Major crush on boss

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is no way to date your boss without it affecting the overall morale and discipline of everyone else that works with you.

First, check with HR. Next, before things get to serious, see if there is another position in your company you could be moved to so you don't work in his chain. If not, plan on finding other employment.

why bother, if things go bad, you have the claim not him. Your failure to inform HR does not get them out of a harassment or hostile workplace suit

[Anonymous]

Go for it. If you think he's marriage material, and not just a fling --- go for it. He probably needs -you- to initiate so it wouldn't be worplace sexual harrassment. Most people meet their spouse in the workplace. Go for it. Don't put it off.

[Anonymous]

^ btw, I'm probably old enough to be your mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need tips on how to make this go away. We are both 100% single, but he is my boss.

If I met him outside of work, I would 100% want to date him. The more personal conversations we have, the more boxes he is checking.

I am not 100% sure if the he feels the same...maybe he is just bored with the pandemic. We have spent a considerable amount of time together - drinks/food after work that turn into us shutting down the restaurant. Which yes, maybe not going to these would be helpful...

Has anyone had this situation not explode?

OP, get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need tips on how to make this go away. We are both 100% single, but he is my boss.

If I met him outside of work, I would 100% want to date him. The more personal conversations we have, the more boxes he is checking.

I am not 100% sure if the he feels the same...maybe he is just bored with the pandemic. We have spent a considerable amount of time together - drinks/food after work that turn into us shutting down the restaurant. Which yes, maybe not going to these would be helpful...

Has anyone had this situation not explode?

OP, get a life.

Aren’t you a peach

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need tips on how to make this go away. We are both 100% single, but he is my boss.

If I met him outside of work, I would 100% want to date him. The more personal conversations we have, the more boxes he is checking.

I am not 100% sure if the he feels the same...maybe he is just bored with the pandemic. We have spent a considerable amount of time together - drinks/food after work that turn into us shutting down the restaurant. Which yes, maybe not going to these would be helpful...

Has anyone had this situation not explode?

Then when it goes bad you can sue him and your employer! What a win/win for you!

[Anonymous]

Has he been married before

[Anonymous]

One of my cousins married his French boss and they now live in Paris.
I’ve never been interested in any of my bosses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has he been married before

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no way to date your boss without it affecting the overall morale and discipline of everyone else that works with you.

First, check with HR. Next, before things get to serious, see if there is another position in your company you could be moved to so you don't work in his chain. If not, plan on finding other employment.

why bother, if things go bad, you have the claim not him. Your failure to inform HR does not get them out of a harassment or hostile workplace suit

This is not necessarily true. If there is a policy in place prohibiting supervisor subordinate relationships they would both be in violation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP -- you don't need to make the feelings go away, but you also don't need to make any decisions yet. there is absolutely no rush for such a consequential decision. If he is the one for you, then you can actually totally sit on this decision for a year or more as you figure out how to move other things around in your life and workplace to be with him.

The rush to act on impulses -- this is something you have total control over. exercise that control. If he's your soulmate, it can wait.

+1 take your time and enjoy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP -- you don't need to make the feelings go away, but you also don't need to make any decisions yet. there is absolutely no rush for such a consequential decision. If he is the one for you, then you can actually totally sit on this decision for a year or more as you figure out how to move other things around in your life and workplace to be with him.

The rush to act on impulses -- this is something you have total control over. exercise that control. If he's your soulmate, it can wait.

+1 take your time and enjoy

How does one just live in the crush? I find it very distracting...I am also not someone who sits on stuff..DC personality.

This is fairly new problem - I do a lot of online dating so there isn’t a lot of ambiguity.

Ah, just a bit annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just be prepared to lose your job. If you can do that, then I say go for it.

Usually, the woman loses out in this situation. Almost always, the subordinate does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you decide to date, one of you should look for another job before you go to far. Work is a great place to meet someone because you really get to see what they're like without alcohol. You can tell how responsible and hard working they are. But, yeah, you need to tread carefully here. Take it real slow.

LoL

[Anonymous]

Has he been married before

Yes.

Not good