Attracting age appropriate men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

Where can I go to meet that demographic?

Thanks!

I wish I had your problem, OP.

No older guys at work? Most people are online now, but if you don’t want online, try church, bar/club, gym.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

Where can I go to meet that demographic?

Thanks!

Right here om DCUM of course. NOVA-based, 53, 6'5", PhD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

Where can I go to meet that demographic?

Thanks!

If you're 48, then you look 48.

You must be giving out some kind of signals that you are not receptive to older guys asking you out.

Try wearing more conservative clothing and makeup and see what happens.

Or you know, this is the age of feminism, you could always try putting in a little effort yourself and asking a man out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

If older men aren't asking you out... it could be that you don't look as young as you think you do.

Your comment makes no sense. She must be reasonably attractive or she wouldn’t be getting asked out at all, especially if she doesn’t do online dating.

She could be attractive for 48, but the fact remains, men age 45 to 55 do not want 48. They probably just divorced 48, and now they want younger.

It doesn't matter what they "want" -- the vast majority 30-something women don't want to date 45-55 yr old men. I've always been much more open-minded about age than my friends, and even I drew the line at 10 years older.

It does matter what they want, because it means they are much less likely to date the OP.

And nobody, least of all a man age 45 to 55, cares what kind of woman you think a man of that age should date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

Where can I go to meet that demographic?

Thanks!

If you're 48, then you look 48.

You must be giving out some kind of signals that you are not receptive to older guys asking you out.

Try wearing more conservative clothing and makeup and see what happens.

Or you know, this is the age of feminism, you could always try putting in a little effort yourself and asking a man out.

If I have to dreess grumpy and make myself look less attractive to get the older guys, maybe it’s better for me to stick with the younger ones. I don’t dress provocatively at all but I am in shape so I look good in my clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

Where can I go to meet that demographic?

Thanks!

If you're 48, then you look 48.

You must be giving out some kind of signals that you are not receptive to older guys asking you out.

Try wearing more conservative clothing and makeup and see what happens.

Or you know, this is the age of feminism, you could always try putting in a little effort yourself and asking a man out.

Any age has a range of youthfulness or aging appearance.



Which ones are 48? All of them, and no celebrities. They look the same age? You're going to hang onto that, are you?

[Anonymous]

I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

If you're only meeting guys at work, how am I - a guy in your age range - going to meet you? What do you like to do that makes it possible for me to meet you?

[Anonymous]

I’m a 45 year old woman who has also found it difficult to meet guys within 4-5 years of my age, both older and younger. I either attract the mid-30’s to early 40’s or the 50+. And I was online. I think the mid-40’s guys tend to date down, the mid-30’s guys tend to date up and the 50+ guys also try to date down. Can’t figure it out. Settled with my current 41 year old which is about as close to my age as I have found. Don’t discount the younger men, they’re tons of fun!

[Anonymous]

People do not age the same. Younger guys are asking her out because she looks much younger. Fine, just target your age group. They will appreciate how you take care of yourself. I look 7-10 years younger, told all the time. Co-workers thought my husband married much younger, we are only 6 yrs. apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is not a terrible problem to have, but I’ve always looked younger than my age. I’m 48 but the men who ask me out are usually mid thirties. I would like to be asked out by the 45-55 set but they aren’t the ones who ask me out. I’m in a profession where there are a lot of younger people so that’s who I tend to meet.

Where can I go to meet that demographic?

Thanks!

If you're 48, then you look 48.

You must be giving out some kind of signals that you are not receptive to older guys asking you out.

Try wearing more conservative clothing and makeup and see what happens.

Or you know, this is the age of feminism, you could always try putting in a little effort yourself and asking a man out.

Any age has a range of youthfulness or aging appearance.



Which ones are 48? All of them, and no celebrities. They look the same age? You're going to hang onto that, are you?

Yes people age differently depending on many factors. I saw the news about Luke Perry, literally thought he was in his 60's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 45 year old woman who has also found it difficult to meet guys within 4-5 years of my age, both older and younger. I either attract the mid-30’s to early 40’s or the 50+. And I was online. I think the mid-40’s guys tend to date down, the mid-30’s guys tend to date up and the 50+ guys also try to date down. Can’t figure it out. Settled with my current 41 year old which is about as close to my age as I have found. Don’t discount the younger men, they’re tons of fun!

OP here; thanks for sharing. My last boyfriend was 40 but we broke up bc he wanted to get married and I didn’t. Similar story with BF before that.

[Anonymous]

OP. I have 5 guys I know all 48-51 (divorced of course) and if I included their friends the group is about 10 guys total I know of only 1 that is dating a girl even close to his age and she is about 7 years younger he is 53 I think. The other 9 guys targeted age range or existing girl is between 35-40. I'm married and I have a hot looking 47 year old wife but if I was single I would be dating closer to the ages my friends are enjoying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I have 5 guys I know all 48-51 (divorced of course) and if I included their friends the group is about 10 guys total I know of only 1 that is dating a girl even close to his age and she is about 7 years younger he is 53 I think. The other 9 guys targeted age range or existing girl is between 35-40. I'm married and I have a hot looking 47 year old wife but if I was single I would be dating closer to the ages my friends are enjoying

Ok, guess I'll stick with the younger guys then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 45 year old woman who has also found it difficult to meet guys within 4-5 years of my age, both older and younger. I either attract the mid-30’s to early 40’s or the 50+. And I was online. I think the mid-40’s guys tend to date down, the mid-30’s guys tend to date up and the 50+ guys also try to date down. Can’t figure it out. Settled with my current 41 year old which is about as close to my age as I have found. Don’t discount the younger men, they’re tons of fun!

OP here; thanks for sharing. My last boyfriend was 40 but we broke up bc he wanted to get married and I didn’t. Similar story with BF before that.

I’m the PP and that’s the biggest problem with the younger guys. They either want to get married or they have younger children (at 45 I have high school age teenagers). I’m looking at an empty nest in a few years and the freedom that comes along with that. I’m not interested in raising young children.

And for the guy whose 48-51 year old male friends looking for 35-40 year old women, that’s what I see as a 45 year old woman. All the guys near my agre go way younger. I understand why. But I’d still prefer someone closer to my own age due to being in similar places in life. My 47 year old ex married a 39 year old. Not a huge age difference but still shows how the men his age date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. I have 5 guys I know all 48-51 (divorced of course) and if I included their friends the group is about 10 guys total I know of only 1 that is dating a girl even close to his age and she is about 7 years younger he is 53 I think. The other 9 guys targeted age range or existing girl is between 35-40. I'm married and I have a hot looking 47 year old wife but if I was single I would be dating closer to the ages my friends are enjoying

Lol, okay.