suck it up and take care of your own kids for a change. It won't kill you.

Sigh. OP, I agree that she has the time coming and suggest that you give it to her. I know it will be a taxing few days for you but you'll get through it. Please don't let the people who insist on being negative and accusatory get you down or sway you in the wrong direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is never sick but has asked that she take three days off when she gets the second vaccine shot for fear of being sick. She’ll be off for the day of the inoculation as well as the two following days and then the weekend.

It’s going to be really, really hard for us right now with working from home but she definitely has the time coming. And our toddler will have a hard time without her. How can we compromise on this?

How many kids do you have?

[Anonymous]

OP, it's generally more difficult on employers when employees use their rightful benefits, such as sick leave and vacation. That doesn't meant the benefits are not still owed to the employees.

She wants to use a benefit that is in her contract, that you owe her, and to do it responsibly. This is a no-brainer.

[Anonymous]

You don't. If you want to keep her, you give her the days off. If it's going to be really hard for you, then you and DH each take a day off yourselves to watch the kids.

Poor woman, I can't imagine the drama she has to deal with every day.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, OP? DH and I have demanding jobs yet worked from home with a 7 year old and 4 year old all summer. We managed. You can watch ONE toddler for three days. Or you take time off yourself watch the kid. Not sure how people like you survive on the weekends.

[Anonymous]

My boss rescheduled all my meetings for the day or two after my vaccine.

Yikes, OP. You’re mean!

[Anonymous]

Y’all are harsh. OP is going to have to care for her child for two entire days. How is that fair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And our toddler will have a hard time without her.

OP put it this way. Your toddler will have a hard time (or maybe not, actually) whenever it happens - either now or a month from now, or whenever you agree to the nanny's leave - so don't worry about that part. Glad your nanny is soon to be fully vaccinated!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a healthcare provider who was vaccinated at the same time as many others in my practice setting. Two days is adequate. The first 24 hours is when most of my colleagues and I had immune responses, some stronger than others. More than half of us had to use unexpected liberal leave because we were sidelined by the second dose (Pfizer/BioNTech, FWIW).

I had a fever, chills, severe body aches, and nausea/dry heaving with no appetite and needed about 36 hours to feel somewhat normal. It was a combination of feeling like I'd gotten into a fight, had a bad hangover, and was postpartum day 1 after a rough delivery (all things I'd previously experienced).

Assume she will feel like garbage the first day and will need a second day to recover.

If OP’s nanny has the days coming to her, it’s not for OP or YOU to say what’s adequate. She may take her time as she wishes.

[Anonymous]

I would approve her taking the leave and see what happens. She might decide not to take one or two days anyway if her reaction is mild. My nanny had a slightly sore arm but felt well enough to work the day after so she could save her sick leave.

[Anonymous]

Is she using sick time? Is that the issue? I don’t really think this qualifies as sick either.

[Anonymous]

OP, your nanny is being reasonable and warning you just in case.

I have to take three days or so off every time I get the freaking flu shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's generally more difficult on employers when employees use their rightful benefits, such as sick leave and vacation. That doesn't meant the benefits are not still owed to the employees.

She wants to use a benefit that is in her contract, that you owe her, and to do it responsibly. This is a no-brainer.

+1

[Anonymous]

Hard to get good help these days. Everyone wants days off and a paycheck.