S/O Resentment by Men of Easier Access to Sex by Women

[Anonymous]

The op must be new here.

Haven't you seen the countless threads on husbands who don't want sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's easier to find a random guy to sleep with as a woman. It's much, much harder to find a random guy that will get you off from a ONS (without your assistance), let alone one that will give you a multi-orgasmic encounter.

Men really do have to learn your body. Each one is different.

#3 I agree with this. Most men suck in bed and most think they are great/good when they aren't. Even when they know how, many won't put in the effort. Men are selfish or clueless or both when it comes to sex

I don't agree that most men suck in bed. I think it takes practice with your partner to make sure you are working well together, and then you have to care for that person to want to give them what they want need. Lack of care is not exclusive to men. The difference is that it is *usually* easier for men to get off than women, and even if the woman doesn't care, and puts in no effort her partner is likely to come. The same can't be said for most women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was a recent post I'm thinking of, but this is a recurring theme -- it seems a lot of misogyny flows from male resentment of easier access to sex by women. Men have a strong desire for sex and often feel like they have to move heaven and earth to have sex with a woman. Meanwhile, from their perspective, women have to do much less work to get a man to have sex with them and seem to take that advantage for granted.

I wonder how women perceive that issue:

1) The disparity doesn't exist.
2) The disparity does exist, but the benefit is trivial. Sex isn't that important.
3) It's a nice advantage, but it doesn't come anywhere close to offsetting all of the other disadvantages women have.
4) Something else.

Just from some of the discussions I see around here, the injustice of it all is obviously a source of emotional turbulence to some men while women often shrug it off as unimportant.

Well it seems a lot of misandry “flows” from women being rejected(one way or the other) by men. It is so bizarre that women quickly and loudly point out everything that is wrong with men while doing the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was a recent post I'm thinking of, but this is a recurring theme -- it seems a lot of misogyny flows from male resentment of easier access to sex by women. Men have a strong desire for sex and often feel like they have to move heaven and earth to have sex with a woman. Meanwhile, from their perspective, women have to do much less work to get a man to have sex with them and seem to take that advantage for granted.

I wonder how women perceive that issue:

1) The disparity doesn't exist.
2) The disparity does exist, but the benefit is trivial. Sex isn't that important.
3) It's a nice advantage, but it doesn't come anywhere close to offsetting all of the other disadvantages women have.
4) Something else.

Just from some of the discussions I see around here, the injustice of it all is obviously a source of emotional turbulence to some men while women often shrug it off as unimportant.

Well it seems a lot of misandry “flows” from women being rejected(one way or the other) by men. It is so bizarre that women quickly and loudly point out everything that is wrong with men while doing the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's easier to find a random guy to sleep with as a woman. It's much, much harder to find a random guy that will get you off from a ONS (without your assistance), let alone one that will give you a multi-orgasmic encounter.

Men really do have to learn your body. Each one is different.

#3 I agree with this. Most men suck in bed and most think they are great/good when they aren't. Even when they know how, many won't put in the effort. Men are selfish or clueless or both when it comes to sex

I don't agree that most men suck in bed. I think it takes practice with your partner to make sure you are working well together, and then you have to care for that person to want to give them what they want need. Lack of care is not exclusive to men. The difference is that it is *usually* easier for men to get off than women, and even if the woman doesn't care, and puts in no effort her partner is likely to come. The same can't be said for most women.

I disagree. When you have sex with a man who is good, you realize the difference. Fortunately, it has happened twice for me, really skilled lovers.

[Anonymous]

If single, of course it's easier for a woman to have sex than a man as all we need to do is whistle. The question is good sex. Give a man a HJ and a BJ and then PIV and he will be very happy. For a guy to really get me off takes some coaching and, as with driving, most men aren't good at asking for or taking direction. I can't speak for married people.

