Husband insisted on having dinner at in-laws even though I was unwell

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I can’t get past "erm"

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Anonymous wrote:Well your arm hurt. It would have hurt at home too. It’s not like you had the flu and needed to be in bed. I would have just stayed to make MIL happy.

Really?

Her own daughter wasn’t staying. Why is it her daughter in law’s responsibility to stay?

I do agree that OP needed to be assertive and say “Thank you, I need to go home” and if DH tried to railroad her, she should have gotten an UBER.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well your arm hurt. It would have hurt at home too. It’s not like you had the flu and needed to be in bed. I would have just stayed to make MIL happy.

Really?

Her own daughter wasn’t staying. Why is it her daughter in law’s responsibility to stay?

I do agree that OP needed to be assertive and say “Thank you, I need to go home” and if DH tried to railroad her, she should have gotten an UBER.

Because her DIL is married to her son, who wanted to stay. OP was not “unwell” enough to not stay for dinner, which was already prepared. She had somehow managed a full day of activities. It’s a sore arm, not the stomach flu. Take an analgesic, ask for a hot or cold pack, eat dinner That was already made, visit, and then go home. This is hardly an arduous undertaking.

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Next time get in the car and go. Let your husband figure out how to get home on his own. I can’t believe the people saying well you were out and about all day so it wasn’t that bad. Uh, she was out and about all day and the pain often gets worse as the day wears on. OP had probably reached her limit and might not have had any Advil on her to take more. Everyone feels better at home, especially when they’re already tired from being out and socializing the entire day. Team OP l—except grow a spine and leave on your own next time. Let your husband fend for himself.

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Why are you going to a winery and then eating inside with old people during a pandemic? What the hell. Where do you live that this is considered OK behavior? Some Trump state?

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Anonymous wrote:Well your arm hurt. It would have hurt at home too. It’s not like you had the flu and needed to be in bed. I would have just stayed to make MIL happy.

Do you work? I assume you have requested FMLA until your wrist stops hurting.

It's not like you said you stumbled during the winery trip and fell on your wrist and ended up with a bad sprain and possible fracture. If you did, you should have said so. Although kinda sounds like your MIL had had a long day and really wanted to check out for the evening.

That's how I read it, too. MIL was happy to pack the stew "to go" but DH insisted on dining in.

What happened to your arm, OP? Did DH think it was no big deal or that you were malingering?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you going to a winery and then eating inside with old people during a pandemic? What the hell. Where do you live that this is considered OK behavior? Some Trump state?

You sound fun

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you going to a winery and then eating inside with old people during a pandemic? What the hell. Where do you live that this is considered OK behavior? Some Trump state?

This is ok everywhere, pp. Get a grip. We have been in phase 3 for a while.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had a trick elbow that works just fine for things I want to do (drink wine) but no so much for the boring things (dinner with in-laws).

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you going to a winery and then eating inside with old people during a pandemic? What the hell. Where do you live that this is considered OK behavior? Some Trump state?

This is ok everywhere, pp. Get a grip. We have been in phase 3 for a while.

What does "phase 3" mean in this context?

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Anonymous wrote:Can lift a wine glass just fine all day but can't eat a meal.

^Spot on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time get in the car and go. Let your husband figure out how to get home on his own. I can’t believe the people saying well you were out and about all day so it wasn’t that bad. Uh, she was out and about all day and the pain often gets worse as the day wears on. OP had probably reached her limit and might not have had any Advil on her to take more. Everyone feels better at home, especially when they’re already tired from being out and socializing the entire day. Team OP l—except grow a spine and leave on your own next time. Let your husband fend for himself.

This is ridiculous. Surely MIL has Advil. Grow a spine and ask for some. But seriously, I can’t imagine being such a wimp. I once went to a dinner party an hour after I broke two ribs in a farm accident, because I’m not a flake.

[Anonymous]

Team husband for being kind and considerate to his mother. OP sounds jealous.

[Anonymous]

You didn't want to stay and MIL didn't want you to stay but everyone deferred to the man. Interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Next time get in the car and go. Let your husband figure out how to get home on his own. I can’t believe the people saying well you were out and about all day so it wasn’t that bad. Uh, she was out and about all day and the pain often gets worse as the day wears on. OP had probably reached her limit and might not have had any Advil on her to take more. Everyone feels better at home, especially when they’re already tired from being out and socializing the entire day. Team OP l—except grow a spine and leave on your own next time. Let your husband fend for himself.

This is ridiculous. Surely MIL has Advil. Grow a spine and ask for some. But seriously, I can’t imagine being such a wimp. I once went to a dinner party an hour after I broke two ribs in a farm accident, because I’m not a flake.

No you're a fake martyr.