Past lover came to party - my husband is pissed

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you tell the truth. Did you lie about being a virgin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't want to tell your husband you dated him, you shouldn't have invited him to the party.

This. That’s a weird thing to do. I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to invite an ex over to a party at our house.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Why would you bring a guy you had sex with to your home?

[Anonymous]

I’m with your husband on this one. It’s disrespectful to him and your marriage to do that, surely you knew your husband would not like the idea of someone who banged his wife breaking bread in his home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you didn't want to tell your husband you dated him, you shouldn't have invited him to the party.

Agreed and I’m a DW.

[Anonymous]

What was your old boyfriend’s fav position? Does your DH know?

[Anonymous]

Just tell him that it was a long time ago, and it was during group sex so it hardly even counts that it was your lover. It kind of only counts as half or like a quarter of a lover.
That lesser amount should use his mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's strange that your husband is making a big deal of it, and it's strange that you tried to hide it. I wouldn't introduce him as "my old lover" in the moment but I would have let my DH know before he showed up that we had a couple of dates or he was my only boyfriend in grad school or whatever the situation was. Your DH is upset because you were being sneaky and he looked dumb in front of your friend later.

And party + hanging out with a girlfriend a couple of days later: nobody believes you're social distancing so don't even bother.

I just did not want to open up a can of worms. It was a while ago. Would never happen again. Just thought it would be nice to re connect. So I thought I would take the path of least resistance and things didn't turn out that way

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Anonymous wrote:It's strange that your husband is making a big deal of it, and it's strange that you tried to hide it. I wouldn't introduce him as "my old lover" in the moment but I would have let my DH know before he showed up that we had a couple of dates or he was my only boyfriend in grad school or whatever the situation was. Your DH is upset because you were being sneaky and he looked dumb in front of your friend later.

And party + hanging out with a girlfriend a couple of days later: nobody believes you're social distancing so don't even bother.

I just did not want to open up a can of worms. It was a while ago. Would never happen again. Just thought it would be nice to re connect. So I thought I would take the path of least resistance and things didn't turn out that way

You were wrong and stupid. I am sure you realize it by now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m with your husband on this one. It’s disrespectful to him and your marriage to do that, surely you knew your husband would not like the idea of someone who banged his wife breaking bread in his home.

Yes for sure I figured my husband wouldn't like the idea. Since it really was an innocent invite, I just let sleeping dogs lie. I just thought there would be no point to giving details of something from long ago that has no bearing on anything today

[Anonymous]

His ego is bruised...
Just tell him not to worry, that this guy wasn't the biggest or the best you've ever had. You had much bigger and better many other times. DH shouldn't worry himself about this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's strange that your husband is making a big deal of it, and it's strange that you tried to hide it. I wouldn't introduce him as "my old lover" in the moment but I would have let my DH know before he showed up that we had a couple of dates or he was my only boyfriend in grad school or whatever the situation was. Your DH is upset because you were being sneaky and he looked dumb in front of your friend later.

And party + hanging out with a girlfriend a couple of days later: nobody believes you're social distancing so don't even bother.

I just did not want to open up a can of worms. It was a while ago. Would never happen again. Just thought it would be nice to re connect. So I thought I would take the path of least resistance and things didn't turn out that way

So you were intentionally hiding it from your DH. That's why he's mad. If it meant nothing to you he wouldn't be mad, but no one wants to be infantilized and treated like they can't handle the truth. Plus you made him look like an idiot when your friend brought it up and he's clearly clueless. Stop having parties during a pandemic and stop sneaking your exes into your house behind your husband's back. This isn't rocket science.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m with your husband on this one. It’s disrespectful to him and your marriage to do that, surely you knew your husband would not like the idea of someone who banged his wife breaking bread in his home.

Yes for sure I figured my husband wouldn't like the idea. Since it really was an innocent invite, I just let sleeping dogs lie. I just thought there would be no point to giving details of something from long ago that has no bearing on anything today

If he had invited old girlfriend he had sex with, wouldn’t you be upset too?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m with your husband on this one. It’s disrespectful to him and your marriage to do that, surely you knew your husband would not like the idea of someone who banged his wife breaking bread in his home.

Yes for sure I figured my husband wouldn't like the idea. Since it really was an innocent invite, I just let sleeping dogs lie. I just thought there would be no point to giving details of something from long ago that has no bearing on anything today

If he had invited old girlfriend he had sex with, wouldn’t you be upset too?

Only if she was hotter than OP. Otherwise, who would be jealous of an ugly GF?

Oh, maybe that's it. The ex boyfriend was a looker.