Should we buy a second car? It is complicated, WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

[Anonymous]

If you can afford 3 kids in DC, you can afford the second car.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

The topic is why you're keeping a car that doesn't work for your family, for no apparent reason. You're asking for our advice, when it turns out it's up to your DH and he won't sell either way. So what is the point of this thread again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

Fine. You keep your weird arrangement. He keeps his car in case he gets a different job at some point. You both buy a used minivan.

What other questions do you have/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

Stay on topic? The topic was should we sell our current car.

We said yes.

You said you can't sell it, your DH won't allow you to sell it. It's his money, not yours.

Then you accused us of getting off topic.

[Anonymous]

OP, the obvious answer if for you and your rooma . . . err, husband to get a used minivan or small third row SUV. I believe the smallest is the Hyundai Santa Fe - a used one probably can be had for the mid 20ks.

[Anonymous]

Can I live in your world where $6-$7,000 is "not much money."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

Stay on topic? The topic was should we sell our current car.

We said yes.

You said you can't sell it, your DH won't allow you to sell it. It's his money, not yours.

Then you accused us of getting off topic.

Actually, that isn't true. The question was should they buy a second car. OP never suggested that they'd sell the first, and specifically indicated they didn't want to.

It may be ridiculous, but you *are* getting off topic (and got huffy when called on it, which makes you . . . I don't know what. But it isn't good.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

+1

Stay on topic? The topic was should we sell our current car.

We said yes.

You said you can't sell it, your DH won't allow you to sell it. It's his money, not yours.

Then you accused us of getting off topic.

Actually, that isn't true. The question was should they buy a second car. OP never suggested that they'd sell the first, and specifically indicated they didn't want to.

It may be ridiculous, but you *are* getting off topic (and got huffy when called on it, which makes you . . . I don't know what. But it isn't good.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why can’t you get the bigger car and get rid of the small car?

OP here:
1) We are worried that as soon we will get rid of it, our situation may change (maybe a new job or whatever) and we will be in the market for a second car, that would be a pity
2) Also DH bought the small car before we got married so any money he gets from it will not go toward the new car and he doesn't think we will get much money (maybe $6-7K) for it so he is not much interested in selling it.

DH here. WTF is this? What kind of weird arrangement do you have?

Is he married to you or not?

OP here, He didn't ask for it, but I would let him keep that money, yeah that is what works for us (we both kept what we had before we got married, that is what works for us), no complaint here, my point was it doesn't make the new car cheaper and he doesn't care about selling it anyway. Let please stay on topic, thanks

Stay on topic? The topic was should we sell our current car.

We said yes.

You said you can't sell it, your DH won't allow you to sell it. It's his money, not yours.

Then you accused us of getting off topic.

Actually, that isn't true. The question was should they buy a second car. OP never suggested that they'd sell the first, and specifically indicated they didn't want to.

It may be ridiculous, but you *are* getting off topic (and got huffy when called on it, which makes you . . . I don't know what. But it isn't good.)

+1

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP, you and your arrangement are a little bit weird. Your asking normal people for advice. I don't think you will get what you're looking for

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you not see that the most logical option is to trade in your current car for a used minivan?

Who gives a shit what the particular model that you really like is new? If you don't want to spend $36k for a car that will be barely used (and I agree that you shouldn't) then don't try to claim the excuse that it's the only model to suit your needs. Minivans have been around since 1984.

+1

[Anonymous]

you have to admit it is kind of crazy. Essentially OP is saying “We have a car that no longer fits our needs but we won’t part with it and only want a second car, which we won’t use very often, if it is perfect. Oh yeah, even if we did sell the first car we won’t put any of the funds toward a larger car even though we don’t think cars are a priority and a second car is too expensive.”

There is no logic which is why commenters are confused. I would love to see the responses if this was posted on the money and finance board!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, you and your arrangement are a little bit weird. Your asking normal people for advice. I don't think you will get what you're looking for

+1 Particularly given the DH bikes to work, the fact that he doesn't want to sell a car that is on the verge of being 95% useless for his lifestyle, instead of just 80% useless, makes no sense. I'll ignore the "he won't share the money with us" angle, because those waters are too murky for me.

[Anonymous]

None of your reasons for keeping your current car make any sense. Sell it and buy a minivan. Done.