Disclose HSV 1 status in new relationship?

[Anonymous]

Most people who have it have no symptoms. Most people get the virus in childhood. https://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/stdfact-herpes.htm

[Anonymous]

You have to disclose.

Also if a person gets HSV-1 genital herpes they will have much milder outbreaks than if they had gotten HSV-2 genital herpes, and the HSV1 will generally protect against HSV2 infection. So there’s that.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

CDC data. 60% of people age 40-49 have it, it's about 75% of people age 50 and up.

Post link--those numbers seem high. Oh and OP, yes, you do need to disclose instead of assuming almost everyone has it.

OP here

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db304.htm

It's in figure 1.

Hopkins says its 50-80%, perhaps as high as 90%.

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/herpes-hsv1-and-hsv2/oral-herpes

My doctor was surprisingly nonchalant about it, said most people have it, everyone who makes it to 80 will get it, and looked at me like I had 2 heads when I asked about disclosing it.

While my last stretch of being single was in my mid-late 20s, I literally had not one person disclose to me, which is interesting since at least half the people I hooked up with had it. That's why I am posing the question, seems odd no one ever discloses this, is it because most people who have it don't know.

And yes, I am leaning towards disclosure before oral for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to disclose.

Also if a person gets HSV-1 genital herpes they will have much milder outbreaks than if they had gotten HSV-2 genital herpes, and the HSV1 will generally protect against HSV2 infection. So there’s that.

OP here, yes that's interesting and in the data, most genital HSV 1 has few to zero recurrences. Also, it's almost impossible to spread HSV 1 to another area of the body, so if she has it "down there" I don't have to worry since I have it "Up here"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to disclose.

Also if a person gets HSV-1 genital herpes they will have much milder outbreaks than if they had gotten HSV-2 genital herpes, and the HSV1 will generally protect against HSV2 infection. So there’s that.

I’m the PP who got hsv1 from boyfriend. Cold comfort that it’s protection from hsv2. OP, it should not have even been a question in your mind that you tell everyone you might kiss.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to disclose.

Also if a person gets HSV-1 genital herpes they will have much milder outbreaks than if they had gotten HSV-2 genital herpes, and the HSV1 will generally protect against HSV2 infection. So there’s that.

OP here, yes that's interesting and in the data, most genital HSV 1 has few to zero recurrences. Also, it's almost impossible to spread HSV 1 to another area of the body, so if she has it "down there" I don't have to worry since I have it "Up here"

Not true. Less than hsv2, but still recurring. Especially when sick, pregnant, run down, etc. just like cold sores.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have to disclose.

Also if a person gets HSV-1 genital herpes they will have much milder outbreaks than if they had gotten HSV-2 genital herpes, and the HSV1 will generally protect against HSV2 infection. So there’s that.

OP here, yes that's interesting and in the data, most genital HSV 1 has few to zero recurrences. Also, it's almost impossible to spread HSV 1 to another area of the body, so if she has it "down there" I don't have to worry since I have it "Up here"

It's totally possible to spread HS1 from one area of the body to the other -- in fact, someone I know ended up with genital herpes after her boyfriend with a cold sore gave her oral sex. Maybe everyone knows this but apparently they did not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

CDC data. 60% of people age 40-49 have it, it's about 75% of people age 50 and up.

Post link--those numbers seem high. Oh and OP, yes, you do need to disclose instead of assuming almost everyone has it.

OP here

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db304.htm

It's in figure 1.

Hopkins says its 50-80%, perhaps as high as 90%.

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/herpes-hsv1-and-hsv2/oral-herpes

My doctor was surprisingly nonchalant about it, said most people have it, everyone who makes it to 80 will get it, and looked at me like I had 2 heads when I asked about disclosing it.

While my last stretch of being single was in my mid-late 20s, I literally had not one person disclose to me, which is interesting since at least half the people I hooked up with had it. That's why I am posing the question, seems odd no one ever discloses this, is it because most people who have it don't know.

And yes, I am leaning towards disclosure before oral for sure.

How many years has it been since you were in your 20s OP? I tend to find that older people aren’t as aware of the risks and concerns about any version of HSV. It wasn’t talked about and discussed. And I’m not talking just about 80 yo. I’m talking about 40+. So if you’re 40+ well duh no one disclosed in their 20s. The concept that HSV1 could cause genital herpes wasn’t well known. Neither was how cold sores are in fact HSV1.

Think about it this way. Most people would be livid if you gave their child a hello or goodbye kiss and the kid ended up with HSV1. Why do you think adults should be treated differently

Tell the person you’re dating you have HSV1. If it’s as common as you think then the person is going to respond, ME TOO, right? The other thing is talk to your doctor about taking a 30-60day course of Valtrex. The people I know that have done that after being exposed - to aholes that didn’t tell them - have never had a cold sore since. They said their doctors said it’s the new way of treating it. Guess it kicks it into remission.

[Anonymous]

It’s a different strain, not the sexually transmitted kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a different strain, not the sexually transmitted kind.

Oh wow. Do you really not understand that you can give someone HSV1 on their genitals?

[Anonymous]

We are talking MOUTH cold sores for those stats listed above. Yes...I know it can transfer but that is not the statitic we are discussing

[Anonymous]

*statistic

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s a different strain, not the sexually transmitted kind.

Oh wow. Do you really not understand that you can give someone HSV1 on their genitals?

People know that.
The stat about 60-75% percent of people is related to mouth cold sores.
I would not disclose this. Its NBD.

[Anonymous]

It’s pretty disgusting that you guys are all NBD about mouth cold sores. Again, some of us have never had one in our lives and so yeah, we care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a different strain, not the sexually transmitted kind.

Oh wow. Do you really not understand that you can give someone HSV1 on their genitals?

People know that.
The stat about 60-75% percent of people is related to mouth cold sores.
I would not disclose this. Its NBD.

Oh, so you got it on your genitals from a partner who didn't tell you too? And you don't care? Well, I did. Ignoramus.