How to tell someone their spouse is cheating

[Anonymous]

Is there a way to send the info through an anonymous email, so if the wife has follow up questions, she can ask?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:So she could not ruin their marriage through an affair is an now trying to do so after the affair failed? What a wonderful person. A real catch.

+1

So lovely of her to care so much about the wife.

Uh no. He ruined the marriage. OP’s friend has zero marriage vows with the cheaters wife.

So why does she care about her now? Oh right she doesn’t.

Yeah, what a scumbag she is. Maybe the wife doesn't want to know, or to find out from the frickin' AP. But obviously she doesn't care about anyone but herself, so she'll do whatever comes to her tiny, addled brain.

[Anonymous]

So now your friend the cheater is upset because she found out the married guy had another affair and may have been cheating on her at the same time? And because of that she wants to tell the wife that her husband is a dirt bag? Tell your friend to drop it and to stop sleeping with married men. The odds are pretty good the wife already knows. Sending along the texts etc. could have real blowback on your friend such as husbands revenge.

[Anonymous]

So to sum things up it's been 2 years and your friend is still lonely and single, correct?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So now your friend the cheater is upset because she found out the married guy had another affair and may have been cheating on her at the same time? And because of that she wants to tell the wife that her husband is a dirt bag? Tell your friend to drop it and to stop sleeping with married men. The odds are pretty good the wife already knows. Sending along the texts etc. could have real blowback on your friend such as husbands revenge.

No kidding. And so insulting to the wife to find out through the AP. You should tell your friend to see a therapist and leave that woman alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So now your friend the cheater is upset because she found out the married guy had another affair and may have been cheating on her at the same time? And because of that she wants to tell the wife that her husband is a dirt bag? Tell your friend to drop it and to stop sleeping with married men. The odds are pretty good the wife already knows. Sending along the texts etc. could have real blowback on your friend such as husbands revenge.

No kidding. And so insulting to the wife to find out through the AP. You should tell your friend to see a therapist and leave that woman alone.

At least the wife will know the truth. The scumbag husband most likely has not told the truth and so who cares why this woman wants to tell now as long as the wife knows the truth. Stop talking about the friends motive because that is besides the point.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would want to know if I was the wife. But a lot of wives would rather not know. Your friend should just move on with her life.

[Anonymous]

Friend should just send the info anonymously. Let the wife decide. I would want to know that my husband is a scumbag.

[Anonymous]

That depends. Is your friend willing to die for this? Be shamed in public? She doesn't get to be a coward and send anonymous messages.

Sometimes the wife goes after the other woman.

So if she really just cares about his poor wife and needs her to know and understands this could mean the wife trying to harm her some way and is okay with it go for it.

Also OP, your friend is lying to you about really being away from the guy. She's been entertaining him and enjoying the attention, just mad because she's not the only one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Friend should just send the info anonymously. Let the wife decide. I would want to know that my husband is a scumbag.

+1

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it do not get involved.
no good can come of it
Honestly the wife probably already knows—for all you know she could be staying in that marriage for other reasons

don’t get involved—it’s not your place

[Anonymous]

^+2. The wife deserves to know the truth about her marriage, but she does not need to know it comes from the AP. And OP, your friend has some huge character flaws.

[Anonymous]

^ this was seconding the idea to convey the info anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So to sum things up it's been 2 years and your friend is still lonely and single, correct?

Yeah but the fact that he moved on to another AP means he’s a serial cheater. No mulligan for him.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it...