MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo

[Anonymous]

The boots she can't run around in. Ok for dress up or for a party only. The shirt would be fine worn over another shirt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just tell her straight up the boots are inappropriate for a 6 year old. No heels until middle school.

The shirt you can work with, add a tank top underneath and it's fine.

MIDDLE SCHOOL?! Nope. My DDs are 11 and 14 and I assure you DD14 may NOT wear heels.

[Anonymous]

put up some boundaries, lady!

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want someone to continue to waste their money on things my child is not going to wear, so I would say:

1. No heels for kids, it's bad for the developing spine.

2. Traditional clothing for my child please, not clothes that older children wear.

[Anonymous]

Totally agree w/ you re the boots and I would layer the crop top - wouldn't want my 6 yr old showing her belly either.

I'd be kind, but direct w/ your MIL about wanting your daughter to look and dress like a 6 yr old. That in your opinion heels and midriff baring tops are for older girls - in their early teens at least so you set aside anything that you think is not age appropriate. And then I'd maybe have a list of lots of things that might be fun for a MIL to buy that you would happily support. (I give my mom missions like footed pajamas, or sequin shirts that change pictures when you brush them, etc... - stuff my kids love, that I can live with, and that make Grandma look like a gift hero.)

Period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

Just remember the example you are setting for your kids. Your kids will treat you this way with their kids. Its not about need but her doing something nice. Its called appreciation. Learn it. You are a nasty person for not allowing her to be apart of the kids lives. But, that's ok, kids learn from parents, so you will be treated the same way.

[Anonymous]

The real problem here is that your MIL has awful taste and you have to be the one to tell her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

Just remember the example you are setting for your kids. Your kids will treat you this way with their kids. Its not about need but her doing something nice. Its called appreciation. Learn it. You are a nasty person for not allowing her to be apart of the kids lives. But, that's ok, kids learn from parents, so you will be treated the same way.

Nasty? That seems like a personal word choice, PP. The poster IS allowing the grandma to be a part of the child’s life, she is just saying they don’t need clothes. You can be appreciative and grateful, but you can also still be that way as you let someone know they don’t need to spend their money on you. Giving ideas for PJs is always an opportunity for someone who likes to buy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

Just remember the example you are setting for your kids. Your kids will treat you this way with their kids. Its not about need but her doing something nice. Its called appreciation. Learn it. You are a nasty person for not allowing her to be apart of the kids lives. But, that's ok, kids learn from parents, so you will be treated the same way.

Nasty? That seems like a personal word choice, PP. The poster IS allowing the grandma to be a part of the child’s life, she is just saying they don’t need clothes. You can be appreciative and grateful, but you can also still be that way as you let someone know they don’t need to spend their money on you. Giving ideas for PJs is always an opportunity for someone who likes to buy.

Kids are always growing and need clothing. That poster can give sizes and a wish list or try to guide grandma or just be appreciative. If kids have too many clothes, that poster can buy less for her kids. Its nasty to tell someone they cannot buy for a child. Its not about you, but the child and kids like gifts, most people like gifts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

Just remember the example you are setting for your kids. Your kids will treat you this way with their kids. Its not about need but her doing something nice. Its called appreciation. Learn it. You are a nasty person for not allowing her to be apart of the kids lives. But, that's ok, kids learn from parents, so you will be treated the same way.

Nasty? That seems like a personal word choice, PP. The poster IS allowing the grandma to be a part of the child’s life, she is just saying they don’t need clothes. You can be appreciative and grateful, but you can also still be that way as you let someone know they don’t need to spend their money on you. Giving ideas for PJs is always an opportunity for someone who likes to buy.

Kids are always growing and need clothing. That poster can give sizes and a wish list or try to guide grandma or just be appreciative. If kids have too many clothes, that poster can buy less for her kids. Its nasty to tell someone they cannot buy for a child. Its not about you, but the child and kids like gifts, most people like gifts.

This seems personal to you, PP.

The poster is open and honest about where the clothes go and the grandma still buys. As previously suggested pjs would be a good thing to recommend grandma to purchase.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the boots are ugly and trashy.
When I clicked on the link for the shirt, I was expecting something like “I Don’t Kiss and Tell” in sparkly letters. To find a unicorn on a boxy T-shirt was disappointing. Not sure what the big deal is. What’s the problem with the shirt?

It’s hard to tell on the model, but it’s suuuper short. It’s a belly shirt.

Wear a tank undershirt with it
I make my teen do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

NP, your husband should donate you to Goodwill .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit.

Nothing wrong with those slogans. You sound nasty and controlling. Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

Just remember the example you are setting for your kids. Your kids will treat you this way with their kids. Its not about need but her doing something nice. Its called appreciation. Learn it. You are a nasty person for not allowing her to be apart of the kids lives. But, that's ok, kids learn from parents, so you will be treated the same way.

Nasty? That seems like a personal word choice, PP. The poster IS allowing the grandma to be a part of the child’s life, she is just saying they don’t need clothes. You can be appreciative and grateful, but you can also still be that way as you let someone know they don’t need to spend their money on you. Giving ideas for PJs is always an opportunity for someone who likes to buy.

Kids are always growing and need clothing. That poster can give sizes and a wish list or try to guide grandma or just be appreciative. If kids have too many clothes, that poster can buy less for her kids. Its nasty to tell someone they cannot buy for a child. Its not about you, but the child and kids like gifts, most people like gifts.

np: No way. If someone else gives my kid trashy clothes, my kids not wearing it. Giving a gift does not entitle you to dictate how it is used. The giver loses control upon giving. And if the recipient is a child, then the parent has a say.

[Anonymous]

Don’t see the big deal with the shirt if DD likes it. Wear a tank top underneath. I have some cropped hoodies for myself which are popular right now and they look cute with a longer tank.