I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. Who's right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you able to get a part time job?

No, we have two young daughters.

[Anonymous]

Your “child” is in college. Get a job and send him your own money.

[Anonymous]

Do you have any discretionary money built into your budget?

If you want this and DH does not, cut back on your incidentals and send your son some money. Do your nails at home, wait longer to get haircuts, skip starbucks and you're set.

[Anonymous]

So teen from first marriage? You sure know how to pick ‘em.

Yeah your DH is sacrificing your sons academic chances by being petty. Part of college is building relationships, and generally that involves spendng money. Most kids won’t squander hours to scrape money together for buying pizza or dates, so that will be less time for him to study.

Tell DH he can tie the money to specific performance at school, like a 3.5 GPA or something but yeah he is being petty

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you able to get a part time job?

No, we have two young daughters.

Is this a second marriage?

Are the 2 girls your DH's daughters and the son is from a previous relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you able to get a part time job?

No, we have two young daughters.

Is this a second marriage?

Are the 2 girls your DH's daughters and the son is from a previous relationship?

Correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you able to get a part time job?

No, we have two young daughters.

Is this a second marriage?

Are the 2 girls your DH's daughters and the son is from a previous relationship?

Didn’t everyone get that from OP?

[Anonymous]

Where is your son’s father in all this? Are there any arrangements from your divorce about college?

[Anonymous]

Is your DH also paying for him to go to college? I am on his side, assuming there isn’t more to the story. If you want me to send him, you should figure out a way to earn it. A student in a dorm with a meal plan doesn’t need much spending money.

[Anonymous]

Does your dh control all the money in your relationship? I’m a SAH, but I have equal access to our money with dh. Your setup sounds problematic. In your shoes I would seriously consider going back to work. Some relationships aren’t cut out to have a SAH spouse. If your dh thinks he’s the final word on how money gets spent, then I’d suggest yours may not be well-suited to it.

[Anonymous]

Be grateful your husband is a single-earner paying for your son to go to college.

[Anonymous]

He can get a job. I worked all through college and I went to a very hard school.

He also needs a holiday job while he is home on break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He can get a job. I worked all through college and I went to a very hard school.

He also needs a holiday job while he is home on break.

FFS. The world is way more competitive now. Wasting time on a campus job for beer money is so short sighted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be grateful your husband is a single-earner paying for your son to go to college.

Now I didn’t see anywhere about who was paying for college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be grateful your husband is a single-earner paying for your son to go to college.

+1
Not to be harsh, but this.