terrified of death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am terrified of being buried. I know this makes zero sense. I do have some claustrophobia and the idea of somehow waking up and realizing I am locked in a box is too unbearable to think about.

I wonder if a therapist could help with this. It’s not just about the claustrophobia. The idea of being cremated also is anxiety producing.

Again, I know it is all completely irrational. But when I think of death it always takes me to the point where I either am truly not gone and wake up and terrifying circumstances or I am truly dead but my “spirit” experiences that terror.

I feel stupid writing this. It’s almost not even the death itself. This started when I had this dream where I felt all floaty and realized with horror I was actually dead.

Hi I’m the OP. I used to fear this too, and decomposing . But I’ve figured there’s practically zero chance for any afterlife or consciousness after death so you can’t be claustrophobic when you are dead. There’s no consciousness . There’s nothing. Theres no more you .

Remember the Poe story, "Premature Burial"? I'm getting cremated for sure!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am terrified of being buried. I know this makes zero sense. I do have some claustrophobia and the idea of somehow waking up and realizing I am locked in a box is too unbearable to think about.

I wonder if a therapist could help with this. It’s not just about the claustrophobia. The idea of being cremated also is anxiety producing.

Again, I know it is all completely irrational. But when I think of death it always takes me to the point where I either am truly not gone and wake up and terrifying circumstances or I am truly dead but my “spirit” experiences that terror.

I feel stupid writing this. It’s almost not even the death itself. This started when I had this dream where I felt all floaty and realized with horror I was actually dead.

Hi I’m the OP. I used to fear this too, and decomposing . But I’ve figured there’s practically zero chance for any afterlife or consciousness after death so you can’t be claustrophobic when you are dead. There’s no consciousness . There’s nothing. Theres no more you .

Remember the Poe story, "Premature Burial"? I'm getting cremated for sure!

It’s impossible to be buried alive these days . Also if you are claustrophobic you get cremeated in a coffin, even if it’s cardboard it’s tiny . If there’s a remote chance of a resurrection id need my bones. Anyways we Jews don’t cremate . Also if you get cremated they do an autopsy. No fIng way am I getting an autopsy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Say if there is a God and an afterlife but God doesn’t confirm it. That in itself is psychological abuse . Imagine the good it would do the world if God appeared said be good, don’t harm others and you’ll be rewarded with eternal life . That would drastically change life on earth. I think it would prevent most crimes. But let’s be honest, God probably doesn’t exist

Our friends over on the religion forum will tell you that God has confirmed it, through His Son. The Bible reportedly has the confirmation you seek. For the record, I'm agnostic and had a near death experience. I experienced a light and indescribable peace, but no Jesus or God or angels or loved ones and that didn't detract from the "place".

Assume Jesus is the son of God for a moment. It that is confirmation why do it in a way that would take hundreds of years for people to find out ? Why not appear in the sky and tell the whole world at once?

[Anonymous]

As an atheist, I don't fear death.

Suffering as I'm dying, sure. But not death. We have but one life, and to waste my days thinking about being dead is such a waste.

[Anonymous]

Op here: I’m also apparently rapidly losing weight. I’m injured so I can barely exercise. I haven’t eaten as much these past few weeks but I lost about 5 lbs between my appointment with my PA and my cardiologist. Maybe 4 days? Making me think these chest pains are cancer .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so scared of ... knowing we have such a short stint here,
Seeing a therapist. So scared and sad, knowing how brief it all is.
Ideas?

Are you atheist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so scared of ... knowing we have such a short stint here,
Seeing a therapist. So scared and sad, knowing how brief it all is.
Ideas?

Are you atheist?

Agnostic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so scared of ... knowing we have such a short stint here,
Seeing a therapist. So scared and sad, knowing how brief it all is.
Ideas?

Are you atheist?

Agnostic

Oh crap I thought this was the topic i started . This post Abd the other about my weight loss are not the OP. I’m someone else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so scared of ... knowing we have such a short stint here,
Seeing a therapist. So scared and sad, knowing how brief it all is.
Ideas?

Are you atheist?

Agnostic

Oh crap I thought this was the topic i started . This post Abd the other about my weight loss are not the OP. I’m someone else

I know that your post re weight loss was not intended for this thread, but a 4 lb difference can be attributed to different scales, a bowel movement, a different time of day, water weight, anything. That doesn’t sound like cancer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so scared of ... knowing we have such a short stint here,
Seeing a therapist. So scared and sad, knowing how brief it all is.
Ideas?

Are you atheist?

Agnostic

Oh crap I thought this was the topic i started . This post Abd the other about my weight loss are not the OP. I’m someone else

I know that your post re weight loss was not intended for this thread, but a 4 lb difference can be attributed to different scales, a bowel movement, a different time of day, water weight, anything. That doesn’t sound like cancer!

I’ll weigh myself tomorrow for my echo . People have started to say things to me. So I may have lost more weight

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so scared of ... knowing we have such a short stint here,
Seeing a therapist. So scared and sad, knowing how brief it all is.
Ideas?

Are you atheist?

Agnostic

Oh crap I thought this was the topic i started . This post Abd the other about my weight loss are not the OP. I’m someone else

I know that your post re weight loss was not intended for this thread, but a 4 lb difference can be attributed to different scales, a bowel movement, a different time of day, water weight, anything. That doesn’t sound like cancer!

I’ll weigh myself tomorrow for my echo . People have started to say things to me. So I may have lost more weight

Dp who will throw in that I lost 12 pounds in a very short time due to anxiety. I stopped weighing myself so frequently and I only check once a month. I understand you may be having some health issues. That will definitely stoke anxiety. Also, make sure you are drinking enough fluids. Take care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I used to be afraid of death. And then I lost my husband four years ago. I was with him when he died. I completely lost my fear of death after this experience, but after seeing his deceased body, I also knew at that moment that there isn't an 'afterlife'.

As a child, I was always scared that my parents will die. Especially, worried about how I would continue to live if my parents were not in this world. It was truly my cross to bear. When my dad actually died, I, of course, missed him very much, but the reality of that particular death was freeing to me. I realized that by being fearful of his death, in my mind I was reacting as is he was dead. The misery was created by my mind. Now, after grieving the loss of his physical body, but now having my memories and thinking of him, he is alive for me in my mind and I have not really lost him.

I don't know if there is an afterlife, but I feel my dad is more "accessible" to me now in some ways because he is free of his physical body that kept him immobilized in another country. For me, he is not on this plane, but I can really tap into what I used to feel as a child when I depended on him. I can have a quick convo with him when I go for an interview for example "Hey Pops, I am going for this interview. Wish me luck." and I feel the same kind of security when he was there. Of course, he is not there to "fix" things for me when they break, but his philosophy of "something better will come around" or "you have learned something from this experience" now informs my living.

If there an afterlife? Maybe, maybe not. But, the construct of the mind can make things hell or heaven. My mind has actually been ok even after his death and I am largely ok and happy in his memory. So for my mind, he is living and well.

This is beautiful. I’m sorry for your loss but really respect the way you’ve embraced his memory.