Gave my cheating husband another chance...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just remember. This was YOUR call.

No. It wasn't. He knew the rules he broke them it was HIS call for the marriage to end.

YOU took him back.

She took him back because he lied and said he changed and he didn't so... bye felicia!

Exactly my point.

OP, continue to be the adult for your child. No fun, I know. But both of you deserve better. Get out while you can.

[Anonymous]

The "constantly going to happy hour, hanging out late nights with friends/family (so he says)"...

You think he's still cheating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The "constantly going to happy hour, hanging out late nights with friends/family (so he says)"...

You think he's still cheating?

Yes. He cheated on me with his coworker and used the same excuses when going out with her.

[Anonymous]

Just get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did your best. You gave it a shot. Now time to move on without him knowing that you've done your best.

The problem is by taking him back, you have no leverage on the affairs and the clock resets for another year for the separation/no fault.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You did your best. You gave it a shot. Now time to move on without him knowing that you've done your best.

The problem is by taking him back, you have no leverage on the affairs and the clock resets for another year for the separation/no fault.

It depends on the jurisdiction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You did your best. You gave it a shot. Now time to move on without him knowing that you've done your best.

The problem is by taking him back, you have no leverage on the affairs and the clock resets for another year for the separation/no fault.

That’s fine. He’s not getting a third chance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The "constantly going to happy hour, hanging out late nights with friends/family (so he says)"...

You think he's still cheating?

Yes. He cheated on me with his coworker and used the same excuses when going out with her.

How'd you find out? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You did your best. You gave it a shot. Now time to move on without him knowing that you've done your best.

The problem is by taking him back, you have no leverage on the affairs and the clock resets for another year for the separation/no fault.

That’s fine. He’s not getting a third chance.

Good for you. It's admirable that you tried to make things work, and even more admirable that you're not willing to put up with the BS just because you're trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The "constantly going to happy hour, hanging out late nights with friends/family (so he says)"...

You think he's still cheating?

Yes. He cheated on me with his coworker and used the same excuses when going out with her.

How'd you find out? Just curious.

She told me through Facebook, along with sending pictures of them together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you didn't do a very good job setting down the ground rules for him to move back in.

Yes, dear. It's HER fault that HE'S an arsehole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just remember. This was YOUR call.

No. It wasn't. He knew the rules he broke them it was HIS call for the marriage to end.

YOU took him back.

She took him back because he lied and said he changed and he didn't so... bye felicia!

Exactly my point.

Stop blaming the victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The "constantly going to happy hour, hanging out late nights with friends/family (so he says)"...

You think he's still cheating?

Yes. He cheated on me with his coworker and used the same excuses when going out with her.

How'd you find out? Just curious.

She told me through Facebook, along with sending pictures of them together.

Damn he must REALLY be a jerk if his own side-piece got so pissed off at him that she decided to reach out to you and rat him out. She only would have done that if she truly wanted him to s-u-f-f-e-r.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You did your best. You gave it a shot. Now time to move on without him knowing that you've done your best.

The problem is by taking him back, you have no leverage on the affairs and the clock resets for another year for the separation/no fault.

That’s fine. He’s not getting a third chance.

Good for you. It's admirable that you tried to make things work, and even more admirable that you're not willing to put up with the BS just because you're trying.

+1. It’s time to move on. I also gave my cheating ex a second chance which he failed. In some ways I look back and view the second chance as a complete waste of time for me, but having made the effort, when I look back I have absolutely zero regrets about our ultimate split, which is helpful.

Get your ducks in order. Leave as soon as it’s good for you and your kid.

Be prepared for him to blame you publicly and privately for the split. That’s often what reconciliation is about - they want to be able to say that the relationship failed because you were paranoid or couldn’t trust him, which is BS, of course.

[Anonymous]

Didn't you both agree to no happy hours unless it was with each other, and mutual couple friends?

The minute he announced he was going to a happy hour without me I would have told him the locks will be changed by the time he returns. I'm curious as to why you don't go to the happy hours. To see his reaction I would have invited myself along, gotten a babysitter.

Sorry OP but you already allowed the same behavior without a timely consequence.