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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t bother. I also think it’s way more than 60% have it—I always thought it was one of those things almost everyone has which is why no one really talks about it. [/quote]

I don't know anyone that has it. Why would you think more than 60 percent have it? [/quote]

CDC data.  60% of people age 40-49 have it, it's about 75% of people age 50 and up.[/quote]

Post link--those numbers seem high. Oh and OP, yes, you do need to disclose instead of assuming almost everyone has it.[/quote]

OP here

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db304.htm

It's in figure 1.

Hopkins says its 50-80%, perhaps as high as 90%.

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/herpes-hsv1-and-hsv2/oral-herpes

My doctor was surprisingly nonchalant about it, said most people have it, everyone who makes it to 80 will get it, and looked at me like I had 2 heads when I asked about disclosing it.

While my last stretch of being single was in my mid-late 20s, I literally had not one person disclose to me, which is interesting since at least half the people I hooked up with had it.  That's why I am posing the question, seems odd no one ever discloses this, is it because most people who have it don't know.

And yes, I am leaning towards disclosure before oral for sure.[/quote]
How many years has it been since you were in your 20s OP? I tend to find that older people aren’t as aware of the risks and concerns about any version of HSV. It wasn’t talked about and discussed. And I’m not talking just about 80 yo. I’m talking about 40+. So if you’re 40+ well duh no one disclosed in their 20s. The concept that HSV1 could cause genital herpes wasn’t well known. Neither was how cold sores are in fact HSV1.

Think about it this way. Most people would be livid if you gave their child a hello or goodbye kiss and the kid ended up with HSV1. Why do you think adults should be treated differently

Tell the person you’re dating you have HSV1. If it’s as common as you think then the person is going to respond, ME TOO, right? The other thing is talk to your doctor about taking a 30-60day course of Valtrex. The people I know that have done that after being exposed - to aholes that didn’t tell them - have never had a cold sore since. They said their doctors said it’s the new way of treating it. Guess it kicks it into remission. [/quote]

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