This. We knew she could go on the potty but she was lazy and just went in her pull up. One day her preschool teacher set me straight about that, the next day I sent her in underwear. They changed her into pull ups for nap that week, then said she didn't need them at all because she stayed dry for nap. She has had 2 accidents at preschool since that day (in November) and 2 at home. |
We never really formally trained. It was always her choice. I didn’t care when it happened. Figured she’d get it in time. |
That’s sweet. However totally irrelevant to the question asked! God, I love DCUM. |
And she now attends an Ivy! |
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Parents worry about this stuff way too much - I know we did.
Our first son was not fully potty trained until he was almost 4 and we practically exhausted ourselves with anxiety about it. For our second son we decided to not stress about it. Then oddly he potty trained himself at around 2 in a week watching a 2.5 year old classmate who was already there. But at night they were opposites - the stubborn kid got through the night dry the first night without a diaper and I don't think even once wet the bed while the second kid could not even once stay dry through the night until he was 7 and at 8 still has occasional accidents. I don't think our parenting had anything to do with either of their schedules. |
Ha ha! Lighten up! |
Op, you are awfully smug for someone who has a three year old who has not potty trained. It’s not going to be EXACTLY one day. Just get it done- it will take a week or so, maybe less. Don’t be lazy. |
No... that’s not reasonable. Three day weekend, sure. A week without bottoms, sure. Occasional accidents, no matter how old they are when you train, absolutely. I’ve trained 6 kids. 2 were 3-3.25, 1 was 2.5, 1 was 2, 2 (twins were 16 months). When I say they were potty trained, they knew they had to go, moved towards the toilet or potty and were at least trying to get clothes out of the way (twins couldn’t undress themselves without help). Both kids who trained at 3-3.25 (boy and girl, separate times) were ready earlier, but I delayed due to major changes (move for the boy, custody issues with mom for the girl). Both were bringing me a clean diaper before they went, I just wanted to make sure that there wouldn’t be major backsliding after training. We did a three day weekend in underwear for each, with minimal issues afterward. Both wanted to wipe themselves from the get go, so I just made sure they bathed at least once per day (just water for everything but their behind). 2.5yo (boy) did a week and a half without bottoms, then he was fine. Very little warning before he ran, so we had several potties throughout the house and one in the yard, but he emptied them (I cleaned them all nightly). 2yo (girl) did a three day weekend with no bottoms. No poop accidents ever, minimal pee accidents even during the weekend. Twins (boy/girl) were 16 months. I tried everything, but the girl kept getting yeast infections, bladder infections and diaper rashes. We were going to do a few days bottom free to air out and try to get rid of the latest misery anyway, so I just offered the potty. Two days in and her brother was trying it too. It took 2-3 weeks for him to be consistent, but only about 5 days for her. On a side note, I tacked white lace on the seat of her underwear when we figured out she has to have plain white cotton or the bladder and yeast infections come back. Everyone else gets fun undies, and I didn’t want her to feel she was missing out. |
| Cold turkey at 3 years old for all of my kids. Trained in one day, no accidents. They never woke up with a dry diaper, we just cut it off on their 3rd birthday. Never practiced prior to that, didn't use treats or anything else. Starting before they're ready can prolong the entire process. |
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At 3 years 3 months, I trained him over a three day weekend by letting him run around diaper free at home and talking him to the toilet every 30-60 minutes. He picked it up immediately and didn't have any pee accidents. He pooped twice on the floor the first or second day. A few days in he was walking himself to the bathroom to pee. I didn't use any treats besides praise.
He wore trainers at night for a couple months but I don't remember him having many accidents at night. He was ready. When I hear friends talking about spending months training and dealing with accidents, etc., to train their 18 or 24 or even 30 month olds, I'm so glad I waited. By 3yo, diaper changing is so easy (standing up on the go! One solid poop a day!) that it didn't feel like a big deal to keep him in a diaper for a few extra months. |
Not all of us have some huge struggle training 18-24 month olds. Don’t be so smug. Most of us easily trained and you’re only hearing from the hard to train ones. Also, a lot of people are just saying they had trouble to commiserate with you. My DS trained himself before 2 and I never told anyone that in real life |
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There are people saying things like 'my 22 mo is potty trained and in underwear-they only had 5 pee and 2 poop accidents since this morning!' Yeah, not trained or ready.
Like the other thread where the OP's dd had not ever actually made it to the potty to pee or poop, and OP was going to send her to daycare in undies because she was 'trained'. LOL |
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Our day care provided retired over the summer when DC was 3 years and 1 month. His first week home for the summer (I have summers off) one day I just said “ok, no diapers today. We use the potty now.” He cried once and peed on the floor once before lunch. I called my husband crying that my idea had been a big mistake. After lunch he went #1 and #2 in the potty and I’m not kidding...never had a day or night accident outside of sickness again.
Some kids are just old enough to be ready. |
This. When people commiserate over having to bribe their 3-year-olds or deal with accidents or diapers after 18 months, I just smile and nod. No one is going to ask or assume I didn’t go through that, so I’d have no occasion or desire to tell them. |
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With my first, he used the potty occasionally starting a bit before 2 but still wore diapers. I kept thinking he would get to the point where he never used his diaper. I didn't know what I was doing and I had a newborn to deal with so I didn't care. He used the potty more and more as he got older but still used his diaper too. A couple of weeks after he turned three, I put on underpants and he went the whole day with no accident. The next day, his nanny took him to a playground and he had an accident there. That happened again 2 or 3 days later and I kid you not that was IT for day accidents. ONE on day 2 and ONE on day 4 or 5. We kept him in pullups at night for another two months but they were almost always dry. Stopped using them and he had 2 or 3 overnight accidents over the next 18 months or so, usually after a really exhausting day.
Kid #2 was very resistant to using the potty so we just talked up his third birthday and how 3 year olds don't wear diapers. 3rd birthday was a Sunday. Put him in underpants when he got up. 3 accidents that day (3rd was while headed to the bathroom), one the next day, and maybe 2-3 more over the next week and that's it. So fully trained in about a week but going full days without accidents by day 3. No accidents after the first week or 10 days. We tried to do pullups at night but he wasn't having it. No nighttime accidents ever. |