terrified of death

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An Indian book called The Gita says about living - we are seen between two unseens. There is no sorrow in that.

Truly, death is easy and painless and I am here to say that what comes after is even better, not in any cheesy sense of heaven and bright lights, but trust me, it is. The fetus takes a leap of faith to come out into the world from the only place he knows. But they do it, and where they come out is even better. Trust me.

And you would know this because, what, you are now dead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We will all die. Shit happens. Love your loved ones and kids, give them the tools to do well after you’re gone. That’s all we can do.

Np The sentiment you wrote would have worked without this sentence! Must we all be so crude?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say this in all seriousness. Get yourself some magic mushrooms. Get yourself in a safe place for a day with a trusted friend and some good music. You will feel differently about death afterward. You deserve the peace that will bring.

Not Op, but where does someone find a quality mushroom? This is coming from someone who has never done any drugs. What type of “magic” mushroom specifically are you talking about? Are there different types? Is this available from a medical marijuana place? Holland?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to fight every day not to embrace death. I envy your fear.

We fight not to embrace death with every breath in a physiological sense. Death will happen eventually. The best death is when our body decides to gracefully exist by letting life go. Fear not death. Fear the cowardice that does not allow you to live fully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be afraid of death. And then I lost my husband four years ago. I was with him when he died. I completely lost my fear of death after this experience, but after seeing his deceased body, I also knew at that moment that there isn't an 'afterlife'.

As a child, I was always scared that my parents will die. Especially, worried about how I would continue to live if my parents were not in this world. It was truly my cross to bear. When my dad actually died, I, of course, missed him very much, but the reality of that particular death was freeing to me. I realized that by being fearful of his death, in my mind I was reacting as is he was dead. The misery was created by my mind. Now, after grieving the loss of his physical body, but now having my memories and thinking of him, he is alive for me in my mind and I have not really lost him.

I don't know if there is an afterlife, but I feel my dad is more "accessible" to me now in some ways because he is free of his physical body that kept him immobilized in another country. For me, he is not on this plane, but I can really tap into what I used to feel as a child when I depended on him. I can have a quick convo with him when I go for an interview for example "Hey Pops, I am going for this interview. Wish me luck." and I feel the same kind of security when he was there. Of course, he is not there to "fix" things for me when they break, but his philosophy of "something better will come around" or "you have learned something from this experience" now informs my living.

If there an afterlife? Maybe, maybe not. But, the construct of the mind can make things hell or heaven. My mind has actually been ok even after his death and I am largely ok and happy in his memory. So for my mind, he is living and well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to be afraid of death. And then I lost my husband four years ago. I was with him when he died. I completely lost my fear of death after this experience, but after seeing his deceased body, I also knew at that moment that there isn't an 'afterlife'.

As a child, I was always scared that my parents will die. Especially, worried about how I would continue to live if my parents were not in this world. It was truly my cross to bear. When my dad actually died, I, of course, missed him very much, but the reality of that particular death was freeing to me. I realized that by being fearful of his death, in my mind I was reacting as is he was dead. The misery was created by my mind. Now, after grieving the loss of his physical body, but now having my memories and thinking of him, he is alive for me in my mind and I have not really lost him.

I don't know if there is an afterlife, but I feel my dad is more "accessible" to me now in some ways because he is free of his physical body that kept him immobilized in another country. For me, he is not on this plane, but I can really tap into what I used to feel as a child when I depended on him. I can have a quick convo with him when I go for an interview for example "Hey Pops, I am going for this interview. Wish me luck." and I feel the same kind of security when he was there. Of course, he is not there to "fix" things for me when they break, but his philosophy of "something better will come around" or "you have learned something from this experience" now informs my living.

If there an afterlife? Maybe, maybe not. But, the construct of the mind can make things hell or heaven. My mind has actually been ok even after his death and I am largely ok and happy in his memory. So for my mind, he is living and well.

