Do normal parents check college child's grades...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, this is way too much, especially if you're considering tracking individual assignments and logging into your kid's portal! If you're paying for their college, I do think that gives you the right to ask about final grades though.

Well, if they're not doing the practice sets you can be pretty damn sure they're going to bomb midterms. Wouldn't you rather address that NOW before they fail a few courses first semester? Or if they're getting crummy p-set scores in math or stats, you could encourage a tutor.

As the mom of college grads, I'm astounded by this. They are adults. Are you planning to follow them to work to make sure they are keeping up?

[Anonymous]

Well, this sort of real time tech hasn't existed for very long. And college is now more than $20,000-45,000 per year these days. With 50% failing out.

[Anonymous]

They aren't "adults" until they are paying their own way. I am pay more than $70k for one student and $50 for another. I damn well am gong to have access to their grades--tracking their assignments, no but knowing that they are on track and not throwing my money down the toilet. Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They aren't "adults" until they are paying their own way. I am pay more than $70k for one student and $50 for another. I damn well am gong to have access to their grades--tracking their assignments, no but knowing that they are on track and not throwing my money down the toilet. Absolutely.

I’d hate to be your kid.

[Anonymous]

No, I don't log into his portal or check his grades. I don't read emails from the university sent to him. That is his business.

I do ask him how things are going and I am aware of his schedule and what classes he's taking. That way I don't text him during class.

I haven't asked to see his grades since he was a sophomore in HS. I did ask about his grades when he was a junior and when he told me that he was floundering in a class I got him a tutor and he was able to get A's in the class after that. He is well aware of tutoring centers, Professor's office hours, study groups and that if he ever needs a private tutor we will see what we can do to get him one.

I probably will ask about GPA/grades after each semester and I'll continue to ask what his schedule is because I'm interested in his life and what he's doing. Being a full time college student is a brand new experience for him and we're here to help and guide as best as we know how to. I'd rather he ask our guidance than learn things the hard way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew a smart boy in college who failed out and didn't tell his parents. He remained on campus (well, in the college's town) for at least a year, on their dime obviously, before they found out. I never understood how they didn't find out immediately, but guess it makes sense if so many parents never check grades/enrollment.

What if grades are awful? Why would you keep paying for their college if they're failing, getting Ws, and/or half-assing with 2.0s?

I can't believe parents wouldn't insist on knowing what their kids final grads are. I knew kids in college who failed out to the surprise of their parents. If you are spending $100,000 plus on their education, you are well within your right to make sure that they're maintaining g decent grades.

[Anonymous]

We have made it clear that grades must shared. We will have a talk after midterms and finals. He needs a respectable gap to continue in his major.

We wouldn't think of tracking with the portal.

[Anonymous]

We have kids that tell us their grades and give us all the codes for accessing things- we need most of them to pay the bills- but we usually stay on the finance side of things. We talk with them about the classes they are taking and offer advice when asked. Our kids are fairly late bloomers (those apples did not fall very far from the tree) and have needed more guidance and help than the normal student. They are both really good at the academics part, but later blooming of the social/life skills part. It has been wonderful to see them come out of their shell more in college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, this is way too much, especially if you're considering tracking individual assignments and logging into your kid's portal! If you're paying for their college, I do think that gives you the right to ask about final grades though.

Well, if they're not doing the practice sets you can be pretty damn sure they're going to bomb midterms. Wouldn't you rather address that NOW before they fail a few courses first semester? Or if they're getting crummy p-set scores in math or stats, you could encourage a tutor.

As the mom of college grads, I'm astounded by this. They are adults. Are you planning to follow them to work to make sure they are keeping up?

Oh come on. College students aren't "real" adults. You are paying for their colllege and most likely their living expenses. It's ridiculous to compare monitoring your college student's grades with following them to work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, this is way too much, especially if you're considering tracking individual assignments and logging into your kid's portal! If you're paying for their college, I do think that gives you the right to ask about final grades though.

Well, if they're not doing the practice sets you can be pretty damn sure they're going to bomb midterms. Wouldn't you rather address that NOW before they fail a few courses first semester? Or if they're getting crummy p-set scores in math or stats, you could encourage a tutor.

As the mom of college grads, I'm astounded by this. They are adults. Are you planning to follow them to work to make sure they are keeping up?

Oh come on. College students aren't "real" adults. You are paying for their colllege and most likely their living expenses. It's ridiculous to compare monitoring your college student's grades with following them to work.

Not that pp. But by the time they go off to college they really do need to do this stuff for themselves. You have absolutely zero control over whether or not they are doing their homework, going to study group, taking advantage of the tutoring center and/or professor's office hours. They are either self motivated to do this or they are not.

You sitting at home monitoring their grades and nagging them afar will accomplish nothing. I personally think that asking them about semester grades is o.k., as is asking them how they like their major and what their schedule is.

[Anonymous]

I am not even aware of what system is used to see grades. I have access to the one that shows the billing info etc but don't think that has grades. DS (freshman) knows we expect to hear about any issues as they come up rather the end of the semester. That's it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, this is way too much, especially if you're considering tracking individual assignments and logging into your kid's portal! If you're paying for their college, I do think that gives you the right to ask about final grades though.

Well, if they're not doing the practice sets you can be pretty damn sure they're going to bomb midterms. Wouldn't you rather address that NOW before they fail a few courses first semester? Or if they're getting crummy p-set scores in math or stats, you could encourage a tutor.

As the mom of college grads, I'm astounded by this. They are adults. Are you planning to follow them to work to make sure they are keeping up?

Oh come on. College students aren't "real" adults. You are paying for their colllege and most likely their living expenses. It's ridiculous to compare monitoring your college student's grades with following them to work.

Yes. They are adults. My kid is not some investment I expect a pay out on. He's an individual. I CHOOSE to pay his tuition. He chooses to use the money wisely (good grades) or not.

He gets one shot from me. I am not going to micro manage him or pay a second go around.

Time you let the "kids" figure it out and stop using money as a means to extend your control beyond its natural end point

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

I have access to my kids' college portals. Both have parent portals with unique logins where you can see your student's invoices and pay the bills, see class schedules, confirm scholarship and financial aid status, etc. Final grades and transcripts are there too, but not individual assignments. When my kids first went off to school, I spent some time checking out everything that was available, but now I pretty much just log in to handle the finances.

[Anonymous]

I have access to my college student's portal and could see her grades if I wanted to look at them. I have never looked at them, but I do log in to check on things like the tuition bill.

She knows she needs to maintain a 3.0 and based on the grades she does share with me, I don't have any reason to think she isn't doing that. I have no idea what her exact GPA is.