Attracting age appropriate men

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Looks like" is not equivalent to "comes across as."

You can look younger than the typical person your age and act younger, typical for your age, or more mature. I certainly hope you aren't criticizing people for having good skin or staying fit.

Of course not. But a fit 48-year old with good skin is still a 48-year old. Not to be confused for a 38-year old. I am not exactly sure what I am criticizing - perhaps the idea that aiming "younger" is a good thing. Looks and image are holistic, they are not defined by your fitness level or quality of your skin. If you are 48, the totality of your 48 years of experience and thoughts should be evident in your manner, style and conversation. It should shine through your eyes. That's an asset, not a drawback. If they don't, then I'd think you missed on the life experience that a 48-year old should have. When a 48-year old woman says she's routinely taken for a 35-year old, I ask myself - what part of your brain are you hiding to conceal your experience? Or were you in a coma for the last 13 years of your life? Because if you're 48, you should sound 13 years smarter than a 35-year old. I mean you should BE 13 years smarter than a 35-year old. And that should be evident despite the quality of your skin or fitness level.

Are you assuming that when people say they are mistaken for someone younger, they are being approached by someone who is doing research on their conversational style and intellectual background first?

[Anonymous]

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OP, I would stick with the younger guys. There is a sharp decline in, um, performance among the age range you seek.

Or men should stick with younger women as there is a sharp decline in, um, attractiveness in the age range noted.

It might be that the decline in performance is related to older women's decline in attractiveness.

As a mid-50s man, that has been my experience. With younger women--I'm better than ever. With older women, I need 50mg of Viagra, and prayers.

Hahaha. No young woman would touch your d with a 10 foot pole. It’s fun to pretend things on the Internet though. So easy to create a false image of yourself and try to make women feel bad. Sorry it won’t work, women have no trouble finding sex at any age. They have lower drives, and therefore more demand, always. Sorry you don’t like it.

I have dated three women in their 20s since being divorced five year ago (slept with two), and had a long-term fwb who was in her late 30s and dated several other women who were in their 30s. Current gf is in her 40s. I also date women near my age.

Of my divorced friends: one had a long-term gf who was 15 years younger, another married a woman who is 10 years younger, and a third will soon marry a woman who is about 10 years younger. Ten years younger seems to be the sweet spot.

For most middle age divorced women the three most important numbers are 85, 25 and 105

85 is the desired age of the man.

$25 million minimum net worth

105 degree current body temperature.

[Anonymous]

So bitter. Wish we had a cream for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Looks like" is not equivalent to "comes across as."

You can look younger than the typical person your age and act younger, typical for your age, or more mature. I certainly hope you aren't criticizing people for having good skin or staying fit.

Of course not. But a fit 48-year old with good skin is still a 48-year old. Not to be confused for a 38-year old. I am not exactly sure what I am criticizing - perhaps the idea that aiming "younger" is a good thing. Looks and image are holistic, they are not defined by your fitness level or quality of your skin. If you are 48, the totality of your 48 years of experience and thoughts should be evident in your manner, style and conversation. It should shine through your eyes. That's an asset, not a drawback. If they don't, then I'd think you missed on the life experience that a 48-year old should have. When a 48-year old woman says she's routinely taken for a 35-year old, I ask myself - what part of your brain are you hiding to conceal your experience? Or were you in a coma for the last 13 years of your life? Because if you're 48, you should sound 13 years smarter than a 35-year old. I mean you should BE 13 years smarter than a 35-year old. And that should be evident despite the quality of your skin or fitness level.

Are you assuming that when people say they are mistaken for someone younger, they are being approached by someone who is doing research on their conversational style and intellectual background first?

I am assuming they don't limit this statement to scenarios when someone has just laid eyes on them for the first time.

[Anonymous]

Ah. That's probably where you went wrong. When someone says "I get mistaken for 35 all the time," there usually isn't a yet unstated "even when I take about my college-aged son, teenaged love of Dave Matthews, and number of years in BigLaw."

