How long does it take to get over the sting of rejection during the admissions process?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We tried to set expectations up front that this process is like entering a lottery. You are quailed to play (apply), but it is somewhat random who wins (gets accepted). DD has been accepted by two “safeties” (good schools she’d be more than happy to attend), and didn’t sweat the deferral she received. There may be more acceptances and of course some rejections coming. It’s all part of the process. Hope your DC lands at a great school and has a great college experience!

Yup, we did this too and it has worked out well. She’ll be pleasantly surprised if she gets in to some schools, but no expectations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am still upset I was rejected from Stanford. This was 1987.

Funny I was rejected from Georgetown in 1991 but my parents wouldn’t pay for NYU. I think that hurt more as I was accepted there.

Sorry, that sucks especially if they could afford it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS was rejected from his top choice a few days ago. He seemed pretty down about it Friday and Saturday.

How long does it take to shake it off and move on?

What about grad school at that school? I was rejected from my dream school and later got a doctorate there. I’m still disappointed about the undergrad decision though.

[Anonymous]

My kid has asked spouse and me if we were rejected anyplace and both spouse and I were rejected at our first choice colleges, so I think DC feels better knowing we went on to have great college and grad school experiences and successful careers. In any event, I suspect your son will bounce back when he gets his first acceptance and like pp said, even more so when you put a deposit down and he all in mentally wherever he will enroll.

[Anonymous]

Where you go is not who you’ll become. Stop overemphasizing the importance of “top” schools.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP. It’s such a hard time right now in general, and it’s so horrible to get a rejection. I think how long it takes to get over it just depends. Some people feel the sting forever and it’s wistful. Grad school there is a great thought!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where you go is not who you’ll become. Stop overemphasizing the importance of “top” schools.

OP here. It wasn't a "top school" from which my DS was rejected -- it was only his "top choice." Still, he's disappointed, although he seems fine about it today (3 days later).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS was rejected from his top choice a few days ago. He seemed pretty down about it Friday and Saturday.

How long does it take to shake it off and move on?

Is there reason to believe he was rejected due to his race (i.e., Asian)?

[Anonymous]

OP, overall it's better if he is rejected by one, at least. Sorry though. Know it hurts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DS was rejected from his top choice a few days ago. He seemed pretty down about it Friday and Saturday.

How long does it take to shake it off and move on?

Is there reason to believe he was rejected due to his race (i.e., Asian)?

Oof, I can relate to this. I was waitlisted by Princeton, and the most enraging aspect is that I might have been admitted if I were born a different race or had lied about my race.

[Anonymous]

OP, my son was deferred from 7 schools right before the holidays--two of them were safeties--and has no acceptances yet. He is very depressed and has given up on school and everything else, over three weeks later. It's awful. I feel for you, but it could be worse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I still haven't gotten over being rejected by CU Boulder.

They rejected me and I got into Harvard. I never thought I had a chance at Harvard when I applied, and only really wanted to live in Boulder. I would have gone to CU if they had taken me.

You sound like you got stung for all of 2 mins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, my son was deferred from 7 schools right before the holidays--two of them were safeties--and has no acceptances yet. He is very depressed and has given up on school and everything else, over three weeks later. It's awful. I feel for you, but it could be worse!

I feel for your child. This year has been so hard and trying to visualize yourself on campus next year is helping kids get through. I think there will be a lot of last minute acceptances, but I can see how kids want something to look forward to now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am still upset I was rejected from Stanford. This was 1987.

Funny I was rejected from Georgetown in 1991 but my parents wouldn’t pay for NYU. I think that hurt more as I was accepted there.

At NYU, $tudent$ are paying for their degree$. NYU is not worth it.

[Anonymous]

I remember in HS, most boys who ask their dream girls out for a date almost always had fallback Safety Sallys and their Forever Maybes.