DH doesn't want to do skin to skin after baby's born.
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Anonymous
| OP, I say this kindly, your hormones are getting the best of you. When I was pregnant I went apes$it over things that, in retrospect, matter not one tiny little bit. Recognize that it's the hormones talking, and let it go. |
Anonymous
| Did not even know this was a thing for dads! DH certainly never did skin to skin. |
Anonymous
| My husband wasn’t comfortable doing skin to skin in the hospital and was very skeptical of the idea at first but he loved it once dc was a week old. |
Anonymous
This is such a good point! I had forgotten but my DH definitely did this with our DC once we got home. I do think that in the L&D room, you need to be realistic about everyone's comfort levels and respectful of certain limitations, because it can be such a stressful time. I mean, if a DH didn't want to hold the baby at all, that would be concerning. But this? Not a big deal. And everyone has their limits. I know women who really wanted their births filmed for instance, and if you'd asked me to do this I would have punched you in the nose. It's okay to have preferences. It doesn't mean you don't love your baby or don't support your partner. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Yes it's a thing. that dads do , shouldn't that be obvious due to it being something he's declinign?
Honestly, this is just another thing that he's been resistant to about the baby. He didn't want to read any pregnancy or parenting books. He did finally look at some websites. He didn't see the need to set up a nursery. I did most of the selection for the registry. The research on cribs, nursery colors, car seats, feeding, etc. The thing is he swears he's always wanted, kids. Cried when he found we were expecting, called everyone. She's supposed to be here in less than a week and he's all non chalant about it and now the no skin to skin thing is bugging me |
Anonymous
| I thought this thread was about the husband not wanting the mom to do skin to skin. He doesn’t want to do it? His body, his choice. |
Anonymous
| For some men, it’s hard for them to get too excited about a baby until they actually sees the baby. You’re carrying this child. You’re feeling him move. It’s very real for you. Your husband may not feel that same reality yet. Give him time, OP. |
Anonymous
| Op drop it. Poor guy I can't imagine this is the only thing you're driving him crazy about |
Anonymous
How many of the family/friends have or had babies and can offer perspective? OP, sit back and let the village work. Also, ruling it out now doesn't mean much. And your hormones will stay crazy for a little while to come. |
Anonymous
| Not sure I’d want my newborn baby up against DH’s big hairy chest. It sounds unsanitary, but that’s just me... |
Anonymous
| Why does he have to do it and what's your problem? |
Anonymous
Wow. Issues on full display. |
Anonymous
Just FYI hair isn't dirty. It's hair. |
Anonymous
Yep, I thought the same thing. |
Anonymous
| I made my husband take domperidonr so he could nurse too but he refused skin ti skin cuz he didn't want ppl to see his breasts. I think he looks handsome and dashing |