[Anonymous]

My Dad is 66 and he's very active, fit, good looking, wealthy - in other words a pretty good catch. He's dated a number of women around his age but he says they all make him feel old talking about health issues and other just old things such as women who recount everything their grandchildren do. My Dad has a bunch of grandchildren and he adores them but he doesn't keep a day to day record of what they do. I've never had a sex talk with him but I'm pretty sure he's far from being out to pasture in that area but that many of the women his age are. Over the last year or so he's begun to date women in their late 40's - early 50's and it's clear he is having a very good time though he has said he's not too far from robbing the cradle. For the past few months he's become pretty serious about a woman who is around 52. Deep down I think he wishes he was with someone closer to his age but age appropriate doesn't work for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah. That's probably where you went wrong. When someone says "I get mistaken for 35 all the time," there usually isn't a yet unstated "even when I take about my college-aged son, teenaged love of Dave Matthews, and number of years in BigLaw."

Make that Jon BonJovi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Dad is 66 and he's very active, fit, good looking, wealthy - in other words a pretty good catch. He's dated a number of women around his age but he says they all make him feel old talking about health issues and other just old things such as women who recount everything their grandchildren do. My Dad has a bunch of grandchildren and he adores them but he doesn't keep a day to day record of what they do. I've never had a sex talk with him but I'm pretty sure he's far from being out to pasture in that area but that many of the women his age are. Over the last year or so he's begun to date women in their late 40's - early 50's and it's clear he is having a very good time though he has said he's not too far from robbing the cradle. For the past few months he's become pretty serious about a woman who is around 52. Deep down I think he wishes he was with someone closer to his age but age appropriate doesn't work for him.

No late forties woman is dating your 66 year old dad. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah. That's probably where you went wrong. When someone says "I get mistaken for 35 all the time," there usually isn't a yet unstated "even when I take about my college-aged son, teenaged love of Dave Matthews, and number of years in BigLaw."

I think your age should be obvious the moment you open your mouth, even if college age children are not involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My Dad is 66 and he's very active, fit, good looking, wealthy - in other words a pretty good catch. He's dated a number of women around his age but he says they all make him feel old talking about health issues and other just old things such as women who recount everything their grandchildren do. My Dad has a bunch of grandchildren and he adores them but he doesn't keep a day to day record of what they do. I've never had a sex talk with him but I'm pretty sure he's far from being out to pasture in that area but that many of the women his age are. Over the last year or so he's begun to date women in their late 40's - early 50's and it's clear he is having a very good time though he has said he's not too far from robbing the cradle. For the past few months he's become pretty serious about a woman who is around 52. Deep down I think he wishes he was with someone closer to his age but age appropriate doesn't work for him.

No late forties woman is dating your 66 year old dad. Lol.

No he did but now he's dating a 52 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Dad is 66 and he's very active, fit, good looking, wealthy - in other words a pretty good catch. He's dated a number of women around his age but he says they all make him feel old talking about health issues and other just old things such as women who recount everything their grandchildren do. My Dad has a bunch of grandchildren and he adores them but he doesn't keep a day to day record of what they do. I've never had a sex talk with him but I'm pretty sure he's far from being out to pasture in that area but that many of the women his age are. Over the last year or so he's begun to date women in their late 40's - early 50's and it's clear he is having a very good time though he has said he's not too far from robbing the cradle. For the past few months he's become pretty serious about a woman who is around 52. Deep down I think he wishes he was with someone closer to his age but age appropriate doesn't work for him.

My mother is 67 and says the same thing about guys her age! All they do is complain about their aches and pains and how lousy their golf games are. She looks great and is incredibly active and has a persona of someone much younger. She'd love to be in a relationship but it would need to be with someone who could keep up with her and I can't see her dating someone 55 who would want to date someone 45.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah. That's probably where you went wrong. When someone says "I get mistaken for 35 all the time," there usually isn't a yet unstated "even when I take about my college-aged son, teenaged love of Dave Matthews, and number of years in BigLaw."

I think your age should be obvious the moment you open your mouth, even if college age children are not involved.

The way you say "Hi," and "Did you see any good presentations?" tags you as 48? Is there, what, some kind of creaking involved -- or did you giggle like a baby at 35? How does that work, exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this question has been asked many different ways and the answer is always the same: online.

Specify your age range in your profile and try various sites. It's not my favorite method either but it's where everyone is.

Other than that, try a U2 or James Taylor concert.

Uhhhhm she didn’t say 60 year old men.

You mean a Radiohead or Bare Naked Ladies or Regina Spektor concert.