Disclose HSV 1 status in new relationship?

[Anonymous]

Recently divorced. Got cold sores as a kid. No big deal, and haven't had an outbreak in several years.

Read up about it, about 60% of adults have it which means a good chunk of people don't.

So do people disclose this? Before kissing? Or oral? I've never had anyone disclose to me and surely many people I dated and kissed had it.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

+1 maybe 60% have been tested during an outbreak or has it documented. The rest of us just buy some Abreva at the drugstore and go on with our lives.

[Anonymous]

YES. You must. As someone who contracted HSV 1 from an asymptomatic boyfriend from oral sex, you must disclose this. It’s herpes. Let’s kill the stigma.

[Anonymous]

Gross people. If she gets cold sores and the guy gets infected he could sue. Think of Jim Carrey who gave genital herpes to his ex girlfriend who later committed suicide.

[Anonymous]

I guess not as long as you don’t have an outbreak, but obviously be careful. Contrary to what PPs said, some of us have never had a cold sore end would prefer for it to stay that way.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have it and I’d feel extremely violated if I later found out. Your not disclosing speaks volumes regarding your character and I’d dump you immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

+1 maybe 60% have been tested during an outbreak or has it documented. The rest of us just buy some Abreva at the drugstore and go on with our lives.

Just because you grew up with that condition doesn't mean others who didn't will be okay having your disease.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

Probably 60% have been exposed but not all people show symptoms. Very few people ever get tested; the blood test is not super accurate so unless there’s an outbreak and a cold sore can be swabbed most drs don’t bother with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have it and I’d feel extremely violated if I later found out. Your not disclosing speaks volumes regarding your character and I’d dump you immediately.

+1. As with PP, if you give it to her on her genitals she effectively has genital herpes and it will affect her dating life. Having an outbreak during childbirth can also be catastrophic if not treated.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I’d be furious if someone didn’t disclose this to me, and if I found out later on I’d immediately dump them for being dishonest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

Probably 60% have been exposed but not all people show symptoms. Very few people ever get tested; the blood test is not super accurate so unless there’s an outbreak and a cold sore can be swabbed most drs don’t bother with it.

If they've been exposed it doesn't mean they have it so they wouldn't show symptoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

CDC data. 60% of people age 40-49 have it, it's about 75% of people age 50 and up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it.

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it?

CDC data. 60% of people age 40-49 have it, it's about 75% of people age 50 and up.

Post link--those numbers seem high. Oh and OP, yes, you do need to disclose instead of assuming almost everyone has it.