Considering hosting sleepover for 10th birthday

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Anonymous wrote:I’m stunned at a 6000 sq ft basement that has 2.5 bathrooms!

That was my takeaway as well!

I don't believe it. She probably meant the house as a whole is 6k SQ feet. No way is there a 6000 SQ feet basement!

Why do people care about how big our basement is?

Fine, we live in a very large house. The basement has an au pair/in law suite and several rooms mentioned above. That is why the sf is so high. I stated it doesn’t feel as big because the actual open space where kids would hang out is probably only 2000sf.

My house is 2400sq ft total.

Again, why do we give a shit about how big their basement is? Totally not the point. OP - like what the PP said - when is your Super Bowl party?

Your perspective is pretty funny. I get what you are saying in your relative, but the way it comes off when you type it..... "Oh this little bitty ring? It is only 5 carats."

[Anonymous]

We hosted one (and it'll be the only one) for my daughter's 10th birthday.

My advice - take away any electronics at some set time. They were on them all night, and it kept them up.

Otherwise, they weren't too needy or anything.

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Anonymous wrote:We had a sleepover for DD's 9th bday. Overall it was fun but man they kept me hopping. I had seven girls aged 9-11. I thought they wouldn't be as high maintenance/needy as they were. It was a hectic night. They all slept like crap. There was one very dramatic kid (with a helicopter mother) that I wish hadn't been invited. I'd recommend making sure you don't have any of those invited.

I do think 7 kids is too many. Aim for 3-4. Maybe have one or two back up invites in case the first 3-4 can't come.

7 isn't too many when they are normal kids from normal families. The uptight families with anxious high maintenance kids are bad. The kids that come up to talk to the adults every 30min and tattle on other kids are THE WORST. You really have to know the kids and plan. And my rule is you get one call to say goodnight to parents if you want it. After that, if you are crying/homesick - mom/dad come pick you up. It is no big deal. It is one night. So many of these kids sadly have never been on sleepovers and are just not used to it. Parents are just too hovering or like other moms here, think it is "hell" to have kids over.

Thank goodness your children have you to show them how to be normal. Definitely keep up the idea that families who don’t behave or think exactly like yours are weird. I hear that makes them even more normal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had a sleepover for DD's 9th bday. Overall it was fun but man they kept me hopping. I had seven girls aged 9-11. I thought they wouldn't be as high maintenance/needy as they were. It was a hectic night. They all slept like crap. There was one very dramatic kid (with a helicopter mother) that I wish hadn't been invited. I'd recommend making sure you don't have any of those invited.

I do think 7 kids is too many. Aim for 3-4. Maybe have one or two back up invites in case the first 3-4 can't come.

7 isn't too many when they are normal kids from normal families. The uptight families with anxious high maintenance kids are bad. The kids that come up to talk to the adults every 30min and tattle on other kids are THE WORST. You really have to know the kids and plan. And my rule is you get one call to say goodnight to parents if you want it. After that, if you are crying/homesick - mom/dad come pick you up. It is no big deal. It is one night. So many of these kids sadly have never been on sleepovers and are just not used to it. Parents are just too hovering or like other moms here, think it is "hell" to have kids over.

Thank goodness your children have you to show them how to be normal. Definitely keep up the idea that families who don’t behave or think exactly like yours are weird. I hear that makes them even more normal.

NP here. You absolutely have to limit the number of kids and try to find the ones that will enjoy themselves. I didn’t see her mention anything about not being exactly like them. My daughter has anxiety and we RSVP nonno to many events and won’t do a sleepover yet. Some parents are oblivious and just send their kids and think not my problem. You don’t want those kids there

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Anonymous wrote:We had a sleepover for DD's 9th bday. Overall it was fun but man they kept me hopping. I had seven girls aged 9-11. I thought they wouldn't be as high maintenance/needy as they were. It was a hectic night. They all slept like crap. There was one very dramatic kid (with a helicopter mother) that I wish hadn't been invited. I'd recommend making sure you don't have any of those invited.

