If you don’t need the childcare, is the responsible thing to keep your young children out of school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you all realize a nanny is way less safe? You have no clue what the nanny is doing at home and if she gets sick you’re screwed.

A well run preschool is safer and you have a backup if a teacher has to leave.

How do you figure this? At a preschool or school, not only do you not know what the teacher is doing, you have no idea what the backup teachers, admins, or other children and their families are doing. With a nanny you have one variable. With schools you can have dozens.

[Anonymous]

For preschool/daycare - yes. I do get judge when I see this particular mother drop her child off at all day preschool with aftercare so the mother can have some peace while her nanny takes care of the baby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you all realize a nanny is way less safe? You have no clue what the nanny is doing at home and if she gets sick you’re screwed.

A well run preschool is safer and you have a backup if a teacher has to leave.

How do you figure this? At a preschool or school, not only do you not know what the teacher is doing, you have no idea what the backup teachers, admins, or other children and their families are doing. With a nanny you have one variable. With schools you can have dozens.

Well, my kid’s preschool has been open this entire time with no cases. I trust them way more than a nanny who goes home and I have no clue what she’s doing.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter if it's "responsible" it matters if it's the choice you want to make for your family. Can you afford it? Would your child benefit? Would you benefit? Would you feel safe? If the answer to those questions is yes, then use it. If the answer to those questions is no then don't use it.

Don't worry about what other people are or aren't doing, just figure out if it's the right decision for your family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you all realize a nanny is way less safe? You have no clue what the nanny is doing at home and if she gets sick you’re screwed.

A well run preschool is safer and you have a backup if a teacher has to leave.

How do you figure this? At a preschool or school, not only do you not know what the teacher is doing, you have no idea what the backup teachers, admins, or other children and their families are doing. With a nanny you have one variable. With schools you can have dozens.

Well, my kid’s preschool has been open this entire time with no cases. I trust them way more than a nanny who goes home and I have no clue what she’s doing.

You have no clue what the teachers and other parents are doing when they go home at night either!! You trust various underpaid teachers and parents you don’t even know more than ONE nanny who’s become like family to you?! You’re goofy, PP.

And the bar where the local college kids hang out hasn’t had one reported case either. That bar and your school, so far, are just lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter if it's "responsible" it matters if it's the choice you want to make for your family. Can you afford it? Would your child benefit? Would you benefit? Would you feel safe? If the answer to those questions is yes, then use it. If the answer to those questions is no then don't use it.

Don't worry about what other people are or aren't doing, just figure out if it's the right decision for your family.

In the general picture, I agree. In this very specific case of a highly contagious virus, I completely disagree. We have to stop thinking as individuals and start thinking of our community as a whole.

Yes, OP, if you can keep your kids out of daycare and school, the most responsible thing is to do it. It’s not just about “your family”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For preschool/daycare - yes. I do get judge when I see this particular mother drop her child off at all day preschool with aftercare so the mother can have some peace while her nanny takes care of the baby.

+1. I judge, too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you all realize a nanny is way less safe? You have no clue what the nanny is doing at home and if she gets sick you’re screwed.

A well run preschool is safer and you have a backup if a teacher has to leave.

How do you figure this? At a preschool or school, not only do you not know what the teacher is doing, you have no idea what the backup teachers, admins, or other children and their families are doing. With a nanny you have one variable. With schools you can have dozens.

Well, my kid’s preschool has been open this entire time with no cases. I trust them way more than a nanny who goes home and I have no clue what she’s doing.

You have no clue what the teachers and other parents are doing when they go home at night either!! You trust various underpaid teachers and parents you don’t even know more than ONE nanny who’s become like family to you?! You’re goofy, PP.

And the bar where the local college kids hang out hasn’t had one reported case either. That bar and your school, so far, are just lucky.

My kid’s school is required to report cases so yes — I do know what’s going on with COVID there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter if it's "responsible" it matters if it's the choice you want to make for your family. Can you afford it? Would your child benefit? Would you benefit? Would you feel safe? If the answer to those questions is yes, then use it. If the answer to those questions is no then don't use it.

Don't worry about what other people are or aren't doing, just figure out if it's the right decision for your family.

In the general picture, I agree. In this very specific case of a highly contagious virus, I completely disagree. We have to stop thinking as individuals and start thinking of our community as a whole.

Yes, OP, if you can keep your kids out of daycare and school, the most responsible thing is to do it. It’s not just about “your family”.

You realize this area has had zero outbreaks sourced to a preschool. But sure — continue to judge.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you all realize a nanny is way less safe? You have no clue what the nanny is doing at home and if she gets sick you’re screwed.

