Asking an adult to let you know when they get home

[Anonymous]

It’s annoying, particularly from the sister. I cut mom’s some slack for being stuck in mom-mode.

[Anonymous]

It must be awful to have someone who cares at you.

[Anonymous]

Every time I visit with family they ask us to let them know when we are home, my husbands family does the same. It doesn't take much time to send a text and I'll normally post on Facebook about how we are home, had a great trip, loved seeing everyone.

I don't take it as something controlling, just that they care and want to make sure travel went fine.

Heck, we were at a concert last night with friends and the texted us when they got home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes so much more time, effort and mental energy to stew over this and write a long-ass post and follow up to read the replies than it does to text: "Home safe! Thanks for a great visit."

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find this really annoying too. I go on a million car trips a year, and THIS ONE is the one I have to text you about? It feels ... controlling and disrespectful that you’re an adult.

I agree. I hate this. It comes from anxiety on their parts. I know it's out of love, but it's annoying as hell.

[Anonymous]

My family does this too. They just want to know you are safe. Be thankful.

[Anonymous]

My mom is like this. Yes, I find it annoying. But it takes a couple of seconds and she appreciates it. I know she has anxiety and really, it's not an inconvenience on my part and If it makes her feel better, I'll do it. It's such a tiny thing to get all worked up over

[Anonymous]

I go back and forth from being irritated by it to finding it endearing. My inlaws are like this, but it's mostly with air travel.

My friends and I sometimes ask each other to do this because we are taking Ubers home or some are single and live alone and we've been drinking and it feels like care taking. But we have yet to knock down anyone's door when they forget, but it's nice to know we all go home from a fun night out and are safe in bed. Not a MUST do, but a nice thing.

It would never even occur to my mother to ask. It's not because she doesn't care, but because she doesn't have anxiety. I think it is 100% related to how anxious people are.

[Anonymous]

I do this, and I appreciate when others do this to me. Maybe it's just part of my "love language" but I see things like this and kind and thoughtful, and not controlling whatsoever.

[Anonymous]

My ILs used to do that even back in the days before texting so we actually had to call to report that we’d made it 2 hours. It always seemed odd to me since we both traveled frequently for work but somehow the 2 hour drive required a report. They also always wanted us to take a full meal in the car, regardless of time of day. I learned to just go along with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just send the text 'home ' and ignore all others until you have time. It's annoying but will take you two seconds.

Seriously, send out a group text. And, yes, it is normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It takes so much more time, effort and mental energy to stew over this and write a long-ass post and follow up to read the replies than it does to text: "Home safe! Thanks for a great visit."

Exactly

It was a 6 line post on DCUM and OP asked if there was a better way to handle. Why do you think there was a huge loss of time, effort, mental energy and stewing?
(I'm not the OP)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It takes so much more time, effort and mental energy to stew over this and write a long-ass post and follow up to read the replies than it does to text: "Home safe! Thanks for a great visit."

Exactly

It was a 6 line post on DCUM and OP asked if there was a better way to handle. Why do you think there was a huge loss of time, effort, mental energy and stewing?
(I'm not the OP)

Literally anything longer than typing one line of text (5 seconds?) is just making a big deal out of not a big deal. -np

[Anonymous]

When my friend and I visit each other (we live four hours away), we text when we get home. Same with my college girlfriends after a weekend trip. No one calls if someone doesn't text, but I do like getting a note than everyone got home okay, although I don't ask them to text me every time they return home from a trip, so I guess it's just a nice way to wrap up the visit? I don't know, we just all do it, but maybe I'd be annoyed if someone went overboard about it. Anyway, OP, on the list of things to get riled up about, this seems like it should be pretty low. So just take it as a sign that they care about you and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find this really annoying too. I go on a million car trips a year, and THIS ONE is the one I have to text you about? It feels ... controlling and disrespectful that you’re an adult.

I agree. I hate this. It comes from anxiety on their parts. I know it's out of love, but it's annoying as hell.

Really? How on earth do you function in real life if something this small gets you so riled up?