I do think 7 kids is too many. Aim for 3-4. Maybe have one or two back up invites in case the first 3-4 can't come.

7 isn't too many when they are normal kids from normal families. The uptight families with anxious high maintenance kids are bad. The kids that come up to talk to the adults every 30min and tattle on other kids are THE WORST. You really have to know the kids and plan. And my rule is you get one call to say goodnight to parents if you want it. After that, if you are crying/homesick - mom/dad come pick you up. It is no big deal. It is one night. So many of these kids sadly have never been on sleepovers and are just not used to it. Parents are just too hovering or like other moms here, think it is "hell" to have kids over.

Thank goodness your children have you to show them how to be normal. Definitely keep up the idea that families who don’t behave or think exactly like yours are weird. I hear that makes them even more normal.

NP here. You absolutely have to limit the number of kids and try to find the ones that will enjoy themselves. I didn’t see her mention anything about not being exactly like them. My daughter has anxiety and we RSVP nonno to many events and won’t do a sleepover yet. Some parents are oblivious and just send their kids and think not my problem. You don’t want those kids there

Glad you didn’t see an insult there, but according to this poster and her own words your kid is not normal and not from a normal family and you are uptight with the implication that your uptight nature caused your child to be high maintenance and anxious. I am not even paraphrasing. That’s what she wrote. Not a lot of grace there.

[Anonymous]

Why do you feel like you need to do a sleepover. Just have them hang out in the basement and serve cake. If you want to be even more generous-pizza and other food. Sleepvers can and do get wild even boy sleepovers and if you find a kid wild now, wait till he has too much sugar and not enough sleep. Plus, you need to check in on them now and then. That age is notorious for dares. My son went to one sleepover where a kid brought a lighter. That could have ended really horrifically if my son and several others didn't run and get an adult. It just takes one kid with poor judgment to do something really stupid.

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Oh one more thing... as others said watch out for the electronics. At one party my daughter went to a girl wanted to put them all on Youtube. Also, no posting photos on IG to make others jealous.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to check with the parents and see their schedules. We have sports in the AM so that would be an issue. Likewise, I wouldn't allow a sleepover to a house I've never been to nor do I know the parents. I also wouldn't want my child sleeping in a basement without an adult there.

You seem like you need Xanax. There have been lots of threads about parents fearing other parents they don't know who make some sort of blanket "no sleepover rule". People like you are the reason why do many kids can't handle basic functions like laundry or managing money when they leave for college, or otherwise fear everything about the world. Use a little common sense. Don't know the parents? Reach out to them, call, text, or whatever and find out the real story. If you feel weird about it, then say no. If it seems fine, then go for it.

And what's up with the basement phobia? Do you realize that most people have finished basements that are so tricked out that they are nicer than your house? OP's basement sounds awesome, would like to come to their Super Bowl party! I'm guessing I'll make it out alive.

Different poster-you sound naive. Kids approaching tweendom can have less common sense then their younger peers. You need to check in on them. It should not bother you this much if other people don't want to send a kid to a stranger's house and leave them unsupervised all night in the basement. You clearly have a different view, but I can tell you I would not anthologize someone and say they need a xanex because they are savvy to tween boys. My nephew had a situation where another kid tried to dare the kids to pull down their pants and underwear for youtube. This is considered child porn by the way.Luckily the mom walked in on this and sent the kids who participated home.

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Sorry pathologize not anthologize. Spell check corrected it wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We had a sleepover for DD's 9th bday. Overall it was fun but man they kept me hopping. I had seven girls aged 9-11. I thought they wouldn't be as high maintenance/needy as they were. It was a hectic night. They all slept like crap. There was one very dramatic kid (with a helicopter mother) that I wish hadn't been invited. I'd recommend making sure you don't have any of those invited.

I do think 7 kids is too many. Aim for 3-4. Maybe have one or two back up invites in case the first 3-4 can't come.

