terrified of death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m right there with you. We’re all in the same boat. Sounds trite but try to focus on really being present, grateful & enjoying every day. There are no guarantees & you have very little / no control. Just enjoy the hell out of every day you have. Hope your therapist helps. Big hugs.

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[Anonymous]

I'm afraid of my loved ones dying, but I'm not afraid of me dying. I'd rather not go in a painful way though. Also try to find joy every day.

[Anonymous]

With you, OP. I don't want to be ok with it, either. I love being alive.

[Anonymous]

OP the pandemic is really bringing our mortality to the front of our minds. Fear of death is a manifestation of anxiety. Make sure you are treating your anxiety in your therapy, not just focusing on this one specific fear. Mindfulness meditation is very beneficial and you can do it easily at home for 15 minutes a day. There are tons of good programs out there and on youtube, calm.com, and other apps. Some are free and some are low cost. JackKornfield.com has a program starting soon for $29 that teaches basic mindfulness meditation. He is wonderful.

[Anonymous]

p.s. thinking about death a lot can also be a symptom of depression. Make sure you are exercising and getting enough sunlight. Vitamin D is important for mood as well, plus boosts your immune system.

[Anonymous]

I'm mostly worried about dying while my kids still need me but then I think about how they have the most amazing dad and they would be OK without me (if very sad for a while).

Our time is brief. We are all part of a much greater, mysterious whole: Gaya, Mother Nature, God, the Universe -- however you want to think about it. We are tiny specks. If I contribute a little positivity during my time it will have been a good life.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if this is helpful, but I'll note I've never been afraid of death. At a purely intellectual level, I don't think there's any reason to be. Besides the obvious fact that you can't avoid it forever, there's nothing for you to fear in death itself. You will never observe or be aware of being dead, because at that point, you'll no longer exist.

Said another way, from your own perspective, you will live forever, because you will never experience anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this in all seriousness. Get yourself some magic mushrooms. Get yourself in a safe place for a day with a trusted friend and some good music. You will feel differently about death afterward. You deserve the peace that will bring.

Yes, I was reading How to change your mind. Somebody said everybody who is dying deserves this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm afraid of my loved ones dying, but I'm not afraid of me dying. I'd rather not go in a painful way though. Also try to find joy every day.

This. I assume being dead won’t hurt. But the pain of losing my spouse or children would be worse than death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if this is helpful, but I'll note I've never been afraid of death. At a purely intellectual level, I don't think there's any reason to be. Besides the obvious fact that you can't avoid it forever, there's nothing for you to fear in death itself. You will never observe or be aware of being dead, because at that point, you'll no longer exist.

Said another way, from your own perspective, you will live forever, because you will never experience anything else.

Agreed. We are all going to die someday. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when.

[Anonymous]

I have to fight every day not to embrace death. I envy your fear.

[Anonymous]

I think about this constantly, it makes me so sad. I don’t want to die, it’s just so unfair. I’m scared of what happens after death, I can’t imagine not existing or not having any thoughts again.

I’m scared to accidentally die and leave a lot of things unfinished.

[Anonymous]

Quantum physics? There are theories that consciousness creates the universe, not the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Watch this. It will change how you think of death...

I think many are fearful to die without fulfilling our obligations regarding family and loved one. But, if our responsibilities are met and we are assured that the future generation is settled well, then it is easy to let go after a certain age.

Perhaps this pandemic and the global climate change is a way for the human population to be drastically reduced. I don't know what kind of a world we will see next but it makes sense for us to have fewer children and fewer humans, if we all are living longer lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if this is helpful, but I'll note I've never been afraid of death. At a purely intellectual level, I don't think there's any reason to be. Besides the obvious fact that you can't avoid it forever, there's nothing for you to fear in death itself. You will never observe or be aware of being dead, because at that point, you'll no longer exist.

Said another way, from your own perspective, you will live forever, because you will never experience anything else.

Well said.