Have you ever gone to a wedding of a friend where you knew they were not going to work out
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Anonymous
| Yes, both got divorced within 5 years. It's too bad, as they both wasted their late 20s and early 30s on those bad relationships. One is now living with someone and the other has only seemed to be in toxic relationships, and now she's getting to the point of probably not being able to ever have kids, which she wanted. |
Anonymous
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Yes. My college roommate, one yet after graduating. Married her boss, an older man. Groom showed up at her bachelorette party and they had a physical altercation- so severely that she wore noticeable heavy make up to hide the bruises.
Learned this back story at the reception from a bridesmaid; apparently the bride’s mother urged her to call off the wedding but bride dismissed as drunken mistake. They divorced within one year. |
Anonymous
NP. It's actually not. They had a child together is relevant. You are a jerk, you took a dig, we called you out. |
Anonymous
| Yes and they divorced within a couple years and I distanced myself before that. |
Anonymous
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Yes, a few where it was clear they weren’t in healthy relationships. One broke up last year.
Unfortunately one was my sister. Her best friend and I both tried to talk her out of marrying him but she wouldn’t hear it. I don’t think they will get divorced but they seem so miserable; it’s not a good relationship. |
Anonymous
What? I don't think their child is a punishment, and I wasn't taking a dig. The child is great. I am sorry if I offended anyone. |
Anonymous
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20:12. And another awful wedding; my cousin’s second. She had been a young mom, divorced with a 7 year old.
Groom never married. Huge splashy wedding and reception. Groom painfully shy and was quite literally led around by my cousin table to table to greet everyone and get photos. He acted like he was at a funeral; photos show him looking away and not even touching his bride. Ugh. So awkward and the reception dragged on for too long. Had a child together-surprisingly this marriage lasted about 5 years. |
Anonymous
NP. I didn't take it the way the PP's did at all. I took it like 'poor kid has this guy as a dad- if he was like this as a DH, can you imagine how unsupportive he must be as a parent?' I assumed the divorce was because having the child with SN brought it home for the mother that the calibre of his character was not enough- especially when it really mattered- with kids. But we all bring our own experiences/values to what we read. |
Anonymous
| They were both in college and she was my friend. She had a lot of untreated mental health issues and just needed a lot more time to get herself sorted out. It was short lived and it ended with her cheating on him in a really shocking way, except if you knew her it wasn't at all. 15 years later, she's been mostly single since then and she seems happy. I don't what his deal was or what he was thinking. Any of her friends could have told him and it probably would have been a kindness, but the only time I met him was at the actual wedding. |
Anonymous
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Well, I had a medical emergency and had to cancel my trip, but I was planning to attend a very close childhood friend's wedding that I thought wouldn't last. They now have 3 kids and have been married 9 years.
She does complain about him a lot, and I wouldn't want to be in their relationship. But I'm also doubtful either of them will leave, and she's overall not unhappy. So who knows? It's hard to know a marriage from the outside. On the other side, two friends' marriages I thought were very solid ended up turning horribly toxic and ending in divorce. These things are really hard to predict. |
Anonymous
| Yep, and they’re still married 15 years later. So much for my assessment! |
Anonymous
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Yes. At the reception, the groom introduced me to a friend (male) and said, If things don’t work out with me and Larla, I’ll marry her.” He and I never dated.
He subsequently cheated on Larla a few times, though she was always suspicious. She eventually confirmed his cheating (cloned his phone, placed GPS on his car), they divorced, and it was very contentious. |
Anonymous
I think it was included to show that if you choose a guy that chose you because you were hot, when the difficult stuff comes your way he’ll be unreliable or out. They may have survived a child with fewer challenges, but couldn’t survive a tough situation. The tough situation could have been a spousal illness, having to take care of an ill parent, etc. I am friends with a couple that I thought wouldn’t last, but they but they did for 15 years - the kids were easy, they had good jobs, healthy, etc. Then the wife got cancer, they were divorced in less than 2 years. |
Anonymous
| Many such cases. |
Anonymous
| Yup. And the bride was a friend of mine, but she was an emotional mess. Controlling, insecure, judgmental, and with anger management issues. These negative traits were usually balanced by her positive ones, but she was a total nightmare during the wedding planning -- I was a bridesmaid, and we basically stopped being friends because of how she treated me and her other bridesmaids. She, unsurprisingly, was also hypercritical and controlling of her husband, and they are getting divorced. |