7 isn't too many when they are normal kids from normal families. The uptight families with anxious high maintenance kids are bad. The kids that come up to talk to the adults every 30min and tattle on other kids are THE WORST. You really have to know the kids and plan. And my rule is you get one call to say goodnight to parents if you want it. After that, if you are crying/homesick - mom/dad come pick you up. It is no big deal. It is one night. So many of these kids sadly have never been on sleepovers and are just not used to it. Parents are just too hovering or like other moms here, think it is "hell" to have kids over.

You will be the type to host high school coed sleepovers where the kids are raging drunk in your basement because you are the "cool" and normal mom.

There is a happy medium and you are not it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to check with the parents and see their schedules. We have sports in the AM so that would be an issue. Likewise, I wouldn't allow a sleepover to a house I've never been to nor do I know the parents. I also wouldn't want my child sleeping in a basement without an adult there.

You seem like you need Xanax. There have been lots of threads about parents fearing other parents they don't know who make some sort of blanket "no sleepover rule". People like you are the reason why do many kids can't handle basic functions like laundry or managing money when they leave for college, or otherwise fear everything about the world. Use a little common sense. Don't know the parents? Reach out to them, call, text, or whatever and find out the real story. If you feel weird about it, then say no. If it seems fine, then go for it.

And what's up with the basement phobia? Do you realize that most people have finished basements that are so tricked out that they are nicer than your house? OP's basement sounds awesome, would like to come to their Super Bowl party! I'm guessing I'll make it out alive.

Different poster-you sound naive. Kids approaching tweendom can have less common sense then their younger peers. You need to check in on them. It should not bother you this much if other people don't want to send a kid to a stranger's house and leave them unsupervised all night in the basement. You clearly have a different view, but I can tell you I would not anthologize someone and say they need a xanex because they are savvy to tween boys. My nephew had a situation where another kid tried to dare the kids to pull down their pants and underwear for youtube. This is considered child porn by the way.Luckily the mom walked in on this and sent the kids who participated home.

There is a real difference between checking in on them and staying in the basement the WHOLE NIGHT. And yes, things can happen at sleepovers but I find these blanket "sleepovers are bad" posts and the rationale behind them somewhat ridiculous.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel like you need to do a sleepover. Just have them hang out in the basement and serve cake. If you want to be even more generous-pizza and other food. Sleepvers can and do get wild even boy sleepovers and if you find a kid wild now, wait till he has too much sugar and not enough sleep. Plus, you need to check in on them now and then. That age is notorious for dares. My son went to one sleepover where a kid brought a lighter. That could have ended really horrifically if my son and several others didn't run and get an adult. It just takes one kid with poor judgment to do something really stupid.

That is WHY they are fun. Don't be such a drip

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I’m stuck on the size of your home and fantasizing about it. I posted on pg 1 about my loud daughter’s sleepovers but that I’m fine with my son’s. The girls keep me up because I can hear them. Our house is about 3400 sq ft. The best part about yours is I bet you could go somewhere far away and let them run wild and you wouldn’t hear a thing. Invite 10 but make sure they don’t have access to the bar. I wouldn’t trust my 11 yo’s friends all night near our alcohol.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh one more thing... as others said watch out for the electronics. At one party my daughter went to a girl wanted to put them all on Youtube. Also, no posting photos on IG to make others jealous.

They are 10yrs old. You can't have an IG account until 13yrs old minimum

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you feel like you need to do a sleepover. Just have them hang out in the basement and serve cake. If you want to be even more generous-pizza and other food. Sleepvers can and do get wild even boy sleepovers and if you find a kid wild now, wait till he has too much sugar and not enough sleep. Plus, you need to check in on them now and then. That age is notorious for dares. My son went to one sleepover where a kid brought a lighter. That could have ended really horrifically if my son and several others didn't run and get an adult. It just takes one kid with poor judgment to do something really stupid.

That is WHY they are fun. Don't be such a drip

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What is up with the overbearing moms these days. Jeez!