Reply to MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "MIL buys inappropriate clothing for 6yo"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell her you feel the clothing is inappropriate. "MIL, this top/skirt didn't fit DD properly. Her belly/rear end is uncovered." I can't believe how short and provocative some of the little girl clothing is compared to the shorts and t-shirts I've bought my son. My daughter ends up wearing a lot of her big brother's clothing.

My MIL loves to buy our kids cutesy outfits that say "Handsome", "Mommy's Best Friend", "Grandma is my favorite"... We've asked her nicely not to buy clothing with these slogans. We'd rather she not buy the kids clothing at all because she never asks us for sizes and most of the clothes don't even fit, and can't be returned because she buys on clearance and takes the tags off. She ignores us and keeps doing it. Now everything she buys goes into our Goodwill pile, and if she asks, we're truthful and say it wasn't our style or it didn't fit. [/quote]

Nothing wrong with those slogans.  You sound nasty and controlling.  Just send her the new sizes every so often and tell her a size up from what you need.[/quote]

I don't plan on sending her sizes because we don't need her to buy the kids clothes and I don't plan on putting the kids in the clothes she buys. If MIL finds me nasty or controlling, I won't lose any sleep over it. I don't see why I should feel obligated to use everything she buys just because she, unprompted, decided to buy it and mail it to us.

[/quote]

Just remember the example you are setting for your kids.  Your kids will treat you this way with their kids.  Its not about need but her doing something nice.  Its called appreciation.  Learn it.  You are a nasty person for not allowing her to be apart of the kids lives.  But, that's ok, kids learn from parents, so you will be treated the same way.[/quote]

Nasty?  That seems like a personal word choice, PP.  The poster IS allowing the grandma to be a part of the child’s life, she is just saying they don’t need clothes. You can be appreciative and grateful, but you can also still be that way as you let someone know they don’t need to spend their money on you.  Giving ideas for PJs is always an opportunity for someone who likes to buy.[/quote]

Kids are always growing and need clothing.  That poster can give sizes and a wish list or try to guide grandma or just be appreciative.  If kids have too many clothes, that poster can buy less for her kids.  Its nasty to tell someone they cannot buy for a child.  Its not about you, but the child and kids like gifts, most people like gifts.[/quote]

This seems personal to you, PP.

The poster is open and honest about where the clothes go and the grandma still buys. As previously suggested pjs would be a good thing to recommend grandma to purchase.
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics