How can I report my husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I have been documenting everything and it seems like it is getting worse every month. I have adhd and go to the same doctor. I do not take my pill every day. If I am on vacation, during the weekend and off here and there, I just don’t take it. Because of that I used to have a good amount of pills, and I noticed they were vanishing the day I counted them, and saw I barely had for the rest of the month. So he went through a lot of them on my back. I was just thinking how he will handle the rest of the month, because he has a demanding job and only has 4 pills.

So in addition to abusing his own prescription, your husband is stealing your medication?

Yes, please tell his therapist and psychiatrist. Your husband has a drug problem. He needs help.

[Anonymous]

How did your dh get a prescription for 60 extended release pills per month? Is his dose 2 pills? Because if he’s only supposed to take 1 extended release pill at a time and he also gets 60 instant release pills per month, then the doctor is also part of the problem, which is problematic because you go to the same doctor.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP. This sounds like a horrible situation.

Can you call his doctor (is it the same doctor as yours)? Obviously the doc may not be able to tell you any private info but YOU should be able to tell him/her what you know, and ask for advice. I think?

[Anonymous]

You need to contact both your doctors, because your husband's doctor is not allowed to comment on his patient, he or she will just acknowledge your input. Your own doctor will have advice for you on how to protect your own stash of medications, and how to help an addicted patient.

Best of luck. My husband has diagnosed ADHD that he is in denial of, and refuses to take any meds, even though his symptoms severely impact our life. I didn't even think of what would happen if he became addicted to his meds instead...

[Anonymous]

Why does he take so many? What does he do while he is awake for days at a time?

[Anonymous]

Alanon for you.

I reported Dad's alcoholism to Dad's doctor when I was
at an appointment with Mom. Mom stepped out, and
they would not talk to me about Dad due to hippa but
I was able to report my concerns and the nurse typed
it into a field of "area of concern" in Dad's record.

I'd recommend talking to his Doctor when you are at
one of your Doctor appointments.

[Anonymous]

My husband has been abusing his adderral prescription for a while, and even though we talked and he said he would get better, he really didn’t.

Have another frank discussion with your husband. Tell him that you notice that he has been slipping. Tell him that if he wants you to trust him, he needs to sign a HIPAA waiver with the doctor who is prescribing his medication so that you can discuss his medication condition and treatement with that doctor. If he isn't willing to do that, he needs to find a rehab center and check himself in. And it he won't do that, then you need to emphasize that you can't trust him to take his addiction seriously and need to do what is best for you and/or kids (if you have any). Then decide whether it is best to ask him to find a temporary place to live until he can get his addiction under control, or move yourself and/or kids out of the house until he can get the addiction under control. If you leave the status quo, he will not make any changes. Addictions are stronger than the victim. He either needs to want to change or you need to make changes to your and his life that will make him acknowledge that he has lost control and he has to want to make changes to get back on track or give in to his addiction.

Regardless of what he does, you need to find a nearby chapter of Nar-Anon and get yourself to the very next meeting. You need the support and guidance that people who have been there can give you. They will be able to provide you with much better direct and focused advice for your situation because you can tell them details that you may not want to discuss here on DCUM. Last, you need to find somewhere to lock up your own prescriptions so that he does not have access to them. If you have a locking desk drawer, put them in that and keep the key on your person. If he does not have keys to your car, put them in the glove compartment and lock it. If you can't get anything else, just go to Target or Walmart and buy a portable locking cashbox, office safe or similar where you can store the meds and keep the key on your person (not in your purse where he could rummage and find it).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did your dh get a prescription for 60 extended release pills per month? Is his dose 2 pills? Because if he’s only supposed to take 1 extended release pill at a time and he also gets 60 instant release pills per month, then the doctor is also part of the problem, which is problematic because you go to the same doctor.

He has a prescription for 30 a 20mg instant release and 30-20mg extended release. Total of 60 pills per month. He went through 56 in 10 days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you could call his psychiatrist or therapist or whoever is prescribing the medication. Just tell them what you've seen, to give them a heads up.

This will work, because the prescription will be halted and an alert can be made to pharmacies so if he doctor shops and tries to get a new prescription elsewhere, he’ll be unable to (at least that’s what happens with opioids, I think). But he obviously will run out of pills before this prescription is renewed, and I don’t imagine the doc will be willing to renew early.

Is it possible it’s bit the Adderal and that he’s bipolar? Being up nights in a row is a definite symptom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did your dh get a prescription for 60 extended release pills per month? Is his dose 2 pills? Because if he’s only supposed to take 1 extended release pill at a time and he also gets 60 instant release pills per month, then the doctor is also part of the problem, which is problematic because you go to the same doctor.

He has a prescription for 30 a 20mg instant release and 30-20mg extended release. Total of 60 pills per month. He went through 56 in 10 days.

It doesn't seem medically appropriate for him to have a prescription for both of these. Typically the ER is enough. The instant release leads to more abuse problems.

What’s the rationale for having both?

[Anonymous]

Call SAMHSA hotline and ask them what you should do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did your dh get a prescription for 60 extended release pills per month? Is his dose 2 pills? Because if he’s only supposed to take 1 extended release pill at a time and he also gets 60 instant release pills per month, then the doctor is also part of the problem, which is problematic because you go to the same doctor.

He has a prescription for 30 a 20mg instant release and 30-20mg extended release. Total of 60 pills per month. He went through 56 in 10 days.

It doesn't seem medically appropriate for him to have a prescription for both of these. Typically the ER is enough. The instant release leads to more abuse problems.

What’s the rationale for having both?

It’s very common to prescribe the ER for the morning then an instant release for the afternoon. I don’t agree with this but it’s very commonly done.

[Anonymous]

Put your pills in a lock box.

Are his pills from the same pharmacy? Are the prescriptions from the same doctor?

[Anonymous]

He may need an antidepressant or anxiety med. I have add as well and take 20mg of adderall. I also liked that it gave me a mood boost. My other issues ended up being depression and acidity though. 100mg of pristiq is making a big difference and improving my focus without adderall. I’m also sleeping better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put your pills in a lock box.

Are his pills from the same pharmacy? Are the prescriptions from the same doctor?

I would replace all of his pills and yours with sugar pills (something inert that looks like the adderall).

See if he finally crashes. You're never going to get through to him while he's speeding. And if you confront him while he's high, you may be in danger.