A well run preschool is safer and you have a backup if a teacher has to leave.

How do you figure this? At a preschool or school, not only do you not know what the teacher is doing, you have no idea what the backup teachers, admins, or other children and their families are doing. With a nanny you have one variable. With schools you can have dozens.

Well, my kid’s preschool has been open this entire time with no cases. I trust them way more than a nanny who goes home and I have no clue what she’s doing.

You have no clue what the teachers and other parents are doing when they go home at night either!! You trust various underpaid teachers and parents you don’t even know more than ONE nanny who’s become like family to you?! You’re goofy, PP.

And the bar where the local college kids hang out hasn’t had one reported case either. That bar and your school, so far, are just lucky.

My kid’s school is required to report cases so yes — I do know what’s going on with COVID there.

Even if that were true and they were reporting honestly, they haven’t had a case YET, and fifteen asymptomatic kids, teacher and parents could show up tomorrow.

Your reasoning is deeply flawed, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter if it's "responsible" it matters if it's the choice you want to make for your family. Can you afford it? Would your child benefit? Would you benefit? Would you feel safe? If the answer to those questions is yes, then use it. If the answer to those questions is no then don't use it.

Don't worry about what other people are or aren't doing, just figure out if it's the right decision for your family.

In the general picture, I agree. In this very specific case of a highly contagious virus, I completely disagree. We have to stop thinking as individuals and start thinking of our community as a whole.

Yes, OP, if you can keep your kids out of daycare and school, the most responsible thing is to do it. It’s not just about “your family”.

You realize this area has had zero outbreaks sourced to a preschool. But sure — continue to judge.

YET. And I’m not judging as my kid is in daycare. But to say daycare/preschool is safer than having one nanny and isolating is patently ridiculous. Of course staying home with a nanny is less risk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Send them or don't, that's a personal decision. The way you're framing it as the "responsible thing" sounds like you are ready to judge other parents who send their kids who don't meet some arbitrary criteria in your head, and I can't really get on board with that.

DP here. The criteria as I read it is “need the childcare”. Not that arbitrary, PP.

DP. Arbitrary in that many of us view school as much more than just childcare, although it functions as childcare too. I agree - can't get on board with the judgment.

+1

It’s also arbitrary because many people seem to think that WAH parents don’t “need” childcare for their young kids. This thing can’t turn into the Martyr Olympics, even more than it already has.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you all realize a nanny is way less safe? You have no clue what the nanny is doing at home and if she gets sick you’re screwed.

A well run preschool is safer and you have a backup if a teacher has to leave.

How do you figure this? At a preschool or school, not only do you not know what the teacher is doing, you have no idea what the backup teachers, admins, or other children and their families are doing. With a nanny you have one variable. With schools you can have dozens.

Well, my kid’s preschool has been open this entire time with no cases. I trust them way more than a nanny who goes home and I have no clue what she’s doing.

You have no clue what the teachers and other parents are doing when they go home at night either!! You trust various underpaid teachers and parents you don’t even know more than ONE nanny who’s become like family to you?! You’re goofy, PP.

And the bar where the local college kids hang out hasn’t had one reported case either. That bar and your school, so far, are just lucky.

My kid’s school is required to report cases so yes — I do know what’s going on with COVID there.

Even if that were true and they were reporting honestly, they haven’t had a case YET, and fifteen asymptomatic kids, teacher and parents could show up tomorrow.

Your reasoning is deeply flawed, PP.

If 15 asymptomatic people show up to a daycare and no one gets sick enough to be tested, much less hospitalized, did anything actually happen?

[Anonymous]

To some extent. Would never feel right dropping my kids off so I can come home and sit on the sofa knowing they’re in harms way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't matter if it's "responsible" it matters if it's the choice you want to make for your family. Can you afford it? Would your child benefit? Would you benefit? Would you feel safe? If the answer to those questions is yes, then use it. If the answer to those questions is no then don't use it.

Don't worry about what other people are or aren't doing, just figure out if it's the right decision for your family.

In the general picture, I agree. In this very specific case of a highly contagious virus, I completely disagree. We have to stop thinking as individuals and start thinking of our community as a whole.

Yes, OP, if you can keep your kids out of daycare and school, the most responsible thing is to do it. It’s not just about “your family”.

You realize this area has had zero outbreaks sourced to a preschool. But sure — continue to judge.

“Outbreaks” but would you feel comfortable with two cases in your class? Would never get officially reported it trust me is happening.