Ladies what are men do that bothers you?

[Anonymous]

I hate it when men start threads like this so they can find out what they are doing that puts off most women but they don't own up to it and let everyone think it's just another DCUM woman complaining about men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ideas and opinions dismissed at work. Then 15 mins later a man says the.same.exact.thing I just said and everyone thinks he’s a genius.

YES, Times a thousand!!!!!! Happens soooo often

Female colleagues and I seek to elevate each other in various ways.

[Anonymous]

Opine on abortion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Opine on abortion.

So the father of the child shouldn’t have an opinion? I do agree that old white guys in the senate should keep their mouths shut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am generally turned off by people:

-with colorful sexual history, they are statistically more likely to have known and hidden STDs
-entitled people
-narcissist
-egotists
-psychophats and sociopaths
-addicts (to anything)
-people obsessed with certain hobbies
-people who put their needs over their children's needs (if they are divorced)
-people who use abortion as contraception
-people who don't care about the environment
-people who either obsess over or neglect pets
-people with bad grammar, punctuation, and spelling.

Wait .. so you're okay with people putting their needs over their children's needs, so long as they stay married? Like, affairs are fine if it hurts the kids, so long as you don't divorce?

Or do you think married people are somehow constitutionally unable to put themselves first?

Both interpretations are more than a little gross, PP.

[Anonymous]

Inconsistency - being unreliable or not following up

Not being upfront about their intentions.

[Anonymous]

Close down emotionally

[Anonymous]

I don't need help from you. I just want you to listen and let me do it on my own.

[Anonymous]

When they don’t grow up.

[Anonymous]

Bronzing. Yes, it can be an effective, though costly, measure for settling a score in a prison setting, but it is NOT appropriate within a committed relationship. #Empowerment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am generally turned off by people:

-with colorful sexual history, they are statistically more likely to have known and hidden STDs
-entitled people
-narcissist
-egotists
-psychophats and sociopaths
-addicts (to anything)
-people obsessed with certain hobbies
-people who put their needs over their children's needs (if they are divorced)
-people who use abortion as contraception
-people who don't care about the environment
-people who either obsess over or neglect pets
-people with bad grammar, punctuation, and spelling.

Not racists? Or homophobes?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mansplain. I once had a date go on and on about Renaissance art. We were in a group and he just about lost it when another person at the table told him I had a Master's degree in Art History.

So I totally agree re Mansplaining. But I don’t think the example you gave us actually mansplaining. It’s not like Renaissance art is a thing most people know a lot about that he could assume you knew about it, plus if other people were there it sounds like none of them had degrees in art history, only you. In all his ramblings you couldn’t have interjected a hey, that’s super interesting, as part of my art history studies we looked at... from the Renaissance...? If he still tried to teach you about Renaissance art AFTER knowing you had the degree then that would have been mansplaining.

+1 Sounds like the guy was being a bit douchy though —here’s something no one else knows much about so I can impress my date!

I’ve talked to men who proceeded to tell me wrong details about foreign countries they didn’t know I’d lived in. Including a man who said “It’s really dangerous, but if you want to go sometime, I can keep you safe.” At that point, I told him that I’d lived there during the height of the drug wars and could recommend some former military turned mercs if he wanted armed guards when he went back. He abruptly found someone he needed to talk to.

A guy my DH worked with once tried to impress a bunch of women by saying he had just gotten back from a medium threat country. My DH took great delight in telling the women that country was.....Canada.

That’s hilarious!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mansplain. I once had a date go on and on about Renaissance art. We were in a group and he just about lost it when another person at the table told him I had a Master's degree in Art History.

So I totally agree re Mansplaining. But I don’t think the example you gave us actually mansplaining. It’s not like Renaissance art is a thing most people know a lot about that he could assume you knew about it, plus if other people were there it sounds like none of them had degrees in art history, only you. In all his ramblings you couldn’t have interjected a hey, that’s super interesting, as part of my art history studies we looked at... from the Renaissance...? If he still tried to teach you about Renaissance art AFTER knowing you had the degree then that would have been mansplaining.

+1 Sounds like the guy was being a bit douchy though —here’s something no one else knows much about so I can impress my date!

I’ve talked to men who proceeded to tell me wrong details about foreign countries they didn’t know I’d lived in. Including a man who said “It’s really dangerous, but if you want to go sometime, I can keep you safe.” At that point, I told him that I’d lived there during the height of the drug wars and could recommend some former military turned mercs if he wanted armed guards when he went back. He abruptly found someone he needed to talk to.

How is this “mansplaining”?

If anything, you are the one “mainsplaining” by immediately contradicting what he said in a condescending way. No wonder he “abruptly” found someone else to talk to.

[Anonymous]

Breathe, chew, swallow

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Opine on abortion.

So the father of the child shouldn’t have an opinion? I do agree that old white guys in the senate should keep their mouths shut.

DP. They exercised their right to decision making when they decided to have sex. Men thinking they have the right to control my body is definitely something that “bothers” me.