Settle a disagreement between DH and me

[Anonymous]

Wow your DH is selfish. Tell him to crap and get out and play in the Internet later. He needs to grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All the speedy bathroom people, why can't you do all your deeds first and let us, slow bathroom people, in peace. If you can do it fast and insist on doing it fast, then, please, go fast, why do you need to wait till we get in?

OP here. I can hold it. The issue is that DD, who is 6, can’t hold it and also doesn’t always know when she will need to go. Would it be good to learn those skills? Of course, and she will, but at the moment, she’s 6 and waiting 20+ minutes to use the bathroom because an adult is taking a long poop or hanging out by himself is not a reasonable expectation. Being snippy with her when she knocks after waiting the 5 minutes she’s able to wait is equally unreasonable.

My family traveled a lot when I was little. Number one rule was "if there is a bathroom, you go". 6yo can wake up and go to the bathroom. It's not like it's a middle of the day emergency. As I understand it's not a health issue that is not easily solvable, how does she manage in school? Why are you all awake at the same time?

Aren't most people awake at the same time? What are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the speedy bathroom people, why can't you do all your deeds first and let us, slow bathroom people, in peace. If you can do it fast and insist on doing it fast, then, please, go fast, why do you need to wait till we get in?

OP here. I can hold it. The issue is that DD, who is 6, can’t hold it and also doesn’t always know when she will need to go. Would it be good to learn those skills? Of course, and she will, but at the moment, she’s 6 and waiting 20+ minutes to use the bathroom because an adult is taking a long poop or hanging out by himself is not a reasonable expectation. Being snippy with her when she knocks after waiting the 5 minutes she’s able to wait is equally unreasonable.

My family traveled a lot when I was little. Number one rule was "if there is a bathroom, you go". 6yo can wake up and go to the bathroom. It's not like it's a middle of the day emergency. As I understand it's not a health issue that is not easily solvable, how does she manage in school? Why are you all awake at the same time?

Aren't most people awake at the same time? What are you talking about?

My DH is asleep when kids and I leave the house. So, no, not everyone is awake at the same time. Actually, the oldest leave before anyone is awake.

[Anonymous]

New rule. No phones or books in the bathroom. It’s gross in there. See if it still takes him that long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New rule. No phones or books in the bathroom. It’s gross in there. See if it still takes him that long.

Good one. Why is your bathroom gross?

[Anonymous]

If there's only one bathroom and everyone needs to use it in the morning, no one gets to monopolize it for 30 mins. This is just being a good roommate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:His time in bathroom is his time, not yours to micromanage.

Disagree. He’s hogging a limited resource. He is part of a family and needs to share. He can find alone time in another part of the house that doesn’t cut off others’ needs to relieve themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:His time in bathroom is his time, not yours to micromanage.

Disagree. He’s hogging a limited resource. He is part of a family and needs to share. He can find alone time in another part of the house that doesn’t cut off others’ needs to relieve themselves.

Exactly. Put on headphones for 30 minutes with the rule that nobody bugs Daddy when he's got the morning headphone thing going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are right.

+1
I know someone who pooped her pants because her DH took too long in the bathroom

[Anonymous]

Why did you marry and procreate with a lazy man baby?

[Anonymous]

I agree with posters who are saying this is an excessive amount of time to hog the bathroom when there is only ONE bathroom. AND with posters who say he may need his 20-25 minutes "quiet time" in the morning.

The thing is though, when you're a parent, sometimes you have to carve out that 20-25 minutes BEFORE the kids wake up! If that means he needs to set his alarm for 5:30 to go in the bathroom for his alone time...well then there ya go! Oh wait...his sleep is more valuable to him than his alone time? Okay--well we all make choices. And sometimes we can't have EVERYTHING we want.

If he really needs to have quiet time every morning away from everyone (that you don't get, by the way, OP!)...then he can have that in one of the bedrooms while you and your two children are in the other ares of the house.

[Anonymous]

Maybe educate him on hemorrhoids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you marry and procreate with a lazy man baby?

Did he wants children? What happens when baby #3 is older? You will have your hands full, for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe educate him on hemorrhoids

Forcing to go fast is much worse than relaxing and letting it go.

[Anonymous]

My husband is the same! We have a half bathroom as well so itms not a big issue... unless we have parents visiting. We also keep a potty in the kids’ room just in case (my kids are younger 4.5 and 2.5)