PP here. Thank you for posting this. It is very helpful. I actually do the same with my late husband. I talk to him all the time and though he cannot respond back to me, it is liberating to be able to tell him all of my thoughts and feelings. When things are really rough, I get comfort out of talking to him silently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to fight every day not to embrace death. I envy your fear.

We fight not to embrace death with every breath in a physiological sense. Death will happen eventually. The best death is when our body decides to gracefully exist by letting life go. Fear not death. Fear the cowardice that does not allow you to live fully.

NP. I live fully, every day. Yet, I would embrace death if it comes my way. It seems so peaceful. A great way to let go and move on.

No, I'm not suicidal, I wouldn't do that to the people who love me. But if it's my time I fully embrace it. I completely understand the desire to not suffer mentally, physically, emotionally. Life is hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this in all seriousness. Get yourself some magic mushrooms. Get yourself in a safe place for a day with a trusted friend and some good music. You will feel differently about death afterward. You deserve the peace that will bring.

Not Op, but where does someone find a quality mushroom? This is coming from someone who has never done any drugs. What type of “magic” mushroom specifically are you talking about? Are there different types? Is this available from a medical marijuana place? Holland?

Psilocybe Cubensis mushrooms are available legally in DC from delivery services. Just google DC mushroom delivery. Google “set and setting”….very important. It only lasts 4 hours so make sure you block off some tome when you will not have any external distractions or concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to fight every day not to embrace death. I envy your fear.

We fight not to embrace death with every breath in a physiological sense. Death will happen eventually. The best death is when our body decides to gracefully exist by letting life go. Fear not death. Fear the cowardice that does not allow you to live fully.

NP. I live fully, every day. Yet, I would embrace death if it comes my way. It seems so peaceful. A great way to let go and move on.

No, I'm not suicidal, I wouldn't do that to the people who love me. But if it's my time I fully embrace it. I completely understand the desire to not suffer mentally, physically, emotionally. Life is hard.

in a way I envy you. If you truly don’t fear dying then that’s got to be nice .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say this in all seriousness. Get yourself some magic mushrooms. Get yourself in a safe place for a day with a trusted friend and some good music. You will feel differently about death afterward. You deserve the peace that will bring.

Not Op, but where does someone find a quality mushroom? This is coming from someone who has never done any drugs. What type of “magic” mushroom specifically are you talking about? Are there different types? Is this available from a medical marijuana place? Holland?

Psilocybe Cubensis mushrooms are available legally in DC from delivery services. Just google DC mushroom delivery. Google “set and setting”….very important. It only lasts 4 hours so make sure you block off some tome when you will not have any external distractions or concerns.

I wish I could . I can’t even use CBD because of my job. However the moment I get a terminal diagnosis I will be drugged out of my mind

[Anonymous]

I think we, as humans, are not supposed to know what happens after death, either through evolution or by design from a higher being. If we did know exactly what happened after death, then wouldn’t we just give up as a human race and die as soon as there is a setback? It’s the fear of the unknown that keeps us going, thriving, and embracing life while we are here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we, as humans, are not supposed to know what happens after death, either through evolution or by design from a higher being. If we did know exactly what happened after death, then wouldn’t we just give up as a human race and die as soon as there is a setback? It’s the fear of the unknown that keeps us going, thriving, and embracing life while we are here.

I think people delude themselves into thinking they won’t die or they won’t know about it. Probably think dying in your sleep you don’t wake up and feel excruciating pain in your last moment

[Anonymous]

You aren't living if you are using your time in fear of death. You're wasting your precious moments on a future that is inevitable. Our gift on this planet is life. Don't waste it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:p.s. thinking about death a lot can also be a symptom of depression. Make sure you are exercising and getting enough sunlight. Vitamin D is important for mood as well, plus boosts your immune system.

I wonder about this in me - but I don't feel like it makes me sad to consider, I mostly feel like it puts things in perspective. Am I fooling myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You aren't living if you are using your time in fear of death. You're wasting your precious moments on a future that is inevitable. Our gift on this planet is life. Don't waste it.

but believing there’s meaning or purpose to life is delusional