Ladies what are men do that bothers you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mansplain. I once had a date go on and on about Renaissance art. We were in a group and he just about lost it when another person at the table told him I had a Master's degree in Art History.

So I totally agree re Mansplaining. But I don’t think the example you gave us actually mansplaining. It’s not like Renaissance art is a thing most people know a lot about that he could assume you knew about it, plus if other people were there it sounds like none of them had degrees in art history, only you. In all his ramblings you couldn’t have interjected a hey, that’s super interesting, as part of my art history studies we looked at... from the Renaissance...? If he still tried to teach you about Renaissance art AFTER knowing you had the degree then that would have been mansplaining.

+1 Sounds like the guy was being a bit douchy though —here’s something no one else knows much about so I can impress my date!

I’ve talked to men who proceeded to tell me wrong details about foreign countries they didn’t know I’d lived in. Including a man who said “It’s really dangerous, but if you want to go sometime, I can keep you safe.” At that point, I told him that I’d lived there during the height of the drug wars and could recommend some former military turned mercs if he wanted armed guards when he went back. He abruptly found someone he needed to talk to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Brush off a woman's opinion or thought as her just being emotional (which is interesting, considering the amount of violence and abuse caused by men who can't regulate their emotions).

This. I think a good deal of men have a lot of trouble recognizing that other people (both men and women) have thoughts and emotions. They say or do things that are mean or offensive, and either they totally ignore it, or, if that’s not possible, they get angry at how *the other person* caused *them* pain by being upset.
I see this at work. I see it in politics and in the news. I see it when my husband tells me about some of his problems at work. I even see it in my teenage boys and their friends. They just have so much trouble recognizing that everyone has emotions and an inner monologue. It’s like they think they are the only ones.

[Anonymous]

Ideas and opinions dismissed at work. Then 15 mins later a man says the.same.exact.thing I just said and everyone thinks he’s a genius.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, mansplaining.

Just the blatant assumption, sometimes before a woman even starts talking, that she doesn't really know what she's talking about, or doesn't have the right to have an opinion, or that the opinion is invalid merely because they say so.

I have a great dad, and I had the good sense to go on to marry a keeper (14 years now), so 'not all men' for sure, but a hell of a lot of them.

Hilarious that women invented that term. Every conversation a woman has is basically her over explaining something

And that would be mansplaining for you.

[Anonymous]

I hate when men expect me for my opinion, I prefer men who take charge

[Anonymous]

Explain what we are doing when watching a performance, movie or television program, or visiting a location/museum etc; when I planned the event or selected the show. Pretty sure I had a good grasp prior or would not have suggested. Sure, add anecdotes, but please don’t monologue. Definitely ask me about my familiarity with what we are doing if you feel you must wax on endlessly (wait for my response too). This pretty lady has thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brush off a woman's opinion or thought as her just being emotional (which is interesting, considering the amount of violence and abuse caused by men who can't regulate their emotions).

This. I think a good deal of men have a lot of trouble recognizing that other people (both men and women) have thoughts and emotions. They say or do things that are mean or offensive, and either they totally ignore it, or, if that’s not possible, they get angry at how *the other person* caused *them* pain by being upset.
I see this at work. I see it in politics and in the news. I see it when my husband tells me about some of his problems at work. I even see it in my teenage boys and their friends. They just have so much trouble recognizing that everyone has emotions and an inner monologue. It’s like they think they are the only ones.

A woman - member of by far and away the most solipsistic gender - accuses men of solipsism.

Project much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, mansplaining.

Just the blatant assumption, sometimes before a woman even starts talking, that she doesn't really know what she's talking about, or doesn't have the right to have an opinion, or that the opinion is invalid merely because they say so.

I have a great dad, and I had the good sense to go on to marry a keeper (14 years now), so 'not all men' for sure, but a hell of a lot of them.

Hilarious that women invented that term. Every conversation a woman has is basically her over explaining something

And that would be mansplaining for you.

So there's at least one other thread in which women ask, "don't men want a smart woman with whom they have intellectual sparks and can have a conversation?"

Yet when you do try to have an intellectual conversation, you are accused of "mansplaining".

You wonder why men don't even want to bother having a conversation with you?

[Anonymous]

When they ask me what my husband does for a living rather than what I do for a living not realizing I likely make more then them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brush off a woman's opinion or thought as her just being emotional (which is interesting, considering the amount of violence and abuse caused by men who can't regulate their emotions).

This. I think a good deal of men have a lot of trouble recognizing that other people (both men and women) have thoughts and emotions. They say or do things that are mean or offensive, and either they totally ignore it, or, if that’s not possible, they get angry at how *the other person* caused *them* pain by being upset.
I see this at work. I see it in politics and in the news. I see it when my husband tells me about some of his problems at work. I even see it in my teenage boys and their friends. They just have so much trouble recognizing that everyone has emotions and an inner monologue. It’s like they think they are the only ones.

A woman - member of by far and away the most solipsistic gender - accuses men of solipsism.

Project much?

Sigh. It isn’t an accusation. Just an observation. I’m sorry that it hurts your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mansplain. I once had a date go on and on about Renaissance art. We were in a group and he just about lost it when another person at the table told him I had a Master's degree in Art History.

So I totally agree re Mansplaining. But I don’t think the example you gave us actually mansplaining. It’s not like Renaissance art is a thing most people know a lot about that he could assume you knew about it, plus if other people were there it sounds like none of them had degrees in art history, only you. In all his ramblings you couldn’t have interjected a hey, that’s super interesting, as part of my art history studies we looked at... from the Renaissance...? If he still tried to teach you about Renaissance art AFTER knowing you had the degree then that would have been mansplaining.

+1 Sounds like the guy was being a bit douchy though —here’s something no one else knows much about so I can impress my date!

I’ve talked to men who proceeded to tell me wrong details about foreign countries they didn’t know I’d lived in. Including a man who said “It’s really dangerous, but if you want to go sometime, I can keep you safe.” At that point, I told him that I’d lived there during the height of the drug wars and could recommend some former military turned mercs if he wanted armed guards when he went back. He abruptly found someone he needed to talk to.

A guy my DH worked with once tried to impress a bunch of women by saying he had just gotten back from a medium threat country. My DH took great delight in telling the women that country was.....Canada.

[Anonymous]

DH here...

I think the title should read...

"Ladies, what are things men do that bother you?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH here...

I think the title should read...

"Ladies, what are things men do that bother you?"

I have some serious bro love for you!!!

[Anonymous]

Men don’t really bother me. Or women. Only gnats. And mosquitos. And sometimes a pushy salesperain, or really aggressive driver.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, mansplaining.

Just the blatant assumption, sometimes before a woman even starts talking, that she doesn't really know what she's talking about, or doesn't have the right to have an opinion, or that the opinion is invalid merely because they say so.

I have a great dad, and I had the good sense to go on to marry a keeper (14 years now), so 'not all men' for sure, but a hell of a lot of them.

Hilarious that women invented that term. Every conversation a woman has is basically her over explaining something

And that would be mansplaining for you.

So there's at least one other thread in which women ask, "don't men want a smart woman with whom they have intellectual sparks and can have a conversation?"

Yet when you do try to have an intellectual conversation, you are accused of "mansplaining".

You wonder why men don't even want to bother having a conversation with you?

Mansplaining is when men talk at you, not with you. It's not a conversation.