It really isn't about looks, trust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh. I’m like you- attractive (although I was never a model) but weird, with weird interests. I spent a long time restraining my personality and becoming a very bland person that men would like. It worked, but it’s totally not worth it. Eventually you get serious and the real you starts coming out, then all hell breaks loose.

Now I let my freak flag fly and I don’t worry if men don’t like it. There’s a lot more to life than landing a man. Eventually the right one comes along and likes you for who you are.

Don't do that. Ever. Wow.

[Anonymous]

What are your niche interests?

I think you’re right that you probably do have high functioning autism. It was rarely diagnosed in girls of our generation.

[Anonymous]

Men become interested when you are not available. Quit being available.

[Anonymous]

It's the neediness. You need to find a balance between aloof and needy. Men still like a bit of the chase.

I'm also curious about the "weird" interests. Spill the tea girl!

[Anonymous]

"all these threads about how men go for looks and body type"

Let me translate this for you: don't be fat is really all it means. DO NOT BE FAT is different from saying BE MODEL THIN. Few men expect the latter. But even fewer men will go for the former. A sex positive non-overweight woman will always be successful with men.

Sounds like you should work on being nicer and more sexual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men become interested when you are not available. Quit being available.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men become interested when you are not available. Quit being available.

This!

No, not this. Don’t be silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are very judgmental.

Pot calling the kettle black.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men become interested when you are not available. Quit being available.

This!

No, not this. Don’t be silly.

Yes, this. Men like women to be a bit coy/mysterious.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are on the spectrum, I am wondering if you can potentially connect with men on the spectrum? They're out there...I wouldn't give up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your niche interests?

I think you’re right that you probably do have high functioning autism. It was rarely diagnosed in girls of our generation.

My DH and DS both have it. The writing style was making me think of them before she even told her suspicions of ASD. OP, instead of generic therapy, why not have an evaluation for ASD? Then you’ll know and you can get the specific help and guidance you need.

[Anonymous]

If you asbergers, mild autism, maybe you aren’t perceptive as to how men really react toward you? Maybe they HAVE been interested, but you haven’t noticed? Maybe they were discouraged by your negative feedback.

[Anonymous]

I think confidence is key. Whatever you are and whatever you like, being confident in yourself and confident that you are worthy of having a high-quality partner and friends attracts people.

[Anonymous]

Must be your personality, then?

[Anonymous]

Give the OP a Nobel Prize.
She figured out that looks are important, yes.
But nobody wants to go out with a bland bore or an irritating asshole.

Who would have thought!!