I’m dating my (ex) professor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Quite an age gap. sounds like quite a standard deviation though.

Now you’re just being mean.

[Anonymous]

My parents. There was a much smaller age gap though and my mom had to work to get him to agree to a date. Happily married 45 years.

I’d be a bit wary though if he has any previous history of dating students though.

[Anonymous]

The age difference is good, as I personally think that men should date and marry women who are 10-12 years younger than them. Have fun. But in terms of long term marriage potential, college professors will always have the temptation of younger students who admire them. As another poster said, make sure that he does make a habit of dating his students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The age difference is good, as I personally think that men should date and marry women who are 10-12 years younger than them. Have fun. But in terms of long term marriage potential, college professors will always have the temptation of younger students who admire them. As another poster said, make sure that he does NOT make a habit of dating his students.

[Anonymous]

Have you graduated? If so, then go for it

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's inappropriate and I don't think I'd be embarrassed either. What's wrong with saying "actually he was my professor my junior year, but we ran into each other recently at Starbucks and got to talking" ??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The age difference is good, as I personally think that men should date and marry women who are 10-12 years younger than them. Have fun. But in terms of long term marriage potential, college professors will always have the temptation of younger students who admire them. As another poster said, make sure that he does make a habit of dating his students.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Op here. And I graduated in 2017. And he has never dated a student. His ex’s all were either classmates or women he met somewhere else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's inappropriate and I don't think I'd be embarrassed either. What's wrong with saying "actually he was my professor my junior year, but we ran into each other recently at Starbucks and got to talking" ??

I don’t want people to think we had a relationship when I was his student and then they’ll think I only did it to get a grade.

[Anonymous]

I did it--I was the professor and he was a student at the school where I was no longer teaching (for other reasons). We had fun together for many months. My closest professor from grad school married a grad student from another program at the same school. They are very old now. I don't know the details but it does happen more than you think. I wouldn't worry about it. You are still very young and it can be enriching to be with an older person as long as they follow Dan Savage's campsite rule.

[Anonymous]

The problem with being 23 is that a lot of the guys your age are too immature or not wanting to be in a relationship. But the guys in their early thirties who go out with women in their early to mid twenties....eh, in my experience a lot of times those guys are scuzzy and immature too.

That's a big age gap. Do you want to be fifty when he is sixty? It matters a lot. You'll take care of him and then likely wind up being old and alone yourself after playing nurse maid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The age difference is good, as I personally think that men should date and marry women who are 10-12 years younger than them. Have fun. But in terms of long term marriage potential, college professors will always have the temptation of younger students who admire them. As another poster said, make sure that he does make a habit of dating his students.

That’s silly. Men tend to die younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The age difference is good, as I personally think that men should date and marry women who are 10-12 years younger than them. Have fun. But in terms of long term marriage potential, college professors will always have the temptation of younger students who admire them. As another poster said, make sure that he does make a habit of dating his students.

That’s silly. Men tend to die younger.

Sure. But this way we die happier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would a psych prof teach a stats class?

Are you such a dumbass? Psych is a very stats-heavy discipline.

One is a "dumbass" for not knowing that? Ok then ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with being 23 is that a lot of the guys your age are too immature or not wanting to be in a relationship. But the guys in their early thirties who go out with women in their early to mid twenties....eh, in my experience a lot of times those guys are scuzzy and immature too.

That's a big age gap. Do you want to be fifty when he is sixty? It matters a lot. You'll take care of him and then likely wind up being old and alone yourself after playing nurse maid.

Op here and to be quite honest I don’t even feel like 9 years is a lot. How do you know he won’t be taking care of me? It happened to my aunt and her husband. She got Alzheimer’s and she was 10 years younger than her husband.