Is this crazy?

[Anonymous]

Talk with him about not listening to you, but be a good sport tonight. All you need is cases of beer and a million chips and maybe pizza and it’s will all be OK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you don't want him to be friendly and invite people over ever? He's alloted a 1x time "pass" of having people over for a playoff game once a year? No building friendships? No socializing in the comfort of his home?

It's not like he's having people over every single weekend. Entertaining friends (especially ones with families) here and there is not unreasonable.

You should look into talking to your doc about your social anxiety.

Op has already said he has friends over all the time and so that doesn’t seem to be the issue.

NP. I missed that. Where did she say that?

[Anonymous]

Check into the Ritz for the night. He will learn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Nope, he invited families which means I need to be here!

No you don’t. I don’t understand why you think you do. That is your choice to stay.

Don’t be a martyr and complain

[Anonymous]

Park in the couch and let him do all the work

[Anonymous]

I agree with people. Go to the mall, go to Starbucks, gym, just don’t be there! You made it clear how you felt, no giving in now or he will do it again and think you did it before..

[Anonymous]

So, OP - are yu one of those people who always goes to other people’s homes, but never reciprocates, and when you do, it’s known it’s a huge effort? Or do you only go out to restaurants, etc?

If he invited people over tonight, who is doing the cooking and prep?

I guess I don’t mind hosting, but I’d think Super Bowl is actually one of the easiest things to host. No one minds appetizers and snacks, so there is little to “cook”. Keep the cololer filled with beer and water/sparkling water, and you’re pretty much golden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Nope, he invited families which means I need to be here!

Feign illness and just stay in your bedroom the entire time. Your DH can tell everyone you’re sick and can handle entertaining on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks when you're not respected in your own home, but at this point what's done is done and you can't change the fact people are coming over. In your shoes I'd be pissed, but I also wouldn't lift a finger to help out (unless my mood changed and I felt like it, but in this case I probably wouldn't just to drive home the point that this wasn't my party.) Then I'd make a plate of food, chow down, and then go to a movie or to get a massage, window shopping, etc. Hide a few beers or whatever you want to have later. Don't shop. Don't clean up. Don't bring it up again except to ask how his party was. Do your own thing and get out of the house.

Like the DH who would like to invite friends and their family I to what is his home as well?

Super Bowl happ NS once a year. It’s not hard to predict that many people, including you, may have people over.

[Anonymous]

I see the issue here as one of him not listening to her. That’s the real issue.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Dh has friends over daily. Probably once every other weekend to watch games. I have no problem with that and would be fine if it just were friends only again for super bowl. I just don’t want to partake as I get kids ready for week and my own travel which starts tomorrow for work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Nope, he invited families which means I need to be here!

Then either grin and bear it or tell him, if you want to do this, please just invite the guys and do your thing. I'll go visit my parents

[Anonymous]

Go to the movies and tell him to get over it.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who thinks OP sounds like a cry baby?

It's the Super Bowl.

It's one night a year. As other PP's have said it is not hard to entertain for the Super Bowl.

I kinda feel sorry for OP's husband.

Signed,
A woman

[Anonymous]

In our home we try to make sure the spouse is on board with our plans, but there are times when DH is the driver for entertaining and in those cases, he tends to do more of the prep work. There are times its more my thing and I do it, and then we have parties we are equally on board with. In this case, if I were tired/traveling the next day/not up for it (but generally am up for things) I would say, 'I'm not up to doing a lot of the prep and clean up. Happy to have folks over if you can take the lead on that stuff.". I would also have no problem bowing out at 9 pm to put kids to bed, etc (and many families will leave then too).

I think its reasonable that OP is annoyed but her DH should be able to entertain in his home too, and if he did all the prep for this party, I think its one of those things you let slide.