Husband doesn’t get up with the baby so I want him to sleep on the couch.

[Anonymous]

Never have a baby with a man who wears a necklace.

[Anonymous]

We have an awesome memory foam mattress from Costco that was under 600. You need to prioritize getting a new bed.

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This is all to bizarre, especially with your husband being the only bread earner working outside the house, and yes I realize being a new mom is a full time job also. You also state that he does a lot around the house after getting home from work. Lots of wife’s would kill for that.

As for a necklace, that’s simply weird to wear in bed. And as for your bed, why do you need a $2,000. one? What kind of princess are you? Few around here sleep on $2,000. mattresses. Mattresses are ALWAYS on sale, buy a perfectly good $1,000. one on sale for $700. if it’s that bad.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have a newborn and alternate who sleeps in bed and who’s on the couch—whoever’s getting up with baby gets the bed. Your husband gets the couch.

[Anonymous]

$2000 for a new bed? You’re being a drama queen. Get a memory foam mattress from Costco as others have suggested. Well under $1000. You can do this.

[Anonymous]

I would make him sleep on the sofa- not as a punishment but so that you can get a good night's sleep.
I wouldn't make him get up with the baby if I was staying home full time- it sounds like he's doing a lot of other things to help. I'm saying this from a 50/50 marriage. The sleep will get better before you know it.
Before he moves back from the couch, which should happen when your baby reliably sleeps 6+ hours straight (it's not comfortable, but the 6 hour sleep mark is generally night to morning 10-4, 11-5, etc.), get a new mattress.

[Anonymous]

You need your sleep if you are the sole caregiver of a baby. Are you falling asleep during the day? Driving is not safe with sleep deprivation (don't ask how I know).

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Anonymous wrote:I would make him sleep on the sofa- not as a punishment but so that you can get a good night's sleep.
I wouldn't make him get up with the baby if I was staying home full time- it sounds like he's doing a lot of other things to help. I'm saying this from a 50/50 marriage. The sleep will get better before you know it.
Before he moves back from the couch, which should happen when your baby reliably sleeps 6+ hours straight (it's not comfortable, but the 6 hour sleep mark is generally night to morning 10-4, 11-5, etc.), get a new mattress.

This. He doesn’t sound like that much of a jerk, to be honest. He is the breadwinner.

And yeah you don’t need $2000 for a mattress. We just got a new one. $720 all told and we love it.

[Anonymous]

We kicked the baby out of our room at 1 week since she was such a loud sleeper I could sleep between feeding. We switched off half the night who stayed in her room on a sleeping bag/blow up mattress to do diaper changes etc. I still got up to feed every 3-4 hrs but just fed and handed her back to DH for everything else when it wasn't "my" shift. This way I got some solid sleep in between and he did too off his shift.

[Anonymous]

My husband slept in the basement for about three months when one of our kids was a baby. He was a resident, got up super early and needed sleep to function. It wasn’t a big deal. I see nothing wrong with having him sleep elsewhere for a little while.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you breastfeeding or formula? I was bf and didn’t think it useful to wake up dh. I nursed in bed and the put baby back in the bassinet. Dh wasn’t an asshole though

It gets better op!

This. When I did make DH get the children I had to get up anyway. It was rough.
But make getting a new mattress (A Casper, a Purple, a something from IKEA, anything as long as it is delivered) a priority.

[Anonymous]

All you can do is suggest it to him and see what he says.

If he doesn't want to sleep on the couch (who would???) then I don't think there is anything you can do to make him.

[Anonymous]

Does he work? You are living off only savings?

[Anonymous]

I'd sleep on the couch with the bassinette in that room.

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Anonymous wrote:$2000 for a new bed? You’re being a drama queen. Get a memory foam mattress from Costco as others have suggested. Well under $1000. You can do this.

+1. We bought a good mattress for 500$ from mattress discounters. We’ve never spent 2000$ on a mattress although we could definitely afford to do so.