Considering hosting sleepover for 10th birthday

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to check with the parents and see their schedules. We have sports in the AM so that would be an issue. Likewise, I wouldn't allow a sleepover to a house I've never been to nor do I know the parents. I also wouldn't want my child sleeping in a basement without an adult there.

You seem like you need Xanax. There have been lots of threads about parents fearing other parents they don't know who make some sort of blanket "no sleepover rule". People like you are the reason why do many kids can't handle basic functions like laundry or managing money when they leave for college, or otherwise fear everything about the world. Use a little common sense. Don't know the parents? Reach out to them, call, text, or whatever and find out the real story. If you feel weird about it, then say no. If it seems fine, then go for it.

And what's up with the basement phobia? Do you realize that most people have finished basements that are so tricked out that they are nicer than your house? OP's basement sounds awesome, would like to come to their Super Bowl party! I'm guessing I'll make it out alive.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned at a 6000 sq ft basement that has 2.5 bathrooms!

That was my takeaway as well!

It has a bar, guest bedroom and excercise room too. It doesn’t feel that big when you go down there.

Just stop

most people in America can not afford a 500 sq ft studio.

Saying it doesn’t feel big when you obviously have a minimum 18K sq ft house, is obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned at a 6000 sq ft basement that has 2.5 bathrooms!

That was my takeaway as well!

It has a bar, guest bedroom and excercise room too. It doesn’t feel that big when you go down there.

Just stop

most people in America can not afford a 500 sq ft studio.

Saying it doesn’t feel big when you obviously have a minimum 18K sq ft house, is obnoxious.

The size of the basement is an insignificant part of my post. I was just saying we have a good space for the boys to hang out and sleep.

[Anonymous]

you have a 6000 square foot basement??????
how is this even possible?
how big is your above ground house?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned at a 6000 sq ft basement that has 2.5 bathrooms!

That was my takeaway as well!

It has a bar, guest bedroom and excercise room too. It doesn’t feel that big when you go down there.

Just stop

most people in America can not afford a 500 sq ft studio.

Saying it doesn’t feel big when you obviously have a minimum 18K sq ft house, is obnoxious.

The size of the basement is an insignificant part of my post. I was just saying we have a good space for the boys to hang out and sleep.

Sure, but then you followed up with it doesn’t feel big because of the bar, exercise room and extra bedroom. Jeez.

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Anonymous wrote:We did a sleepover for my DS's 9th birthday. I couldn't stomach the thought of planning another bday party.

I think we had 4 or 5 boys over. They slept in the tv room. They stayed up until 11 or so, I think. It was fine.

Your basement sounds perfect.

Don't worry about the nutty parents responding to this thread. They will simply decline and you won't have to worry about them.

What activities did you plan?

His friends seem to play fortnite and roblox. We don’t have either. DS isn’t a big gamer.

My 7yo would play games all day everyday if I let him.

The boys played a bit of the xbox but I admit I intervened and turned it off. I said that they should do something together instead of watching each other play something. They put some music on and then just goofed off. I think they made up their own games and played some nerf. Later in the evening, they voted on a movie and had it on when it was lights out.

I didn't plan any specific activities but I talked with my DS on putting together a quick list of options. I knew the kids who were coming and some of them happen to be great self-entertainers and could carry the whole group.

[Anonymous]

You could always do a sleep under from 6:30-9:30 ish. Pizza, movie, Xbox, bye go home!

[Anonymous]

Just make sure they don't have access to the bar you mentioned is down there. Unless it is stocked with only non alcoholic beverages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make sure they don't have access to the bar you mentioned is down there. Unless it is stocked with only non alcoholic beverages.

Good point! The party could go terribly wrong. The bar is always stocked. My kids have taken sips of beer and wine and want nothing to do with it. Don’t know about the other boys.

Think I will keep guest list at 4 or 5 boys. We are new to school so don’t know anyone all that well. We have just started doing play dates with 2 of the friends. 1 kid we see dad at cub scouts. Last 1-2 boys I have never met the parents.

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Anonymous wrote: . . . Likewise, I wouldn't allow a sleepover to a house I've never been to nor do I know the parents. I also wouldn't want my child sleeping in a basement without an adult there.

We do tons of sleepovers. In fact, it's the rare weekend when I don't have a bunch of kids at my house. This is not the norm.

Also, I wouldn't check with other parents - nothing is going to work for everyone and once you check, you are going to have to pick which kids can't make it to the party. If there is a particular kid that your son wants there, he should know their sports schedule, so you can ask him.

Totally get it...to each his own...but this sounds like my idea of personal hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you have a 6000 square foot basement??????
how is this even possible?
how big is your above ground house?

This. No way is it 6,000 square feet. One level, in a basement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could always do a sleep under from 6:30-9:30 ish. Pizza, movie, Xbox, bye go home!

Not for a 10yr old. That is for lower elementary school and helicopter families.

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Anonymous wrote: . . . Likewise, I wouldn't allow a sleepover to a house I've never been to nor do I know the parents. I also wouldn't want my child sleeping in a basement without an adult there.

We do tons of sleepovers. In fact, it's the rare weekend when I don't have a bunch of kids at my house. This is not the norm.

Also, I wouldn't check with other parents - nothing is going to work for everyone and once you check, you are going to have to pick which kids can't make it to the party. If there is a particular kid that your son wants there, he should know their sports schedule, so you can ask him.

Totally get it...to each his own...but this sounds like my idea of personal hell.

This was always the norm growing up. Kids coming in and out of houses, bikes plastered all over the lawn. Impromptu friends over for dinner and last minute sleepovers. Why are so many parents of our generation so introverted, fearful, and just selfish to not allow their kids a normal childhood with autonomy and socialization.

Organizing activities and sports while hovering 24/7 to make my kid a little robot sounds like personal hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to check with the parents and see their schedules. We have sports in the AM so that would be an issue. Likewise, I wouldn't allow a sleepover to a house I've never been to nor do I know the parents. I also wouldn't want my child sleeping in a basement without an adult there.

Good thing your kid is not invited.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned at a 6000 sq ft basement that has 2.5 bathrooms!

That was my takeaway as well!

It has a bar, guest bedroom and excercise room too. It doesn’t feel that big when you go down there.

Just stop

most people in America can not afford a 500 sq ft studio.

Saying it doesn’t feel big when you obviously have a minimum 18K sq ft house, is obnoxious.

Actually, most people in America live in some version of a single family home or mcmansion.