[Anonymous]

Female here. I agree that women have easier access, even if they choose not to use it. There are also many things men are better at than women. One thing that frustrates me is that no matter how much I work out and train, I will never be as strong and athletic as a man. I don't go around hating men because of it. Instead I continue training and recognize that while I can't be the best, I can be better than many people and I can be at a level where I can function in life. I guess it's like, no matter how much I train in a sport, I will never be as good as a man who trains as much as I do, but I can be better than most of the men out there who don't train. I can also be strong enough to function in day-to-day life so that I don't need a guy to help me. If that makes sense.

Also, my own DH would find it strange that men have to move heaven and earth to get laid. He never had any trouble with it. I think partially because he didn't actively pursue it, and partially because he works out a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female here. I agree that women have easier access, even if they choose not to use it. There are also many things men are better at than women. One thing that frustrates me is that no matter how much I work out and train, I will never be as strong and athletic as a man. I don't go around hating men because of it. Instead I continue training and recognize that while I can't be the best, I can be better than many people and I can be at a level where I can function in life. I guess it's like, no matter how much I train in a sport, I will never be as good as a man who trains as much as I do, but I can be better than most of the men out there who don't train. I can also be strong enough to function in day-to-day life so that I don't need a guy to help me. If that makes sense.

It doesn't, thanks for asking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Also, my own DH would find it strange that men have to move heaven and earth to get laid. He never had any trouble with it. I think partially because he didn't actively pursue it, and partially because he works out a lot.

Your DH sounds low T, low energy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If single, of course it's easier for a woman to have sex than a man as all we need to do is whistle. The question is good sex. Give a man a HJ and a BJ and then PIV and he will be very happy. For a guy to really get me off takes some coaching and, as with driving, most men aren't good at asking for or taking direction. I can't speak for married people.

LOL! I'm married and I did all of the above to my DH last night and he was very happy. I was happy too as I have him well trained.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Female here. I agree that women have easier access, even if they choose not to use it. There are also many things men are better at than women. One thing that frustrates me is that no matter how much I work out and train, I will never be as strong and athletic as a man. I don't go around hating men because of it. Instead I continue training and recognize that while I can't be the best, I can be better than many people and I can be at a level where I can function in life. I guess it's like, no matter how much I train in a sport, I will never be as good as a man who trains as much as I do, but I can be better than most of the men out there who don't train. I can also be strong enough to function in day-to-day life so that I don't need a guy to help me. If that makes sense.

It doesn't, thanks for asking.

Sorry if it didn't. My point is, you can either play the victim, or you can focus your energy into improving your own situation. I can understand why a guy would complain about not getting laid but the result is more negative energy, which means even less chance of sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's easier to find a random guy to sleep with as a woman. It's much, much harder to find a random guy that will get you off from a ONS (without your assistance), let alone one that will give you a multi-orgasmic encounter.

Men really do have to learn your body. Each one is different.

#3 I agree with this. Most men suck in bed and most think they are great/good when they aren't. Even when they know how, many won't put in the effort. Men are selfish or clueless or both when it comes to sex

I don't agree that most men suck in bed. I think it takes practice with your partner to make sure you are working well together, and then you have to care for that person to want to give them what they want need. Lack of care is not exclusive to men. The difference is that it is *usually* easier for men to get off than women, and even if the woman doesn't care, and puts in no effort her partner is likely to come. The same can't be said for most women.

I disagree. When you have sex with a man who is good, you realize the difference. Fortunately, it has happened twice for me, really skilled lovers.

What makes a guy great in bed?

[Anonymous]

Any man who resents women as a group for having "easier access" to sex is a loser. QED.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Also, my own DH would find it strange that men have to move heaven and earth to get laid. He never had any trouble with it. I think partially because he didn't actively pursue it, and partially because he works out a lot.

Your DH sounds low T, low energy

NP.

If guys that work out a lot and get laid without even trying are "low T, low energy," heaven help the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If single, of course it's easier for a woman to have sex than a man as all we need to do is whistle. The question is good sex. Give a man a HJ and a BJ and then PIV and he will be very happy. For a guy to really get me off takes some coaching and, as with driving, most men aren't good at asking for or taking direction. I can't speak for married people.

I've never met a man who didn't enjoy the "Trifecta".