How do I get my 10 yr old to move more? worried about her weight

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Anonymous wrote:10yr old DD was a very active child pre-covid. She ran 5Ks every 3-4 months, played flag football once a week in fall, lacrosse 3 times a week in fall and spring, basketball 3 times a week in winter, and karate 3 times a week year round. Then covid came. Everything stopped (flag football and basketball were over). Karate went online and is limited. DD seems to have gained significant weight. I notice she moves less and eats more (sometimes out of boredom). She doesn't eat unhealthy food but she eats a lot of food. Yesterday she stepped on a scale and I was shocked!!! She's 4'11" and 97 lbs. She is on the cusp of being overweight and she used to be a skinny girl. I don't want to give her body image issues or a complex so I have said nothing.

I m a runner. I plan to ask her to start running with me at least one time a week. I run about 5 miles but will see if she can do 1 mile. She used to run 5Ks but now I'm not sure she can run a mile without stopping. How else can I encourage more movement to get this under control?

Is this satire? That’s a 19.6 BMI.

People really need to understand that children are on a different BMI scale. My 10 year old daughter has a BMI of 14.7. That is considered normal and not underweight.

What is her height and weight?

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4'11 and 97 pounds for a 10 yo girl sounds normal to me. Some girls have their biggest growth spurt around that age.

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My son is 5'0 and 100 pounds and is skinny. You can see his ribcage.

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Running is insanely boring. You can’t expect to replace all that fun stuff with something so dull. Get creative about opportunities for physical fun.

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds like she's an early grower. My DD is 4' 5" (on the shorter side) and 60 lbs (petite). Honestly, 97 lbs doesn't sound unreasonable for being almost 5 feet tall. Are you sure that's overweight?

Not OP but I used the stats she gave and read this:

The information you provided gives a BMI of 19.6.

This puts your child in the 80th percentile, which means your child is at an ideal weight. An ideal BMI for your child's gender and age is between 14.2 and 20.3 .

Having an ideal weight means the calories your child is getting from food are balanced out with his or her level of physical activity. Keep in mind, though, that some calories are nutritious and others aren't. Your child may eat the right amount of food for a healthy weight, but still not get all the nutrients needed for good overall health. That's why it's still important to encourage your child to eat nutritious foods and get plenty of exercise. Good habits learned now will last a lifetime.

80th percentile

So the child is not overweight but close. 20.3-19.6 is only 0.7. I think people here gave you a lot of good advice and I think you want to focus on moving to feel good not to have a certain body. Do you know how much she has gained since covid?

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Anonymous wrote:4'11 and 97 pounds for a 10 yo girl sounds normal to me. Some girls have their biggest growth spurt around that age.

I was thinking the same thing. My mom is the "tall" girl in her family and was 5'4" by age 12 and then stopped. This doesn't seem out of the norm or even overweight at all. I think you just liked having a thinner than average daughter and now you don't like having a normal (read NOT fat, just average) daughter.

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Lots of kids around that age chunk up before they start growing. My kid was puffy from about the age of 10. He’s 12 now and has grown about an inch a month during quarantine. Keep her active because she’s bored and needs to change up a routine, but it’s not about weight now.

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OP here - thank you everyone for the helpful advice. I really appreciate it. I will concede my daughter is not overweight but my concern comes from what appears to be a major shift in weight. I don't know how much she gained but it looks substantial to me. So it's not that she is overweight, it's that she looks like there was a huge weight gain and that concerns me.

I like the idea of providing more structure in meals, eating together more, letting her choose an activity to do outside, having her do chores if she chooses to stay inside, etc... I also would never mention weight to her.

10 yr old DD does have an older sibling she can play with and be active with. We have the opposite problem with her older sibling. Her older sibling is underweight and we are working with a Dr. to help her. She is on meds that she needs to function but the meds suppress her appetite so it's a whole other issue. She is 12 and 5'6 and 86 lbs, I worry about her daily. I don't want either of my kids to be on the extreme ends. I just want healthy and happy kids.

[Anonymous]

4th-6th grade seems to be a ''fat'' age for a lot of kids I know. Definitely keep her exercising and eating well and everything will fall into place.

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I noticed a lot of my 10 year old's super sporty peers have grown a ton or started showing signs of puberty or put on a bit of weight since Covid began.

I think the sudden cessation of all these sports has perhaps allowed their bodies to catch up a bit or push forward into puberty. It's ok - it's what's going to happen!

Just keep healthy foods available. I would bet she shoots up in the next 6 months.

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I have a similar issue so just following

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Parenting fail.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here - thank you everyone for the helpful advice. I really appreciate it. I will concede my daughter is not overweight but my concern comes from what appears to be a major shift in weight. I don't know how much she gained but it looks substantial to me. So it's not that she is overweight, it's that she looks like there was a huge weight gain and that concerns me.

I like the idea of providing more structure in meals, eating together more, letting her choose an activity to do outside, having her do chores if she chooses to stay inside, etc... I also would never mention weight to her.

10 yr old DD does have an older sibling she can play with and be active with. We have the opposite problem with her older sibling. Her older sibling is underweight and we are working with a Dr. to help her. She is on meds that she needs to function but the meds suppress her appetite so it's a whole other issue. She is 12 and 5'6 and 86 lbs, I worry about her daily. I don't want either of my kids to be on the extreme ends. I just want healthy and happy kids.

Yeah. YOu need to focus on the 12 yo. The 10 yo is perfectly normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:10yr old DD was a very active child pre-covid. She ran 5Ks every 3-4 months, played flag football once a week in fall, lacrosse 3 times a week in fall and spring, basketball 3 times a week in winter, and karate 3 times a week year round. Then covid came. Everything stopped (flag football and basketball were over). Karate went online and is limited. DD seems to have gained significant weight. I notice she moves less and eats more (sometimes out of boredom). She doesn't eat unhealthy food but she eats a lot of food. Yesterday she stepped on a scale and I was shocked!!! She's 4'11" and 97 lbs. She is on the cusp of being overweight and she used to be a skinny girl. I don't want to give her body image issues or a complex so I have said nothing.

I m a runner. I plan to ask her to start running with me at least one time a week. I run about 5 miles but will see if she can do 1 mile. She used to run 5Ks but now I'm not sure she can run a mile without stopping. How else can I encourage more movement to get this under control?

Is this satire? That’s a 19.6 BMI.

Yes. It is within the norm, but on the actual exact percentage of being overweight.OP should worry that she decided to be a lazy parent. She finds time to run on her own, but leaves her 10 year old to sit around all day long.Weight is not even the issue here. Not doing things with you child is.

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Seriously op? You posted about your 10 year old when you have an older child that needs professional help gaining weight? Is she on a stimulant? If so, who cares if she gets bad grades, or is hyper, she is malnourished! Stop the meds and have your child get healthy.
You should have posted, any tips on how to get my kid to eat? Instead you are telling your girls that the healthy one is doing something wrong? Bcs you are, girls know, your dd knows that you think she is getting fat.