Settle a disagreement between DH and me

[Anonymous]

And if he’s acknowledging that most of the time in there is just for reading then he doesn’t get to hog the bathroom from people that legit need to use it.

[Anonymous]

Wow, he sounds super indulgent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do men take so long to poop? I literally go in, sit down, and thirty seconds later I’m done. Honestly peeing took longer when I was pregnant.

OP here. My understanding from DH is that it’s like 2 minutes pooping and 18-28 minutes sitting in peace and quiet. I sympathize with the need for peace and quiet and don’t relate to the bathroom venue for it, but DH assured me that it wasn’t a medical issue, which was how I framed it initially.

Just FYI, my DH and I had a big fight about this issue after our second child was born. I don’t think he fully understood the level of rage that I was experiencing that he would just randomly disappear and take a break. I told him that he either had to stop this and admit that he was skipping out on the family or go to the doctor. It isn’t like he couldn’t take a break, but it really disrupt things when he would just decide to randomly go poop.

We finally agreed no more than 10-15 minutes, and I don’t hesitate to text him if he is dawdling.

For the record, I poop at work, and it isn’t some long production.

[Anonymous]

No parking on the toilet. Shit and then get off the pot. DH is totally wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No parking on the toilet. Shit and then get off the pot. DH is totally wrong.

Literally this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do men take so long to poop? I literally go in, sit down, and thirty seconds later I’m done. Honestly peeing took longer when I was pregnant.

OP here. My understanding from DH is that it’s like 2 minutes pooping and 18-28 minutes sitting in peace and quiet. I sympathize with the need for peace and quiet and don’t relate to the bathroom venue for it, but DH assured me that it wasn’t a medical issue, which was how I framed it initially.

Just FYI, my DH and I had a big fight about this issue after our second child was born. I don’t think he fully understood the level of rage that I was experiencing that he would just randomly disappear and take a break. I told him that he either had to stop this and admit that he was skipping out on the family or go to the doctor. It isn’t like he couldn’t take a break, but it really disrupt things when he would just decide to randomly go poop.

We finally agreed no more than 10-15 minutes, and I don’t hesitate to text him if he is dawdling.

For the record, I poop at work, and it isn’t some long production.

Omg this is us, except I haven’t been able to get him to agree to go quicker. It’s a joke even in his own family how long he takes. Occasionally I get raging mad (when I’m dealing with toddler all alone and he decides to randomly disappear for half an hour), then he’ll take shorter breaks for a day or two before going back to normal.

[Anonymous]

I know what this idiot is thinking: anyone that needs to dump can walk down to the local gas station or 7/11 and dump there when he's busy.

[Anonymous]

All the speedy bathroom people, why can't you do all your deeds first and let us, slow bathroom people, in peace. If you can do it fast and insist on doing it fast, then, please, go fast, why do you need to wait till we get in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the speedy bathroom people, why can't you do all your deeds first and let us, slow bathroom people, in peace. If you can do it fast and insist on doing it fast, then, please, go fast, why do you need to wait till we get in?

OP here. I can hold it. The issue is that DD, who is 6, can’t hold it and also doesn’t always know when she will need to go. Would it be good to learn those skills? Of course, and she will, but at the moment, she’s 6 and waiting 20+ minutes to use the bathroom because an adult is taking a long poop or hanging out by himself is not a reasonable expectation. Being snippy with her when she knocks after waiting the 5 minutes she’s able to wait is equally unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Is there a gas station with bathroom nearby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And if he’s acknowledging that most of the time in there is just for reading then he doesn’t get to hog the bathroom from people that legit need to use it.

Plus one. You have a toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And if he’s acknowledging that most of the time in there is just for reading then he doesn’t get to hog the bathroom from people that legit need to use it.

Plus one. You have a toddler.

OP to be clear. DD is 6. Other DD is 9 months and doesn’t need the bathroom for anything other than baths.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the speedy bathroom people, why can't you do all your deeds first and let us, slow bathroom people, in peace. If you can do it fast and insist on doing it fast, then, please, go fast, why do you need to wait till we get in?

OP here. I can hold it. The issue is that DD, who is 6, can’t hold it and also doesn’t always know when she will need to go. Would it be good to learn those skills? Of course, and she will, but at the moment, she’s 6 and waiting 20+ minutes to use the bathroom because an adult is taking a long poop or hanging out by himself is not a reasonable expectation. Being snippy with her when she knocks after waiting the 5 minutes she’s able to wait is equally unreasonable.

My family traveled a lot when I was little. Number one rule was "if there is a bathroom, you go". 6yo can wake up and go to the bathroom. It's not like it's a middle of the day emergency. As I understand it's not a health issue that is not easily solvable, how does she manage in school? Why are you all awake at the same time?

[Anonymous]

Your 6 yo should be able to hold it for 20 minutes. Does she have a lot of accidents at school?

But your DH is being an ass. Mine takes forever too but my kids are a little older. I send the kids in if they want to go. He can “pause” his reading.

[Anonymous]

I's send his ass down the road to the local gas station.