It’s like I don’t exist other than to hand off DS

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I refuse to give in.

We have hectic lives, our schedules are full.

MIL doesn’t work, is bored and decides she wants to bond with DD. She doesn’t have a bond with other 5 kids who live far away, but DD happened to be in the convenient proximity.

Well, I’m not going to add another chore to work on their relationship. Also, DD’s schedule is just as full. She has homework, extra curricular activities and would rather spend her time with friends.

Sorry, but my kid doesn’t exist to fill holes in your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. I refuse to give in.

We have hectic lives, our schedules are full.

MIL doesn’t work, is bored and decides she wants to bond with DD. She doesn’t have a bond with other 5 kids who live far away, but DD happened to be in the convenient proximity.

Well, I’m not going to add another chore to work on their relationship. Also, DD’s schedule is just as full. She has homework, extra curricular activities and would rather spend her time with friends.

Sorry, but my kid doesn’t exist to fill holes in your life.

Are you the OP? In the OP it was a DS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. I refuse to give in.

We have hectic lives, our schedules are full.

MIL doesn’t work, is bored and decides she wants to bond with DD. She doesn’t have a bond with other 5 kids who live far away, but DD happened to be in the convenient proximity.

Well, I’m not going to add another chore to work on their relationship. Also, DD’s schedule is just as full. She has homework, extra curricular activities and would rather spend her time with friends.

Sorry, but my kid doesn’t exist to fill holes in your life.

Are you the OP? In the OP it was a DS.

Sounds like someone else who cannot fathom how horrible it is for grandparents to want a relationship with their grandchildren and cannot even conceive how it might actually be good for the grandkids too.

[Anonymous]

Your level of anger is odd OP. Great don’t see the grandma but the way she went about asking to see your kid is not heavy handed at all and easily leaves open the option of you asking her to drive to you if you did want to facilitate a visit. Why are you so pissed off?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your level of anger is odd OP. Great don’t see the grandma but the way she went about asking to see your kid is not heavy handed at all and easily leaves open the option of you asking her to drive to you if you did want to facilitate a visit. Why are you so pissed off?

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TBF I would be mad too if DH was abandoning me like OP’s DH is. But it seems pretty clear her irritation is misdirected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. I refuse to give in.

We have hectic lives, our schedules are full.

MIL doesn’t work, is bored and decides she wants to bond with DD. She doesn’t have a bond with other 5 kids who live far away, but DD happened to be in the convenient proximity.

Well, I’m not going to add another chore to work on their relationship. Also, DD’s schedule is just as full. She has homework, extra curricular activities and would rather spend her time with friends.

Sorry, but my kid doesn’t exist to fill holes in your life.

Let's hope your dd doesn't see how you treat grandparents and decide to treat you as you have done to your mother in law. I feel sad for your dd and grandmother. Np

[Anonymous]

Someday you will have grandchildren. Would you like to be blown off like this?

[Anonymous]

This is definitely some troll bullshit. Changing the gender of the kid, clue one. Acting like grandma asking nicely to see the kid is a big pain, clue two. If not a troll, you are a first class bitch for copping such an attitude over something so innocuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. I refuse to give in.

We have hectic lives, our schedules are full.

MIL doesn’t work, is bored and decides she wants to bond with DD. She doesn’t have a bond with other 5 kids who live far away, but DD happened to be in the convenient proximity.

Well, I’m not going to add another chore to work on their relationship. Also, DD’s schedule is just as full. She has homework, extra curricular activities and would rather spend her time with friends.

Sorry, but my kid doesn’t exist to fill holes in your life.

Let's hope your dd doesn't see how you treat grandparents and decide to treat you as you have done to your mother in law. I feel sad for your dd and grandmother. Np

It’s funny that MILs want to have relationships with kids but we’re the ones who have to work for it. We have to add chores and squeeze time in our busy schedules for arrangements. Why can’t they just be helpful and help parents out instead of demanding to be entertained?

You’re not entitled to anything and your relationship is what you make it. You can’t just take, take, take. That’s not how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah. I refuse to give in.

We have hectic lives, our schedules are full.

MIL doesn’t work, is bored and decides she wants to bond with DD. She doesn’t have a bond with other 5 kids who live far away, but DD happened to be in the convenient proximity.

Well, I’m not going to add another chore to work on their relationship. Also, DD’s schedule is just as full. She has homework, extra curricular activities and would rather spend her time with friends.

Sorry, but my kid doesn’t exist to fill holes in your life.

Let's hope your dd doesn't see how you treat grandparents and decide to treat you as you have done to your mother in law. I feel sad for your dd and grandmother. Np

It’s funny that MILs want to have relationships with kids but we’re the ones who have to work for it. We have to add chores and squeeze time in our busy schedules for arrangements. Why can’t they just be helpful and help parents out instead of demanding to be entertained?

You’re not entitled to anything and your relationship is what you make it. You can’t just take, take, take. That’s not how it works.

So raising your spouse is "nothing?" Remember you reap what you sow. Don't act surprised when you are the mil being kept away from grandchildren.

[Anonymous]

How old is the child? I dont think either of you is wrong. She wants to see her grandkid and you don't want to do all the transportation.

If he is old enough can he go there for a day, you drop off and they bring him home?

[Anonymous]

Aren’t you a dear.

[Anonymous]

You wish your MIL asked MORE questions about your life? Dang. My goal in life is to avoid MIL trying to enmesh/probe more and just limit our interactions to ones about the kids.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn’t she come and get the child herself? You’re not a delivery service.

[Anonymous]

I would drive two hours to dump my kid for a day. Tell her to text me